Post # 1
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Newbee
Hi bees recently married my partner of 4.5 years 5 weeks ago, not quite sure where I fit in though.
i have given up 2 jobs to look after him as he was injured at work and I feel like my identity and independence has taken a beating
when writing his responses to an injury claim, he wrote he missed seeing his adult sons the most and his independence, when I asked him if he missed anything we have lost because of his injury, he said no. I am with you.
i feel like I am in a holding pattern, friends are asking me is married life treating you? How do I answer? I love my husband but need some perspective, why do I feel like second fiddle?
Post # 2
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362 posts
Helper bee
nerdybride121: I think his response to you was very sweet. Maybe I’m missing something… Are you just feeling frustrated that you’ve had to drop your previous life to care for him? I can understand losing a bit of your identity in that regard but know its for the sake of your marriage. You have a new identity now as a married woman and it sounds like he is pretty appreciative of you.
Post # 3
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4439 posts
Honey bee
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
nerdybride121: Can his adult sons come relieve you of care-taking so you can get out of the house occassionally and do something for yourself? It sounds like you kind of ARE in a holding pattern, when will he be better? Just keep in mind that this is temporary! If you made it through 4.5 years you can make it thorugh his injury!
Post # 4
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857 posts
Busy bee
U agree with Bee said above. He has you and thats what is important to him. Remember he is probably going through a tough time too, and of course this is super tough on you. But stay positive, you guys will get throguh this.
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