Post # 1
So i have never had a father, my dad was deported before i ws born to nicaguarga and i was given up for adoption when i was 3. i was adopted at 6 by my parents now mom dora and father tony. well he did bad stuff to me and went to jail. my adoptive mom divorced him packed up and moved me and my 3 other siblings to new mexico. my mom and me had a horrible relationship once the adoption was completed she resented adopting me as she wanted to adopt my biological sister jennifer but couldnt as her father never sighned away his rights. so i was the next choice. up until about a year a go my mom apologized for how i was treated growing up and never telling me or showing me what she loved me. well my mom and me have become very close now. i have asked her to walk me down the aisle but my friends dont feel she should!!! i see where they are coming from my mom was very abusive to me growing up and after a traumatic childhood ive always had trust isues. but i feel she did raise me, taught me life lessons and now we have become friends and ive learned to forgive her. what do you think i should do???
Post # 3
Having your mother walk you down the aisle is your personal decision. I think if you can forgive your mother, become close, and actually WANT her to do so, that’s for you to decide. Your friends should support you in whatever decision you make.
Your mother acknowledged her mistakes, which takes a lot of courage and willingness to accept her own faults. Although I did not have the same experience, my mother also apologized for things she felt like could have been done differently on her part recently. I think it’s important as an adult and as someone who is about to start her own family to remember who helped you become the person you are, good and bad.
I think it’s very admirable that you would like your adoptive mother to walk you down the aisle. Good for you!
Congratulations on your upcoming wedding!
Post # 4
Yes, you went through a lot during your childhood and you’re relationship with your mom may not have always been great. However, I think that you and your mother have moved past that together. Since you have forgiven her and feel close now, I think you should ask her to walk you down the aisle if that is what you want to do. I don’t think you should worry about what your friends say. Good luck!
Post # 5
thank you ladies i just dont want this to affedct me on my and joshs wedding day. and yes i do feel everything i went through and what my mom has taught me has molded me into the person i am today !!!!! i will call her today and let her know