(Closed) Married bees… give me some advice!

posted 9 years ago in Recaps
Post # 3
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5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

try not to please everyone or take everyone elses wishes into consideration – its not possible so save yourself alot of trauma and just make your plan and stick to it

🙂

Post # 4
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1357 posts
Bumble bee

Don’t sweat the small stuff. And hang out on Weddingbee – I knew this one, but I got so much planning advice that I don’t have any regrets about wedding planning at all! Good luck!

Post # 5
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162 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Don’t worry so much! I felt like I spent a lot of time worrying about what other people would think! 

Have fun and enjoy the moment!

Post # 6
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14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Try not to splurge too often–not all of it will get noticed (nobody cared about my pamphlet programs, my hand-painted monogram aisle runner, etc…and i have no pictures to prove it!) and I could have saved myself al ot of time and effort and money by not having to do *everything* so spectacularly.

Post # 7
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159 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

Accept help!!

Friends and family genuinely want to help the bride and it’s ok if not *everything* is done exactly the way you have it pictured in your head. I learned that the hard way.

I think I would have saved myself a lot of stress if I let my friends and family share in my wedding planning joy and asked/allowed them to help with the planning and DIY projects. 

Post # 8
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1944 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Elope! No but seriously, don’t try to please everyone, it only leads to disaster. Do what YOU want, not what your friends, family or guests think best. But seriously if we would have eloped like we wanted, I would be in a much happier state with some family members. They can turn into satan at weddings!

Post # 9
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521 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

No matter how far in advance you plan, there will be stuff that comes up at the last minute.  Don’t stress yourself out too early.

Post # 10
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604 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I couldn’t agree more with the need to Accept help!!

Also if you plan to DIY plan ahead and don’t wait until the last minute, and if you do wait until the last minute like I did…then see the above point and take all the help you can get! 

Most of all…keep in mind the it’s all about the relationship you and your Fiance have, everything else is just “details”

Post # 11
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7082 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

If you have a vision for something, don’t let go of that, despite how many people may discourage you.  I can’t tell you how many times people said that my dress, my boots, my lighting scheme weren’t going to work.  To them, I say “Pshaw!”  Who’s naysaying now?

🙂

Post # 13
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2007 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

While it’s good to have fun with the little details and special touches, don’t get to wrapped up in them.  In the end they really don’t matter and you really won’t care that the lemonade was served out of a blue cooler rather than your pretty glass containers or that all of a sudden you don’t have a dance floor.  (For the record, people don’t mind dancing on grass in the slightest.  Save your money.  The grass can grow back.  Wink)

Oh, and realize that delegating may very well take effort, be prepared for that.  

Post # 14
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2271 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I wouldn’t have worried about last minutes RSVPs as either they didn’t show up anyway or other expected guests didn’t show up. I wouldn’t have bothered with things like cake servers and the like. I should have consulted more with the photographer. I would of had a smaller wedding if I had known how I would end up doing just all the wedding planning myself!

Post # 15
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54 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

During the planning process everyone kept saying that the wedding day is the BEST day of your life. (They would then follow it by saying that when your children are born, those are also great days.) I don’t encourage you to think of your wedding day as THE BEST day.  Think of it as one great day that is going to start many great days that you and your husband will share.  You will have many BEST days to come!

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Let it go!  Stop stressing over the details.  Not everyone’s wedding is going t obe Martha Stewart perfect, but it’s the most fun day of your life(at least it was for me!) so let it be!

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