(Closed) Married bees ….. Did you ask guests to not bring gifts, but they did anyway?

posted 4 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 2
1480 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Tanleggedjuliet:  This topic applies to our engagement party even though we are not married yet. We specified no gifts on the invitations (some people consider that tacky, but we still had people asking where we were registered) and a handful out of 85 guests still brought gifts. Most of the time it was something small like a bottle of wine or champagne, so not too big of a deal. We put it in a safe corner of my dad’s living room (where the party was held) so that nothing would get trampled. 

Post # 3
311 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Yes they did we still had a table for cArds so they went there.

Post # 4
1671 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

Tanleggedjuliet:  My friend got married last year and they specifically stated that they did not want gifts. People still gave them something. I guess other people feel the same that it just doesn’t feel right to not give something. That being said, it allowed us to get them something a little more creative (they love wine so we bought a fairly expensive bottle that is supposed to age and they could open on their fifth wedding anniversary).

Post # 5
3025 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

If you specified no gifts, I wouldn’t go so far as to set up a table, but maybe suss out a place that could be used as such. People will still bring gifts. Count on it.

Post # 6
1224 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We didn’t specify no gifts but to anyone who asked, that’s what we said. With the exception of my immediate family, everyone had to travel to get to our wedding and so we told them that was enough. We did get gifts though and people just left them on the guestbook table or gave them to my parents. We did get some creative stuff like a voucher for an afternoon tea in a fancy hotel which didn’t take up any space and was much appreciated!!

Post # 7
1634 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We did not put “no gifts” on the invitations. We simply did not mention gifts or register. When people asked if we were registered I told them no. No one asked why not or what do you want. About half of our guests gave us a monetary gift. The other half gave us nothing. 

Post # 8
1886 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Tanleggedjuliet: people brought gifts to our unofficial engagement party even though we didn’t want ot expect them. But honestly, I myself would never show up to any party empty-handed, even an informal one at someone’s house, much less a wedding. No matter what the hosts say. If they don’t want the present, there’s always Goodwill or the local homeless shelter.  🙂

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