Post # 1
I got married last weekend and it was beautiful and fun and guests kept telling us on the night of (and for many days later) that it was the best/most fun/beautiful wedding they had ever been to. I was so happy with the way it turned out but I can’t help but feel a bit upset about the fact that I barely got to dance with my friends/family. I danced a little bit when they first introduced us (and also for the hora cause we are Jewish, which was A BLAST), but once there were speeches, rounds, bouquet and garter toss, cake cutting etc… that was it!! I was tryings so hard to give my undivided attention to guests/make them feel welcome during rounds that it took up most of the reception. Also, as I tried to make my rounds a bunch of the older guests came up to say their goodbyes so it delayed me getting to complete the rounds.. I actually did not make it to each guest/table but really made the biggest effort to. I kept hoping to dance once I was “done” but that never happened and as I moved my way around to guests I noticed the place slowly emptying.
Like I said, I had a beautiful day and there is little I would change but I really feel a bit down that I didn’t get to dance much/spend time with those I love/have fun with! I also feel like because I gave such attention to guests I did not know, I didnt even take in the decor (which I agonized over for a full year) or the food served (its presentation, or taste cause I didnt eat lol), and I can barely even tell u which songs the DJ played (despite hearing that he was amazing!!!). Anyways sorry to be all long winded, but what I really want to know is… IS THIS NORMAL? Do brides get to dance at their own wedding!?!?!!
The planner told me she hears from a lot of brides that they feel this way and she said when you’re on the other side, you can dance all night at your friend’s weddings… I feel like a complainy brat.. and hubby doesnt like to hear this but I cant help but think about this. Thoughts ? Words of wisdom?
Post # 3
I definitely danced the night away!!! But I also didnt get around to every single table….however I felt like I saw everyone bc they would come up to me while I was dancing or eating etc… For me, Id have to disagree that most brides dotn get to dance at their own weddings but only bc I definitely danced to almost every song..we were on the dance floor all night except at dinner.
Post # 4
We have 55 guests – 6 tables including the one we’re sitting at. I BETTER GET TO DANCE MY ASS OFF!
Post # 5
I did my rounds during dinner, while everyone was sitting.
Once the dancefloor opened up, I thought “hey if anyone wants to find me/talk to me, fuck it, they can come see me on the dancefloor”!
Best night ever!
Post # 6
🙁 I feel like I should have done things differently… The thing is my wedding was in different stages. There were a few speeches then a bit of dancing. Then the next course with a few speeches then a bit of dancing. I tried to make my rounds after the second set of speeches but I guess it was too late 🙁
Post # 7
I danced way more than I expected to! Hindsight, though…. I wish I’d spent a little less time on the dance floor and a little more time taking pictures. I don’t have nearly as many bridal portraits as I’d like. Oh well.
Post # 8
@skippydarling: We had 60 guests and I BARELY got to dance! I only danced 3Xs and 2 of those times was the B & G first dance and the father/daughter dance! Everyone wanted to stop and take pics and then there were the toasts, cake cutting and everything became a blur not to mention the guests started leaving early!!! My wedding came and went in a total of 3 hrs!!! I was pissed!
Post # 9
i got to dance a lot but i missed the songs that i had specifically requested because DH’s stupid aunt, whom we are not at all close to and didn’t want to invite, dragged us out of the ballroom to take pictures with her family on her crappy point and shoot camera. i wouldn’t have minded taking one or 2 pics but she kept us out there for a good 30-40 minutes!! if i could go back, i would’ve put my foot down but oh well.
Post # 10
I got to dance quite a bit! We tried going around to all the tables, but only made it to 6 (out of 14) before the dance floor opened up and everyone was out dancing. We didn’t see the point of continuing to go around the tables if all the guests were dancing, so we joined them!
Best night ever!!
Post # 11
@lindseyl06: thank you, thank you, thank you! I think now I just want to know that I am not alone or didn’t fuck up royally. We had close to 200 guests and I really made a concerted effort to acknowledge them each individually…
When I noticed it emptying out I was like wtf?! I am just about to start dancing.. what is going on? And it ended late for a wedding altogether (2-3ish am) but I had to do all those rounds and traditional wedding “moments” (e.g. garter). Everyone tells me I have my whole life to dance at other weddings and events and that my day was perfect and everyone had the best time ever.. I just wish I got to share in all the fun the guests keep raving about!
Thanks again for your post.. feels good to know I am not completely alone!
Post # 12
Hey hun. I hear you. We didn’t get to dance very much, which was a little disappointing. However, my guests took advantage of the dance floor, and we all still had an amazing night, so I try not to dwell too much!
Post # 13
@Gemstone: Thank you! That is my exact situation. I danced a tiny bit (which was amazing and I was totally elated for that whole small time) but guests danced and ate the night away and loved it. It was really important to me that the guests enjoyed themselves. I also loved the ceremony and everything else so it is not the end of the world..
I want to stop torturing myself!
Post # 14
- Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza
I think the reality is the day goes by so fast and in such a blur that it’s IMPOSSIBLE to do all of the things you wanted.
I danced the night away and had a blast, but in hindsight I wish I had spent less time dancing and more time visiting with people, taking photos. I didn’t get ANY photos with my aunts/uncles and I seriously regret that. There were so many people that I barely said hi to because I was too busy dancing. I feel guilty and selfish. If I had just removed myself from the dance floor I am sure I would have gotten more of the family photos that I’m missing and wish I had.
The day is just too damn short IMO!
Post # 15
@brideybean: I just realized that even though the reception is celebrating your marriage, much of what you plan is actually for your guests. I did eat at our reception, but I didn’t much take advantage of our open bar or coffee bar, and I didn’t even notice some of the decor I’d put so much thought into. And I realized, that’s okay. 🙂 My memories of the night are far better — my Maid/Matron of Honor making me cry with her speech; cracking up at the best man speech; dancing with my new husband and with my dad; and just overall being surrounded by the love of so many people who are so dear to me.
I think you may also feel a little better when you get your photos back, as they help you relive the night. Some things got caught on photo that I would have never known about. 🙂
Post # 16
Yes, I was able to dance quite a bit, so much fun! 🙂