- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
Who’d have thought? This is the most important detail that I overlooked during the whole planning process. Due to my lack of knowledge (and experience), I didn’t know we had to file for a marriage license BEFORE the wedding and found out 4 days before my wedding date that my then-FI and I had to file for our marriage license, otherwise the state will not recognize our wedding ceremony. So we went to file our license exactly 3 days before the wedding (on top of the mountain of stress I was already dealing with), which gave us no room for error… but we errored.
We were supposed to pick up our license on Friday morning, the day before the wedding, but due to a major planning catastrophe that happened that morning, we both completely forgot to pick up the license. Well, since the office is closed on Saturdays, we went back in on the Monday after our wedding to see if we can pick up our license. Not only did the clerk give us an attitude about not following directions, but we had to give them another future “wedding date” because we can’t pick up the license AFTER getting married. So basically, according to the state, we didnt’ get married at all. We said we’d call back and left w/out the license.
Two weeks later, after de-stressing and getting back from our honeymoon, we told the clerk we’re going to hold another ceremony a week later, and took the form home to get it signed by our officiant.
We met up with our officiant and asked him to sign the papers, but there’s SOOO many “RULES” on how to fill out the papers, it’s seriously easier to get married than filing your status with the state.
It’s been over a month since my husband and I held our ceremony, but we’re still legally single because of the ludicrous rules on filing a paperwork that’s stricter than saying “I do” and promising a monogamous relationship with your S.O. in front of witnesses. <<We had already filed it, but was returned and must be re-filed and will take another 2 weeks because the title of our officiant’s name was crossed off and re-written in the correct box.>>
Thank you for reading through, I know it was pretty lengthy…. but I’m also wondering if there are any MRS’s who went through something similar, or had some legal hiccups to go through.
My advice to our bride-to-bees: Get the legal stuff taken care of first, PRONTO!