(Closed) Married bees, did you get to dance at your own wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Married bees, did you get to dance at your own wedding?
    Yes, as much as I would have liked to. : (90 votes)
    83 %
    Yes, but a minimal amount and I wish I had time for more. : (13 votes)
    12 %
    No. : (6 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 32
    5874 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I sure did!  We specifically kept our “offical dances” to a minimum (first dance and combined father/daughter with mother/son), did the cake quickly before our first dance, and skipped the garter and boquet so that we would leave as much time as possible for dancing.  

    I have a belief that guests will follow the lead of the bride & groom, and if the B&G are dancing, everyone else will dance!  We held down the dance floor and had the sweaty clothes, messed up hair, and flip flopped feat to prove it.

    Post # 33
    3120 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I gotta be honest.  We had a very large wedding and I made my way around as much as possible.  After the cake cutting, though, I was set on doing what I wanted to do.  There are probably people I didn’t speak to, but at that point I wanted to enjoy my day the way I wanted!  I wouldn’t change a thing!

    Post # 34
    1888 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I pretty much planned our reception timeline around dancing… I wanted to take advantage of every minute of it. And I did! I told all the guests if they wanted to see me, they could find me on the dancefloor. Plus, I always feel like the bride and groom are responsible for creating the party, so with me on the dancefloor shakin’ it, and my husband making sure people were utlizing the open bar, our guests told us they had a fabulous time! My husband felt like you do though… he spent too much time at the bar (and too many drinks), that he spent our whole honeymoon asking me “did the DJ play this song? Did the DJ play that song?” Music was most important to him and he regrets missing out on a lot of that. But now we have great advice to give to our friends who are still planning their big days!

    I do agree with @BlushingBrideNYC though, you probably danced way more than you remember!  

    Post # 35
    11484 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009


    Honestly — and you’re probably not going to like this answer — the only solutions I have found are the passage of time, and the gaining of perspective.

    I, too, was overwhelmed with this, and, in my case, I allowed my disappointment and grief over missing out on interacting with all of the special people at my wedding (many of whom, due to distance, I rarely ever see) to cause me to miss out on all of the wonderful things that followed. In other words, I was always many steps behind, because I was so focused on reliving (in my own mind) what had *not* transpired on my wedding day and was so consumed with my sadness over that that I was unable to enjoy (finally — after waiting until I was in my mid 40s to marry!) being on my honeymoon, and being a newlywed. It took me a very long time to “catch up” with where I should be emotionally in my marriage. (Of course, we had many other challenges to overcome as well, such as having to live apart half of each week for almost the first year, until I could sell my house and quit my job and relocate to DH’s state full time, and having a blended family, because Darling Husband has children from his first marriage, etc. However, my constant grieving over issues from my wedding day really kept me from experiencing and enjoying this special time in our lives.)

    The greatest advice I can give to you is to focus on all of the wonderful parts of your wedding day and of your new life with your Darling Husband, to do whatever you can to enjoy the PRESENT, and to stop following that mental rabbit trail of sorrow and regret from something that you cannot change. Otherwise, you will only be missing out on today and adding to the pile of potential happy memories that you didn’t ever get to experience.


    Post # 36
    131 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @peasantsong:  Cute picture! Looks like you had a lot of fun.

    Post # 39
    135 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @brideybean:  I danced all night as I absolutely love dancing. BUT big regret is that  didn’t talk to any guests!!! I really wished I danced less and instead chatted to the older guests outside the ballroom, etc. I didn’t talk to anyone during dinner cuz I ate my meal. So yeah don’t feel bad.

    I am still regretting that I didn’t have any casual chat with anyone. Also, I suppose I am a bit on the shy side but I should’ve manned up and talked to the guests in my own wedding! My H had 75% of the guest list, mine was 25%. I still don’t know what some of his cousins looked like. I was suppose to use that wedding to connect to his family and friends.

    I didn’t get to talk to guests that crossed an ocean to celebrate with us. Still feel really bad about that one. Cuz I think that is rude. So I have that regret forever. I would trade places with you no problem ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 40
    407 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I had 75 guests and a 5 hour reception, so I danced as much as I wanted. We got through our table visits during dinner, so that freed up time. Granted, I often got pulled aside for pictures and such, but, overall, I was happy the amount of time I had to cut loose, especially since I chose 3/4 of the music.

    Post # 41
    8470 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    We didn’t step foot off the dance floor. 

    Post # 42
    64 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    For this exact reason, I plan on doing a receiving line. Anyone who wants to talk to us will have their time as they file into the reception hall, and those who I see on a regular basis or who will be on the dance floor can skip it, get another drink, and find their seats. I have a large family and many of us spend time together regularly and will certainly see plenty of each other during the days both preceding and following the big day. The out of towners and old folks are the biggest concern… but I refuse to spend thousands of dollars on a party celebrating my marriage without taking part in the festivities myself. 

    Maybe I’m a selfish bride, but this is a once in a lifetime event and I damn well plan on enjoying it!

    Post # 44
    1105 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I’m worried I’m going to be rude and stop guests mid-conversation to say ‘Oh my god I love this song, sorry but I have to dance, I’ll be back later!!’… because my urges are pretty strong Undecided

    Post # 45
    396 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @Mrs. Coyote:  +1

    I danced all night but I also feel like I barely interacted with a lot of people!  Thankfully we had a BBQ the day after the wedding so I got to spend some QT with some of our guests who had traveled and we don’t often see.  I also feel like I should have taken some more time to take more photos! We did a first look and all the bridal party portraits before the wedding and afterwards I was just like nah not interested in smiling for the camera anymore ha.

    However, there’s no point in me harping over it.  That’s what I wanted to do the day of the wedding and I had a blast.  We have plenty of photos as well.  


    Post # 46
    366 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013 - The Fox Hill Inn

    They served our table first so we were able to eat and then greet other tables as they were eating. We didn’t make it to every table, but we did make it to greet all our family and our parents’ friends. Our friends we “greeted” on the dance floor and we danced our butts off! ๐Ÿ™‚

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