Married almost a year but I want a divorce

posted 1 month ago in Relationships
Post # 16
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187 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

peterpay :  I’m not saying divorce is wrong for you.  If that’s what you want, then it’s your choice, not your parents.  

But in your OP, you spend more time talking about your anxiety and being far away from home, then actual problems within your relationship.

Are you getting counselling for the anxiety?  

Do you love your husband? 

Could moving closer to your family with him be an option? 

Post # 17
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143 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I think it’s time to move on. You deserve to be happy with your life and marriage. Sounds like you’ve been feeling this way for a long time and I know you should have listened to your guts but it’s better late than never. Don’t feel bad about yourself. 

Post # 18
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545 posts
Busy bee

peterpay :  You sound as though you’re certain you want out. I wouldn’t delay any longer, and would look into annulment. Because he’s wanting a family, I would do him a favor, and cut him loose sooner rather than later. You both deserve partners you’re compatible with. 

Post # 23
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442 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

Even though I don’t think you should waste your life in an unhappy situation I do think it’s important that you gain a little more perspective before making such a big decision. If you think there’s any hope in saving the relationship or if you personally are interested in making things work then ask your husband if he’d be willing to try counseling. If you go to counseling make sure to go to a quality counselor in your area not just any counselor. Make sure they specialize in couples! I also suggest attending personal counseling as well to get to the root of what’s going on in your heart right now. I like the suggestion of stepping back and going to visit family for a bit. Do a little soul searching. It’ll all be okay! Hang in there!

Post # 24
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953 posts
Busy bee

peterpay :  i asked him the same question your husband asked you. I do ask myself too. Marriage isn’t just about the love itself but also the commitment. I feel you about the arguments, and the anxiety. We both moved to another country in the past one year for new job. I’m still not making any new friends, he’s homesicked. It’s so important to care for yourself right now. Why don’t you feel like trying? Are there something else going on as well?

Post # 25
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1775 posts
Buzzing bee

If you are already at the point where you are done and want out than its time to just do it and move out and file for divorce. The time for counseling to help learn how to communicate better has come and gone especially if you feel your already done. Hugs bee I can’t imagine how hard this is. And while your parents mean well, it’s your call on what to do, don’t stay in it for them. Tell your parents your ending it and need their support. 

 

peterpay :  

Post # 26
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277 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Maybe it’s a combination of anxiety and this relationship not being the best, healthiest relationship for you. I’d say to see a therapist to get a third party perspective then make your decision. Youre still newly married and adjusting takes longer for some than others. 

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