(Closed) Marriage or babies? Is it either or?

posted 4 years ago in 20 Something
  • poll: What would you rather?
    Babies first : (5 votes)
    2 %
    Marriage first : (201 votes)
    98 %
  • Post # 61
    Member
    1660 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2017

    I have to agree. I noticed a similar trend. People seem to be doing either/or. Though in my friend circle people tend to have babies BY MISTAKE and were nowhere near wanting to get married so just don’t. While those who are married are waiting to start families because of careers. We are friends with 3 couples under 25 who got married this year but are waiting until closer to 30 to have kids.

    Then there’s us. We’ve been together since highschool and by far longer than any of our friends. My Fiance and I are getting married next year and will be the first to have children as we want to TTC right away.

    We deliberately waited to get engaged until we were ready for BOTH – marriage and children. Financially and emotionally. 

    And that’s what we’re doing. 

    Post # 62
    Member
    19 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    It’s just a shame so many women have to pretend their pregnancy was an accident. It’s so extremely rare to get pregnant on the pill yet I’ve already known so many women that just felt like having a baby, got pregnant, and then feel like they have to tell everyone it was by mistake, then they get married. Silly social rules, people should do what they want and not need to justify it or lie about it.

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