(Closed) Marriage + kids timelines?

posted 4 years ago in Babies
  • poll: whats your respective timeline?
    Marriage first, kids asap : (52 votes)
    22 %
    Whatever happens first (kids or marriage) : (10 votes)
    4 %
    Marriage but no kids : (18 votes)
    8 %
    kids first, marriage later : (2 votes)
    1 %
    Marriage first, wait, then have kids : (151 votes)
    65 %
  • Post # 46
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    176 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I’m not religious but I always wanted to be married before having kids. We didn’t really have a timeframe for starting a family as such. A family friend asked me before I got married did I plan on starting a family straight after I got married and I had said to her no I want to finish uni first. Well as soon as we got married baby fever hit! It didn’t help everyone started asking us when we were going to have kids. We’ve been married 7 months now and are on month 2 of TTC lol. 

    Post # 47
    Member
    194 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    My Fiance and I will be TTC right after we get married. He is older than I am and I will be 33 when we get married. I wish we could have had a year before trying, but we will have been together six years when we get married so we really don’t need a year. I think it will work out well for us.

    Post # 48
    Member
    604 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    Marriage first, kids ASAP. I just turned 35 before we got married, and we hope to have multiple kiddos, so we’ve been on the TTC train since a few months before the wedding!

    Post # 49
    Member
    7 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    We married in 2012. The plan was for us to wait five years, and for me to finish school in the mean time. I cried when I failed the nursing program twice. Now I’m in another nursing program, and our five year anniversary will happen just two weeks before graduation. I am so hoping I don’t mess up again because I really want to have a baby. 

    Post # 50
    Member
    3652 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY

    elephantear:  We got engaged this October and I would like to be married by the end of 2017. I will be finishing grad school in May 2017, so that is a factor in the date. I’ll be 26 then. So I’d probably like to enjoy about 2 years as a married couple then start trying to conceive in 2019 (at 28 years old). Maybe sooner. I think it depends on where we are financially (which should be a very good place) and whenever I decide that I’m ready to embark on the journey of motherhood. I look forward to it 🙂 

    Post # 52
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    3652 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY

    elephantear:  I completely understand, my fiancé is actually 20 years older than me and ready for us to be married yesterday lol Fortunately, I’ve set our timeline. We’re in the process of buying a house now, so once we’re all settled in next month (I pray!) we will start wedding planning 🙂 

    Post # 53
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    130 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2015

    Well start trying about 6-8 months after we get married. I’m In my early 30s him in his late 30s and at that point we would have been together for at least 5 years. 

    Post # 54
    Member
    348 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2017 - Combermere Abbey

    I am 23, my SO is 25, we’re not married or engaged. I would like to get married within the next 3 years. As for children, we are both ambivalent about them and there is no rush. I used to adamently not want children before I met my SO, and it’s still the case that I’m not bothered with children generally but I would consider having SO’s children. SO feels the exact same way. We decided to revisit the topic again when I hit 30. 

    Post # 55
    Member
    668 posts
    Busy bee

    I always imagined I would be married at 26 and have my first child at 28. They seemed like solid ages to my young brain, I guess! Well, I will be tying the knot at 27 and then going to nursing school shortly thereafter. FH and I recently had a 1 year/5 year/10 year timeline discussion and our current plan is to begin trying for babies by the time I’m 31/32. That puts me about 1 year into my career and I feel like that’s perfect for us. 

    Post # 56
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    9806 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2016

    Fiance and I are currently thinking we will start TTC 2-3 years after we get married this summer. We will be 26 when we get married so that would put us at 28-29 when, if we don’t encounter any problems, we have kid #1. But that could change. Fiance will hopefully be starting his PhD program a couple of weeks after our wedding in August and we might decide that having a child while he is still in school is too much and wait until he is done with the program.

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