Post # 1
First, let me be clear: I am not having a wedding to get money or gifts. We are not inviting people based on who will give us a nice gift. However, I am slightly curious if people were surprised or disappointed by the amount of gift money the received.
Post # 3
I was pretty disappointed not to sound gift grabby but yes I was disappointed in some people.
Post # 4
@FutureMrsChaney: that’s a shame. I think that I am going to try and just keep my expectations very low so that I am not hurt or disappointed
Post # 5
@jackndiane: deff a good idea!
Post # 6
I was generally surprised/happy. Some people were super generous. There were a few people that we didn’t get gifts from, but most people had to travel, so we said on our website not to feel compelled to get a gift. The only thing that disappointed me was not getting a gift from my aunt and her family of 6 who live 10 min. from the venue. However, it’s only been 2 months, so maybe they’ll give something eventually. No biggie, just seems odd to me.
Post # 7
We got more physical gifts than expected but less money. So that kinda makes sense. The only reason we were expecting more was because of our very large guest list. However, we hadn’t lived together before marriage so we needed pretty much everything for our kitchen, etc, so the physical gifts were very welcomed!
Post # 8
we made out great for our wedding i think – i didnt have too high of an expectation though. I think we hit the $$ we were secretly hoping for (paid of our honeymoon and had a tiny bit left over) and we got a lot of gifts off our registry too – i was not disappointed.
Post # 9
We just got married, so we’re still receiving gifts, but I would say more. Definitely more gifts–we have SO much stuff now! We need to buy a house so we have a place to put it. Right now it’s all sitting at my in-laws’.
I think those who gave money were very generous, we probably received about 50-60% of the amount we spent on the wedding. Fiance kept joking that he’d hoped we would break even, but I think that’s an unrealistic expectation and it’s definitely not something to count on. In both gifts and cash (what I loosely deem “cash and prizes”) I would say we probably did at least break even…that surprised me!
Post # 10
You might want to add a poll to your posting. A lot of people might vote on this rather than comment.
When people asked, we said no gifts were necessary and we did not register anywhere. Some people still did, and a lot of family members gave money in cards. I guess people still want to give you something, which was really nice and helpful as we used it as spending money during our honeymoon.
Post # 11
Yes and no. I was surprised at how few people went to williams sonoma, and went for more traditional gifts. I wanted a molcajete. We did get a ton of caish though. (Please say caish like Paul Rudd on I Love you Man). There I said it. (What a whine lol!)
Post # 12
We were very surprised at how generous everyone was.
We ended up getting only 3 actual gifts but monetary gifts were double what we ever expected.
Our honeymoon was completely covered by the money we received. It was amazingly wonderful and we were so grateful.
Post # 13
I’ve been going over my reply to this and I my first thought was that everyone was generous with the exception of DH’s dad but then I realized that he flew in from Miami, so that was expensive, plus he took us out to a $50 a plate champagne brunch the morning after the wedding. So…overall we were happy with it. I’m glad DH’s dad came, that’s more important than cash in my pocket.
Post # 14
I would say the total cash we received is a little more than what weexpected. Most of our guests travelled, so we didn’t expect them to give much, but they surprised us. Even the people couldn’t come to the wedding sent us gifts. When we started out with the wedding, we thought we’ll be at net loss, but turned the total net gain. We got 5 gifts item and the rest were cash.
Post # 15
Wow, great post. I hope not to be too disappointed. We set our wedding registry very well to all budgets. We have gifts as low as $5 but most gifts are averaged between $25-$50. I read a blog saying the average person spends no more then $50 on a wedding present. We also used HoneyFund which was a honeymoon registry allowing guest to pay as low as $25 towards our honeymoon. With all this being done I hope not to be disappointed.
Post # 16
We generally got cash from family and relatives or from family friends. (I think its an Asian tradition) and from friends we got gifts ranging from (a really cheap exspired 9.99 food basket from a couple) to a very generous gift from my Maid/Matron of Honor. Our friends either picked things off our registry or got us gift cards to Amazon/BBB/Crate and Barrel/WS. We ended up being able to cover the cost of the wedding and had some that went towards the honeymoon.