(Closed) Married bees: Did you get more or less gifts/money than you expected?

posted 9 years ago in Money
  • poll: Married Bees: Did you get more or less in gifts and cash gifts than you expected?

    We received more gifts and more money than we expected

    We received less gifts and money than we expected

    We received about the amount of gifts and money that we anticipated that we would receive

  • Post # 32
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

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    @jackndiane:Yeah, we did get some really lovely shower gifts though, so it all evens out in the end!

    Post # 33
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    We honestly didn’t have any expectations to begin with, but were very happy with what we received. I was shocked and happy when my parents friend purchased our expensive kitchenaid mixer for us and many people were generous with cash gifts. Of course there were others who didn’t give anything or gave a very small amount, but it always made sense based on the gift giver so it’s not like we were upset.

    And I was definitely a bride who did not expect a wedding present from someone who attended or gave a gift at my shower, so you could say I was somewhat blown away when people gifted for both.

    Post # 34
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    10283 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    We made right around what I thought we would. DH’s side was easy to estimate since his brother was married a few years ago and most everyone gifted us with the same amount that they gifted them. When it came to my family, I knew we’d make out well. I’m an only child and the only girl grandchild. My only cousins are boys who are much younger so our wedding was the only big event that our family will have for a while. We received 2 actual gifts but everything else was monetary. We made enough money to cover the cost of our wedding (which we had a lot help paying for) and then some. We were very happy with the outcome! 

    Post # 35
    Hostess
    1425 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

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    @All In: it was a large random glass jar from cost plus filled with random “pate-like spreads” and “candies of mysterious” origin. the price tag was still on the bottom and the expiry dates on the food was from a year ago.

    Post # 36
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    66 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    We didn’t really have any expectations necessarily but I was honestly a bit surprised, given the “norms” in my area. We had a small wedding (100 people) of close friends and family, and we had people not even give us a card. We had one family of 6 give a gift of about $20. Not many people gave us in a gift what their plated meal cost (only my Maid/Matron of Honor and a couple relatives) and we probably received about 25% of the cost of the wedding in monetary gifts.

    Post # 37
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    54 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I didn’t really expect anything and our guests were extremely generous…even people we didn’t invite or barely know surprised us!

    Post # 38
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    honestly, there were so many guests who came empty handed. I hate saying it but I was a bit offended. And we only had an intimate wedding with family and like family people. Out of 60 ppl, 15 people gave NOTHING, not even a card. I mean a card and $10 GC is something. you dont have to go all out. If those 15 ppl that attended our wedding and didnt even bring a card would have all given a $10 GC, we would have had an extra $150. I didnt even think of it until after we opened all our gifts and I was like where is the card from “so and so” and realized they didnt bring anything. i am talking about my aunts and uncles and even my grandpa (however my granmother passed away two days before and he didnt come..which I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND). it was difficult to continue with the wedding just afer loosing her.

    Post # 39
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    1238 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    thanks for this!! staying optimistic! 🙂

    Post # 40
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    1474 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)

    I, too, think it’s important to not have expectations, but if you think purely in terms of whether or not each guest gave a gift, then yes, we got less than expected because a lot of guests showed up empty-handed. It stung at first, especailly since DH and I actually needed a lot of the things we registered for and didn’t get (we had just moved across the country and had gotten rid of basically everything and didn’t have a lot of the basics, like any bedding). We had to buy a lot of that stuff ourselves, and since we’d just paid for the wedding, we obviously didn’t buy the nice things we’d registered for. Three months later, though, I can tell you it doesn’t really matter anymore that not everyone gave a gift. Looking back on the wedding, I just remember all the fun we with our guests that day. 

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