- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
Hi Im 26 years old and have been married to my partner who is 28 for 10 months. We lived togther for a year and a half before getting married and are still renting together and saving to buy a house.
for the last 3 months we have been having BIG problems. We havent had sexual contact for 3 months and we rarely hug or kiss or lay together on the lounge anymore. he is obsessed with sport he watches all kinds of sports and enters lots of fantasy comps which he does all this research for and if his not watching it his reading about it in set magazines or listening to it on the radio or watching fox sports news. he also bets occasionally and comes from a family that is also addicted to sport. His best friend is a professional gambler and my husband has thias new idea that will eventually work for his best mate.
we have discussed that its not working alot and have supposed to be working on it but nothing changes. He now sleeps on the couch because he is watching sport late at night or becuase his sick and on the weekends he will stay at his best mates house alot as well.
the other big problem is he controls all our money, we have seperte accounts but once i get paid (we earn about the same ammount), he transfers the money to his account which is supposed to be our savings and leaves me with my set ammount of money for spending and petrol and groceries, i only get 100 a week to spend and he says i cant control my own money becuase he doesnt trust me to still save.
I said I would like to have control of my money and still save but have a say in how much i save and he lost it and told me that whats the point of being married than and walked out. He came back later and said his moving into the spare room for the last 8 weeks of our lease and than we can go seperate ways becuase he wants to make something of his life and I dont.
im so upset and emotionally exhausted. So much of me has given up and thinks its too late and if his so controlling over this and cant give up any of the sport watching than how will it ever work. I dont know what else to do??? PLEASE GIVE ME SOME ADVICE