(Closed) Married bees, anyone have no shows at your wedding?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 31
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

sarahquinn:  I think that 4 people failed to show up.

1 person gave no contact and no reason.

1 person, I found out a month later that there were some major family issues going on that she was unable to disclose at the time.

2 people had messaged me on twitter that they had a family health emergency come up an hour before the ceremony & needed to travel to take care of it, but I didn’t see it until the next day because I didn’t have my phone on the day of my wedding to remain in the moment.

Post # 32
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Bumble Beekeeper

HeartsandSparkles:  I’m sorry to hear about your grandmother’s recent stroke.  I hope that your wedding was amazing anyway.   

Post # 33
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72 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2014 - backyard

I am having a small intimate wedding in 3 days time and I am anticipating no shows, but glad to your post, I wont let the anxiety bother me anymore.

 

Post # 34
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Out of 165 people we had 6 no shows, never heard anything about why they didnt come and they never said anything to us after the wedding.  We havent seen them since.  We also had a couple people bring guests that we didnt know they would be so at least the food didnt go to waste.

Post # 35
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

sarahquinn:  Not married yet (1 month away!) but we had 2 whole tables of no shows at my sisters wedding. Apparently at one table they were the grooms coworkers, they gave no explination as to why they didnt show up. The other table was high school/college friends of my sister who RSVP’d yes and just didnt show up. My sister was pretty mad because they spend around $300 extra that was wasted on no shows. 

Post # 36
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

We had 8 no shows which I thought was absolutely ridiculous and rude. I had a family member who was sick(found out at the wedding by his wife who came without him), I had friends just never show up and never heard why(haven’t talked to them since mainly bc of this), a few other guests just not show up with no word to as of why or guests that said they were bringing plus ones and then didn’t but we also had guests bring plus ones that didn’t say they were. It makes me upset that people can’t just make a commitment and stick to it for a whole month. Seriously? Ur life is that hectic that u can’t plan for one day a month early? I think it’s unacceptable unless you have a seriously good healthfor family reason and even then you should contact someone to tell them even if it’s ur parents instead of u. 

Post # 37
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

We had a little over 100 guests and only had 1 no show that I’m aware of (the reception was a big blur for me).  It was a date of a guest, so it didn’t bother me much since I didn’t really know her.  

Post # 38
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

sarahquinn:  We had like 6 no shows! Don’t RSVP YES then don’t make it

one person said they got stuck in traffic…like really, the wedding was at 530, dinner wasnt til 8 you could have at least showed up.

To be honest, it is going to happen and I forgave the people who atleast sent a check or apologized.  The others tho…SMH

Post # 39
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

sarahquinn:  My grandfather was suddenly unable to come, I found out the wednesday before the wedding.  He had a legitimate reason but I was still really hurt.  I’ll be honest, it’s been 6 months and I’m still a little upset he wasn’t there (he also never told me himself – he sent a card with my aunt and got my dad to tell me).

Post # 40
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Yep.  We had a family of people cancel a couple days before the wedding- at least they told us though. And then one of my highschool friends and her husband were simply no shows.  It definitely made me mad, as we lost about 220 dollars for the costs of food.  They got married a couple months before us.  We tried very hard to attend, but it was out of state, we couldn’t really afford it, and my husband was supposed to go to Europe for work the day after.  However, we sent in a wedding card and a nice gift (which we finally received a thank you for 6 months later).  I received no wedding card, gift, phone call, text, facebook message, nothing!   She texted one of my bridemaids the day of my wedding saying she had car trouble or something.  I understand things happen beyond our control, and while 220 is a lot of money to me, it is a wash in the total cost of a wedding.  Personally I would send in a card and a gift, however at very least I should have received a phone call after the wedding.  It definitely puts a strain on our friendship.  The man she married is a complete jerk (he beats their dogs… ummmm creepy) so that alone already probably meant the friendship would eventually dwindle away, and after this, I definitely reconsidering her friendship completely.  

It is just rude- especially from someone who has been through wedding planning and knows what it is like.  

Post # 41
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Newbee

We had several no shows.  A few of them were non rsvp-ers that we had to track down and we had a feeling they weren’t going to show even though they said yes (but really, why not just tell us up front that you’re not coming?).  The others…well their excuses were lame and annoying.  One was even for a family who rsvp’d for an extra uninvited guest (rude) and then they (along with uninvited guest that they rsvp’d for) failed to show up.  It’s definitely annoying and rude, but it’s one of those things that I’ve decided to shake my head about and not waste anymore time and energy on it.  

Post # 42
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

The only no show we had was my the wife of my husbands boss who woke up the morning of very sick. They have three children so I was grateful that my husbands boss still made it and even more grateful to not have someone with a bad flu there.

Post # 43
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

We had a pretty ridiculous number of no-shows: 10 out of 120, only one of which I knew of ahead of time–my uncle who had been diagnosed with cancer that week and was just feeling too poorly to make it.  He cried on the phone when he told me he was so upset.

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