(Closed) Marriage in a Church

posted 7 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

My fiance and I are both Catholic so this is not a problem for us… however, you can definitely still get married in the church even if you aren’t both Catholic.  Both spouses must just be baptized CHRISTIAN.  Regardless of his current beliefs, if your fiance was baptized in the Protestant church, you should not have a problem marrying in the Catholic church.  They would probably recommend that you just do the ceremony in the  church and not have a full mass along with it though since your fiance and most likely his side of the family would not be able to participate in communion.  Your best bet would be to go check with a priest at your church =)

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Fallicious1012: At the churches I’ve been involved with, only one person has to be a practicing Catholic in good standing. Your best bet is to schedule a meeting with your parish priest. My church requires at least 6 months notice, so be sure to start this process as soon as you can.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My fiance is Catholic and I am not. We are being married in a Catholic church by a Catholic priest. 

It totally depends on the parish. The one where we will be married is very relaxed about these sorts of things. Just contact the priest/church where you want to be married and ask their guidance.

Good luck!

Post # 6
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Helper bee

@calypso0712: No.  As long as one is baptized Catholic, it doesn’t matter if the other has never been baptised.  The priest has to fill out a bit of paperwork, but it’s become extremely common and it happens all the time.  This was the case with my parents.

ETA: Also, if you want to raise your kids Catholic you have to get married IN a Catholic Church.  Otherwise, your marriage won’t be recognized by the Church and you will be seen as “living in sin”.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

It all depends on how conservative the particular church and/or priest is.

My fiance was raised Catholic, I was raised UU, my mom is UU and my dad is Episcopalian – so we said screw it – our officiant is a Jewish Cantor.  Haha 🙂

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Fallicious1012: You’d need to have a convalidation of your marriage, which means that the Catholic Church would recognize it as valid. Again, your best bet is to speak with a priest about this. Catholic ceremonies have to be held in churches. I’ve never heard of a single Catholic being allowed to write their own vows. My church even discourages a unity candle because it is not a traditional part of the Catholic marraige sacrament.

But you also need to be a practicing Catholic if you want a Catholic mass. So perhaps your best bet is to make church appearences and then schedule a meeting with the priest to go over your options.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Ok I’m not Catholic but Fiance is. We’re not getting married in a church for our own personal reasons. I’ve done tons and tons of research so that we would be ok for later on once we decide to have kids and in the case that he wants to baptise them. We are having a civil ceremony which will be followed by a church blessing (eventually, it’s his job and he’s done nothing).

If you want your marriage to be recognized by the church you will need to be married in a church. I don’t know of any Catholics who have been married outside of a church and had it recognized. I have had friends who have married outside of the church in a civil ceremony and they still baptized their children. As far as I understand it as long as one parent is a Catholic and wants their child to grow up in the Catholic religion then you can do so. I would still check with your parish since they’ll be able to give you the best answers.

ETA: And yes, no changes can be made to the vows, they must be the ones that the church wants you to use. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Each catholic church (and infact each church in general) has different views on this. My family’s catholic church was willingfor us to bemarried there even though I never attended or baptized and my partner being baptized in a uniting church.

 

We have opted to be married in an Anglican church due to my partners falling out with the uniting church and my love of the old style building this church is in but they do not require us to do lessons, be baptized or attend church for a period of time. All that is needeIsis one meeting with the priest (literally was 30 minutes long) andpatterns one Sunday for the reading of the bans

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Yes!  My mom is Catholic and Dad Lutheran…  and they were married in my mom’s church, and this was over 30 years ago…  If I am not mistaken you have to still do the premarital counciling and promise to raise your children in the catholic church (or at least that is how it is in our area) 

ALSO… the Catholics churches in our area are pretty stick about where you can get married (a church, specifically YOUR church… My sister’s friend was trying to have hers at a chapel pit at a boyscout camp…  they said NO!  in a church… YOUR church!) So before looking at venues talk to your church and get that straightened out before you make an expensive down payment….  

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