Relationships in general are not always easy. My Fiance and I have been together for almost 3.5 years (holy crap, that still shocks me), we’ve lived together for 2.5 years, and we’re getting married in a little under 2 months.
Here’s a short breakdown of our relationship:
Year 1 (July 2012-July 2013): Everything is awesome! We get along great! His parents are super nice!
Year 2 (July 2013-July 2014): (We have moved in together) We spent most of the time driving each other crazy and screaming at each other, mixed with some of the “everything is awesome” stuff.
Year 3 (July 2014-July 2015): We’ve gotten better at resolving disagreements through discussion, rather than screaming at each other. We still drive each other up the wall. We lived with his parents over the summer of 2014 because of when one lease ended and one began, and that was very challenging. Screaming still occasionally happens. This was also the period in which we got engaged.
Year 4 (July 2015-present): We’re only partway through our 4th year as a couple. We’re a lot better at communicating, and we both make an effort to calmly explain frustrations. Screaming still occasionally happens, we still drive each other insane, but we’re very happy together regardless.
Maintaining a healthy relationship is a lot of work. There have been moments where I’ve wondered what it would be like if we broke up, but then I realize I’d rather work through the problems, because for better or for worse, life is better with him as my partner, even when we fight.
And, in regard to all the mentions of “intimacy” – we don’t have actual sex, even though we live together. We do other things, though frequency tends to plummet with school, but we don’t have sex. He’s waiting for marriage. (My ship has sailed, been shot with a cannon, and sunk.)