- 4 years ago
I also agree that I think many are disillusioned that by having a baby and “showing” baby daddy how good of a mommy and housekeeper and yada yada yada she is, he’ll all of the sudden want to get married.
That being said, I’m also a firm believer that no one should get married BECAUSE they’re pregnant. Those days are gone. In some cases, ok. My cousin and her husband were engaged and had a wedding planned. Then she found out she was pregnant. They moved the wedding up a month, got married, had the baby, a few years later had another and they’re all happy. Her kids are now 23 and 18, btw. But in that case, they were already planning to get married regardless.
Someone I went to school with was dating this guy a few years ago (5 years maybe?) and he’s a good deal older than her. At least 15 years, if not more. Pretty sure it might be more. She and I are 33, so he’s late 40s. Anyway, she got pregnant. I want to say he was in the military, not sure what branch, but he was told (and this is just what I heard from her, so I don’t know all the details) but in order for her and the baby to move with him, they had to be married. So they got married. Shortly after, he cheated, got another girl pregnant, and the divorced. Since they, they found out he has several other kids, and a grandkid on the way. I never knew marriage could be required in that, but I don’t know much about all that.
I know I have a lot of contradictions, but it makes sense in my head.