Post # 1
I am getting married in Palm Beach Gardens, Florida and I am trying to find a church that will accomodate me after 2 pm on a Saturday. I do not want my guests having to waiting from 3 until the cocktail hour at 6!!! The churches have been very strict in all of their rules and I can not seem to find one that is accomodating with times. Any suggestions?
Post # 3
Usually they can’t go any later because of Saturday evening Mass. They need enough time to clean up after the wedding, and allow the wedding party time for photos. It’s not likely you’ll have much luck. The “Catholic Gap” is pretty common and expected.
Post # 4
We are getting married at 11am and the reception is right after from 12:30 until 3:30 Have you considered having an afternoon reception? We are doing an English Afternoon Tea reception. Just a thought for you.
Post # 5
Agree with christinamarie980: the issue is most likely Saturday Night Mass which for many churches happens around 5 PM
It sucks, but “the gap” is indeed a fact of life for many Catholic Couples…
That or think outside the box, and as mrsrigsby60: has suggested and look at other possible times / types of Receptions
There are cetainly BONUSES to having an non-evening Reception… first and foremost it will be cheaper, either because it won’t go so long, be so elaborate / formal… and many Vendors will charge a lot less for their services in the lesser popular days / timeframes
The other great thing, is you can start you Honeymoon earlier… and either get a flight right away… or not be nearly as exhausted as you would have been if you had been up partying day and night with a late Afternoon Wedding & Night-long Reception
Post # 6
@This Time Round: +1 You just listed some of the resaons we are doing it,plus I like being different and I’m on the Altar Guild at church so I know how hard setting up for weddings can be 🙂
Post # 7
The Catholic Church we are getting married in does two ceremonies a day – one at 1pm and the other at 6, and there is Mass in between. We chose 1pm, because we thought 6 would be a bit awkward – would guests eat before and not be hungry for the actual reception? Would they not eat and be starving and waiting for dinner? Anyway, just wanted to let you know that there are SOME churches that do this. Good luck!
Post # 8
@mrsrigsby60: I second the daytime reception idea! I think waiting around for three hours for a reception to start sounds ridiculous, so a different time may work better for you 🙂
We’re having an afternoon tea reception which is cheaper in a lot of ways than a dinner or lunchtime reception – less alcohol, and the food is more of a cocktail/hors d’eouvres/dessert type meal. It also makes it a little more casual and gives everyone a chance to mingle, which is handy!
Post # 9
We got married at 1:30 PM and had out reception after. When we were leaving, Mass was about to get out, so we had to scurry to not be stuck in traffic in the parking lot! As it was, the people who snuck out right after Communion were coming out as we left and were wondering what was going on next door!
We had to get up pretty early to get ready, but our day was wonderful! We were married, had our reception–which was heavy hors d’oeuvres so it was less expensive than serving a full meal, which would have been needed for a later reception (since our guests would have been in the church for Mass during dinner!), and we were able to go out for drinks and dinner with our friends who had come into town for the wedding before departing for the wedding night/honeymoon.
Post # 10
Could you have your ceremony after the Sat. PM mass? That’s what we’re doing. Our church offered us 6 PM.
Post # 11
Can you not bring cocktail hour earlier?
We’re getting married at 2pm and then drinks and canapes from 3.30-5ish, then speeches, cake cutting, and dinner at 6pm-ish. Dancing starts around 8….
And our ceremony is LATE! In the UK ceremonies are usually at around 11am/12pm and the whole thing goes on until MIDNIGHT! 🙂
Post # 12
We are having our wedding ceremony at 2:30 and the cocktail hour from 4:30-5:30 and then the reception from 5:30-9:30. Since we’re getting married in downtown Atlanta, most of our guests can go out after our reception and exlpore the nightlife downtown.
Post # 13
I seem to be the only bee avoiding the ‘catholic gap’
our wedding is at 6pm in a chapel that doesnt do regular mass (so no priest attached) so there is no conflict there. The priest that we invited for our wedding is from a church which has other priests, so if one isn’t available, the other ‘covers’ the mass at the church.
Absolutely perfect, mass 6-7 then straight to reception for dinner and dancing
Post # 14
The Catholic gap is presenting problems for me as well. All the churches around here have Sat evening mass at 4:00pm. Many of the churches only give 2 options for a ceremony: 11:00am (which is way too early) or 6:30pm (which is way too late). Ugh. It sucks that you’re going through this but it’s pretty standard
Post # 15
That’s why we’re having ours on Friday night. lol. Silly catholic gap – always getting in the way.
Post # 16
@newname_99: That’s why we are having our wedding at 11am and reception from 12:30-3:30pm we are avoiding the gap as well.
@LilliePad: Why is 11 am too early?