(Closed) Married 8 months, struggling badly

posted 5 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Anaheim Hills Golf Course

What a difficult situation.  I can’t say that I completely understand as I have never been in a long distance relationship, but I do see how hard it must be that he keeps promising you that both of you will return to the US. The problem here is that it seems that he is not making the marriage a priority and has been putting you and the marriage on the back burner–choosing to stay in Australia because of his “work” might only be a coverup.  He might be completely happy there because his family is there too! If he really loves you, he should want to make you happy.  All I can say is, TRUST YOUR GUT.  Women are very intuitive but at times may want to ignore what our gut is telling us.  If you are done and over being lied to about moving back home, then you’ve done the best choice by coming to the US WITHOUT him.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m so sorry you are going through this, but you can’t work on a marriage by yourself. DId you try to compromise and get a job elswhere in Australia like on the Eastcoast?

But if he wants to stay where he wants to stay and you are miserable, you have your answer…he is more interested in he happiness than yours. You have to move on, so sorry…

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Personally, I would be moving back to the US. You have compromoised, now it is his turn.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I have read your story and I am borrowing the question from a fairly famous (now deceased) columnist.

“Would you be better off with, or without him?”

Once you have that answered (after a lot of personal reflection, you’ll know what you should do).

It might help if you go for counselling for yourself. No one here will be able to give you “the” answer. It comes from within.

I wish I could be of more help. Good luck to you.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

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