(Closed) Marriage laws have me so disappointed!

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
4770 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MsMarty:  you could have a Destination Wedding to someplace where it is legal.

Post # 4
589 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Scottish Rite Cathedral (New Castle, PA)

I agree with your FH! She can still do your ceremony, just go and make it official either before or right after! 🙂

Post # 5
2212 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@MsMarty:  I have friends who got married in Vegas a week before they had their wedding ceremony at home with their friend as the officiant.  Worked for them.

Post # 6
13251 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Bummer!  Where are you located?  I ran into a similar situation and it ended up working out for me!

Post # 8
1723 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@MsMarty:  If you really have your heart set on her doing, then I agree with the idea that you have the ceremony and then follow up with it the following day or week to legalize it.  I do understand what you mean about wanting it do be done LEGALLY the day of, because thats how I am. lol However; with something like this, i think after my initial freak out I would think about it and realize in the long run, waiting an extra day or two for the “legal” part and paperwork is nothing.  Especially since you will have to find an officiant you like, that will do what you want..and in the end its going to be a few hundres dollars you would be saving otherwise.  Just a thought 🙂

Post # 9
9954 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Sorry to hear that your plans were dashed.

Where are you… cause I do know that it can vary from State to State (Province to Province)… the more info you give us, maybe the better we’ll be in a position to make alternative suggestions for you.

Example… Mr TTR & I were originally were going to marry in South Carolina, and we ended up marrying in Florida… partly because it was much easier to do so there.


Post # 10
244 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@MsMarty:  Where are you getting married? We ran into the same thing in Pennsylvania, so we’re doing a self-uniting marriage (completely and totally legal/official). I don’t know if there’s anything similar in the other states (or countries) that don’t recognize online ordination, though 🙁

Post # 12
2664 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID

@MsMarty:  Can’t you just have your friend marry you, and then go to the courthouse later that day? or earlier that day? or like the day before/after? 

Post # 13
354 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

It isn’t allowed in VA either. What you can do in VA is hire a real officiant/celebrant that will attend and observe the ceremony, and then legally marry you privately right after. You might look and see if that if legal in KY as well.

Post # 14
8827 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@MsMarty:  my DH’s cousin got legally married in the court house then a few days later had the big wedding with a great uncle officiating. it was a lovely ceremony.



Post # 15
9954 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

To @MsMarty: I found this on-line for Kentucky (well for Jefferson County anyhow):


Solemnization of Marriage:

1.  Marriages shall be solemnized only by clergy, justices and judges of the Court of Justice; retired justices and judges of the Court of Justice, except those removed for cause or convicted of a felony; county judge/executives; such justices of the peace and fiscal court commissioners as the Governor or the county judge/executive authorizes, and certain religious societies.

2.  At least two persons, in addition to the parties and the person solemnizing the marriage, must be present at every marriage.

3.  There are no residency requirements or licensing requirements applicable to ministers or priests who wish to perform marriages in Kentucky.

4.  A minister or priest, all justices and judges of the Court of Justice, justices of the peace and fiscal court commissioners may perform marriages anywhere in Kentucky.

And under

Prohibited and Restricted Marriages:

5. Marriages not solemnized or contracted in the presence of an authorized person or society.

Are you sure, that your Friend cannot legally marry you if they are legally ordained… as it doesn’t look like Kentuck REQUIRE that the Officiant be licensed / registered by the State (like some States do) just that they be an actual minister (see Point # 3)

That certainly is HOW I READ IT

Otherwise as you say, maybe your Friend can marry you and it can be witnessed by someone in authority (see Point # 5)…

READS To Me that the Authorized Person (say it was a JOP) need only be present to witness the event.

I strongly suggest that you call the County Clerk’s Office at the Courthouse for verification…  then you’ll know for sure.

(PS, it says elsewhere in the Documentation, that you can obtain a Marriage License in any County in Kentucky, and use it anywhere within the State to marry, if that should make a difference to you)

Hope this helps,


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