Post # 1
my church that my Fiance are getting married at is pretty strict, they need 6 months advance notice so we can take a marriage preperation course. what do they usually have set up for that, is it just a few meetings, and a few projects here and there or is it really elaborate.. i have to book the course first but the lady im supposed to book it with isnt in this week so i cant ask anyone there any questions right now
Post # 3
Our marriage prep course was two full sundays. We basically sat around and discussed a number of different topics such as money, trust, families, etc. I really wasn’t bad at all.
Post # 4
It really varies by parish, diocese, location, etc… Our marriage prep course was with a marriage counselor (not a priest). We met for 1 two hour session every week, for three weeks.
Post # 5
I just did mine last weekend. I was one Saturday 8-5. I guess it all depends on your church and where you live. We’re getting married in New Hampshire, but we took the prep where we live in Florida and then just mailed the church the completion certificate.
Post # 6
For us, we had to go to a Pre-Cana course that was one Saturday 8-5 and then we had to do a Focus part where we met with our priest and filled out a questionnaire type thing and discussed our answers. I’m guessing since you’re supposed to book the course, you’re talking about Pre-Cana…
Post # 7
I’ve heard that these course are pretty interesting. Its mostly about giving you information one those various aspects that roxy mentioned, conflict resoulution, relationship rescue, financial planning, etc . My best friend did the Roman Catholic Marriage Prep course and they went into it thinking that it was going to be all about God and what not and how you should be a devout Catholic, but it turned out that it wasn’t like that at all. They said they learned a lot and were glad they did it.
Post # 8
We havn’t signed up for our Pre-Cana yet, but we did have a consultation with the priest. I asked A LOT of questions since I’m not Catholic, and here is what I was told: Our diocese requires 16hrs of marriage counseling (yours may be different), it’s up to the individual priest’s discretion as to exactly how those hours are fufilled.
Our Padre seemed pretty flexible since neither my FH or myself work regular hours. He said it would be an informal sit down discussion which would go over: communication (as he put it, how to fight fair), making time for eachother and God so you have a strong foundation for a family, family-to include the Church’s view on procreation and natural family planning, (getting the birds and bees talk from a 72 year old guy should be a hoot), and money/budgeting.
I was really nervous when I went into our consultaion and I must say I was pleasantly suprised with what I learned. I’m actually looking forward to registering for our classes.
Post # 9
Our church had us meet with the priest to get the paperwork started, take a relationship inventory/survey, meet with a certified marriage counselor, take an NFP class, and attend a weekend retreat. My Maid/Matron of Honor met with a deacon instead of a counselor. Each parish is different. But the 6 month thing is a Church thing, not just a diocesine thing.
Post # 10
We met eith the priest to discuss why we were marrying and what the Pre-Cana process consists of.
1. Meeting to take FOCCUS.
2. Four other meetings with the priest.
3. Four meetings on various subject with couples from the parish. A group of four engaged couples attended these.
4. Engaged Encounter Weekend.
5. Meeting with FI’s Uncle who was the priest actually celebrating the Nuptial Mass.
A lot but doable. We started approx. 10 months out. good thing because the priest was extremely busy and it was hard to coordinate schedules.
Post # 11
we had to do…
a 2 hour NFP seminar
a 8 hour pre-marriage seminar where we sat around and discussed a bunch of different topics with other couples (was not nearly as awkward as we thought – we actually enjoyed ourselves)
still have to complete the FOCCUS test
we’ve had one meeting with our priest so far, but i think we need to go a couple more times
Post # 12
We had to do the FOCCUS questionnaire and meet with the priest to go over the results. We also went over the archdiocesan questionnaire with him at the same time (have you ever been married before, do you enter this marriage on your own accord, etc.). We had to attend a seminar (we got to choose between a few and we chose a one day seminar) which went over financial questions, communication skills, etc. And that’s about it.
Post # 13
We had to do FOCCUS and this weekend we are going on our engaged encounter retreat
Post # 14
We are waiting to be able to start our prep classes. I’m waiting on annullment paperwork from the church so they can declare my previous marriage null.
Post # 15
If you’re looking for a non-religious, online course for you and Fi, I used synced – they offer good modules and are completely secular. Their online lets you compelte it according to your schedule and gives you good reports based on you and Fi’s responses so you can discuss together afterward. [email protected]
Post # 16
@SyncedBride: Somehow I don’t think that would count for Catholic Pre-Cana.