(Closed) Married Bees answers to Planning Bees questions.

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Post # 17
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

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@Miss Smurf: DH and I actually did take some moments to ourselves and they were great. Immediately after the ceremony we got slammed into cocktail hour (they were being held in the same room, so no escape), but DH and I snuck out after we’d made the rounds saying hello to everyone individually. We brought a couple of my bridesmaids with us to bustle my dress, then the girls left and DH and I had a breather. It was really nice.

We also got to see the reception space before anybody else was in it. So not only did I get to spend some alone time with DH away from the craziness, but we got a private glimpse of all the little details I’d stressed over in all their glory before any pesky people got in the way 😉 It took my breath away how amazing it all looked. I actually thought to myself, “Oh my god, this is it. This is my perfect wedding.”

So whenever you see an opportunity to slip away and just enjoy the moment, do it!

Post # 18
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

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@MM423: I actually felt more this way at my shower than at my wedding for some reason. The shower went by so fast, but I really felt like I got to enjoy my wedding. It’s definitely important to take some time for you and your new husband, maybe right after the ceremony. Sneak away for a few minutes, get some pics, or just spend a few moments looking into each other’s eyes and saying, “We did it!”

Post # 19
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

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@Miss Smurf: I would have made sure our first look was private. That was a very special moment for me, but our entire bridal party was looking on, and I wish we had that moment to ourselves. I also wish that I had taken a moment with my parents right before the walk down the aisle, just to see if they had any last minute words of wisdom. 

Post # 20
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

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@MM423: I’d heard so many stories about brides barely remembering anything about their wedding day, and I was super worried that would happen to me, but I had the opposite happen. I can recall in vivid detail the entire day, as if it happened in slow motion.

Then again, I think it depends on your state of mind. I was told repeatedly by all my vendors that I was the calmest bride they’d ever seen. I’m betting that the more nervous/excited/giddy you are, the more things seem to blur together. I was excited, but in a very calm and grounded way. The morning of the wedding I just let go of everything and set out to enjoy myself no matter what happened. That probably went a long way in my being able to recall everything so clearly.

Post # 21
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@hilsy85: I’m so glad to hear someone say that, because I was so overwhelmed at my shower (I had fun, but it was a lot to take in!) I was worried that’s how the wedding would feel, too. Our rabbi actually requires that we take 10-15 min alone after the ceremony (just as a nod to tradition, not to actually consummate the marriage) so I’m looking forward to having a few minutes to breathe and take in the day, just the two of us.

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

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@MM423: Yup we had a Jewish wedding too, and did that. I wish I had really appreciated that time more–we were raring to go out to the cocktail hour, but in retrospect, we really should have just taken a moment to ask each other what was going through my/his mind.

Post # 23
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

omg the existence of this thread has made me SO happy.  almost all my questions on here are for married bees.  i apologize in advance because i’ve already asked these questions before.  here are a few of this week’s concerns lol:

  • I currently am not planning on doing a hair and makeup trial.  It is very expensive and I am only going to be in the state where the wedding is once before the wedding.  I am doing a simple french twist and pretty natural looking makeup.  Also, I’ve heard that often the person who does your trial isn’t the same person that will be your person on the day.  Do you think it is ok if I skip this?
  • How many people stayed until the very end of the reception? we want to do a lantern release after the reception ends on the beach, but we don’t know how many to order.  the reception venue kicks us out at 10 on a sat night so we’d be doing it then (and 1/3 of the guests are in late 20s, the rest are family and family friends if that makes a difference)
  • How did you de-stress and keep yourself from micromanaging and being a control freak the day of the wedding?
  • What was your percentage of acceptance for RSVPs?

Thanks guys.  I’m a worrier lol.

Post # 24
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

ooo one more (for now lol):

  • I don’t really have money in the budget allocated for a videographer- do you think having a family friend videotape the ceremony, toasts, and first dance would be a good idea?  Or is having a professional a MUST?

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

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@Mrs. Meowerson:

  • I was in the same boat as we got married in my hometown, and I live across the country from it! I skipped a trial and it still went really, really well; I was so pleased with her work. I asked to see a portfolio of my stylist’s work, and I also read reviews of her online. I wouldn’t sign a contract if you don’t know anything about this person or haven’t seen his/her work. 
  • It was pretty much all young people + our immediate families at the end of the night. Out of 150, I would say 40 people were left at the end of the night. You could make a special announcement that something special will happen at the end of the evening and  encourage people to stay!
  • I just kept reminding myself that I had planned everything out, and if something went wrong, OH WELL. The guests don’t know exactly how everything is supposed to go, so it’s okay if it doesn’t all go according to plan. Our officiant totally forgot that my dad was giving a blessing during the ceremony, so we just tacked it on to the end of the ceremony. We were panicking, but no one even knew it had been forgotten until we told them! 😛
  • I was amazed at how many “yes” responses we got. I would say 80% of our invited guests attended.

Post # 26
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

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@Mrs. Meowerson: 

1. The trial was helpful for me only in that it helped me to figure out what I wanted. If you know what you want and you trust the person doing your hair/makeup, then I don’t really think it’s necessary. 

2. We had a lot of people stay til the end, mainly friends–probably aroudn 20-25. We also had an after party, however, so I think people were hanging around so they could leave for it when we did. 

3. Have a day of coordinator if you can swing it! I didn’t think about ANYTHING–she took care of every last minute detail. Our venue also had a coordinator, which was super helpful for during the reception stuff. 

4. We invited 202 and 151 came, which I think is about a 74% yes rate. 

Post # 27
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

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@Mrs. Meowerson: If you can swing it, have a professional. OUr wedding video makes me cry every time I watch it. If you can’t, then definitely at least have someone videotape if you can–you’ll forget what was said during the ceremony and it’s nice to have a way to remember. 

Post # 28
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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@Miss Fish: I personally regret spending so much money on it, but the day was beautiful and everyone had the best time. If I had to do it over again, we would have done a smaller, more intimate affair. 

Post # 29
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

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@Mrs. Meowerson:

  • Both of my trials for both hair and make-up was what I went with so chances are you’ll be OK
  • A fair few had gone by the end of the night perhaps do it at the start of the night do.
  • I was still in control on the day as I was aware of what should be happening and when. Even though the venue were in complete control of everything on th day I suppose after planning it for a year timings etc are going to stay with you
  • Out of 60 people being invited, 51 came.
  • I’d go for a professional videographer if you can

Post # 30
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

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@CatyLady: can’t do the lantern release earlier because we aren’t allowed to do it at our venue, but thank you for this suggestion!

Post # 31
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I have a couple:

-how much time did you have for pictures? Was it enough?

-I have a ton of DIY projects planned. Was all the work on the little details worth it?

-I’ve heard a lot of brides say their bustles broke by the end of the night. Did this happen to you? Is it even worth it to get a bustle?

 

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