Post # 1
Did anyones else SO discuss marriage before the propsal?
We had the whole me moving in discussion last night at dinner, and its going to happen in like 2 months…Yay! And he has said before engagement won’t come until after we live together.
“Maybe if someone wasn’t dragging their feet about moving in” In reference to baby talk..we went shopping for a friends baby shower last night.
“Not to put the horse before the bull but…now that my brothers getting married..my parents are giving each of us ____ amount of $ for our weddings.” Apprently weddings are huge/big deals in his family.
“which is why I havent really been looking for a new job, becuase if we get married than you will be able to get your Masters for free” -He works at a college.
I think he may have marriage on his mind just a bit :-)…maybe?
Post # 3
@MissParrot: Yes we talk about marriage and have been for months … I know the engagement isnt to far away. But I believe you are on the right track.. One thing to look out for , because I dont know your man at all… Once you move in with him without being engaged first just make sure he will propose soon after that because lots of men get comfortable and will drag their feet forever, because they already have you doing all the things you would do as their wife but with no commitment ( a ring ) … I moved in with mine a month ago and he knows if he drags his feet….well he wont lets just say that.
Post # 4
That’s really nice that he’s dropping lots of hints! Mine was so excited that he told me he ordered my ring! I was like yay how exciting but you’re not supposed to tell me that!! Haha. But yes we have talked about marriage a lot… personally I think it’s been good, even though it might have killed the surprise a little, I feel ready to be engaged and know I’ll say yes when he asks.
Post # 5
Mine did- for months before the propsal.
Post # 6
He is thinking about you guys in the long term. He clearly has marriage on his mind.
We talked about marriage before he proposed. In the beginning, it was more the generic “Someday we will get married”. But months before the proposal, it turned to “When we are married, you should get on my auto insurance” and more specific things like that. So the thing he said about his job makes me very excited for you!
Post # 7
I think everyone talks about marriage before they get engaged. We also talked about it generically at first, and eventually in more definite terms with timelines, expectations, etc. It’s great that you’re talking about it!
If you do want to get engaged soon though, I would have some kind of general timeframe before you move in together. My SO and I lived together for 2 years before we got engaged… and I would never even think of marrying someone without living with them first… BUT it does, in some cases, postpone engagement.
Post # 8
Mine did too…. he’s the one who started with all the marriage talk 🙂
It sure sounds to me that your SO wants to get married!! How exciting!