(Closed) Married bees: give ONE piece of advice to brides-to-be!

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Post # 92
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

This is a great thread.  I will definitely be making sure Fiance and I get a few minutes alone away from the madness to just connect and reflect on the moment.

 

Post # 93
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Posting to follow !!

 

Post # 94
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My words of advice:

 

1. I learned this one from the pee – Bee backwards if you have a big dress – just make sure you have someone in the bathroom with you to hold your dress up in the back if your dress is big.  IT WAS SO MUCH EASIER! and for some reason I had to pee at least 5-6 times during the day lol.

 

2. SMILE.SMILE.SMILE.  Even if you are mad about something.  My sister gave me this advice and she said the most important thing I can do especially when I’m walking down the aisle is to just smile.  I’ve been to weddings where the bride isn’t smiling much so it makes her look unhappy.  Looking through our wedding photos and video I smiled A LOT but I look happy and so does my hubby πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

 

3.  DO NOT choreograph a first dance unless you can somehow manage to practice in your dress πŸ™‚ My hubby and I practiced our choreographed for 5 months before the wedding (took dance lessons paid a lot of money for it) and its the one thing I’ll regret for the rest of my life.  We’re decent dancers, but our first dance made us look like amateours

 

 

 

Post # 95
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Blushing bee

Buy stain removing wipes and keep them with you! Right after we finished our photos we were walking across a golf course barefoot and stood in a wet patch and got a massive muddy mark on the front of my dress. The wipes got that sucker out with no fuss. Big relief!! πŸ™‚

Post # 96
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

If you do a choreographed dance and you’re not a professional dancer, expect it to suck and just roll with it. And I don’t mean that in a bad way! My dad and I did a surprise Gangnam Style for our father-daughter dance and it was the most ridiculous, bad dancing I’ve ever seen. And it’s hilarious! Mostly because my dad forgot the moves and decided to add his own for about half of it and ended up almost falling over. But if I hadn’t had a sense of humor about it, I would have flipped out. But it was just fun, not a Broadway production.

I think having a sense of humor about the wedding in general will keep you sane.  

Post # 97
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

At some point during the reception, slip away with your husband and enjoy the moment.  Take in the surroundings, the joy, the happiness, the excitement… It’ll go by before you know it

Post # 98
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2013

HMM I have a few.  My day was magical and amazing but there are certainly things I would have done differently.  

 

1) Overall I wish I would have relaxed a bit more and not be so rushed.  Trying to get my family to adhere to the schedule required me to turn into a massive bitch and I’m not sure that was worth it.  They were acting really brain dead, everyone busy chatting with each other and never paying attention when I needed them to be here or there for pictures or our lineup etc.  So in retrospect it might have been worthwhile to phone each of them and really get the message across that I am paying our photographer thousands of dollars and I need them to do XY and Z at such and such time, and to please do what I say and not introduce their own alternate ideas constantly.  That was super irritating to deal with all day when I already had so much to be supervising.  

 

2) Also with rushing, I dont think I even looked at myself in my dress after I put it on because I was in such a hurry to get into pictures!!  that was crazy!!  I should have looked at my self and put my boobs away they were sticking out more than I realized!  Along the same lines I should have carried a small mirror in my purse to use with powder and to apply my lip gloss, everyone is taking photos of you all day with their phones and so I feel I got a bit too shiny at the end, because I was not taking time to freshen myself.  

 

3) I almost wish I would have taken people’s phones away or announced a message about no facebooking my wedding.  These days everyone is a “photographer”, it was kind of insane it was like the paparazzi were following me.  At one point two people were standing in front of my photographer taking photos, I’m like WTF are you doing???  He had to wait for them to get out of the way. Then I had to text a few friends to ask them to take down photos of my ceremony off of facebook.  I found that quite rude but I know they didn’t mean it that way.  

 

4) So in general you should allow yourself much more time than you think you need, and don’t try to leave too many things to do at once in the days right before/day of.  If you have people who are always running late in your family, like I do, then they end up dragging the schedule behind and making you late as well.  

 

5) Guard your sleep the night before.  My mom ended up REALLY pissing me off, she woke me up late at night the night before my wedding day, I ended up waking up on the day absolutely cranky as a result and that threw off my whole schedule because I needed to take a nap so I did not look and feel incredibly haggard.  She is kind of koo koo so hopefully most family members wouldn’t do that but anyways it would have been much better for me and my getting ready schedule if that hadn’t happened.  

 

Post # 99
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

If you can stay overnight somewhere the night before the wedding, separate from all the crazy family and even from your future husband, separate from your bridal party and BMs and Maid/Matron of Honor, do it. Treat yourself to a bed and breakfast. Wake up refreshed. Go at your own pace. Relax in a little garden. I did this and was told I was the calmest, happiest bride by each of my vendors, and not just because they were being nice. They were surprised I was so at ease! 

Post # 100
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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@Cornflakegirl:  I totally agree with cornflake girl.  

I had my mom around me too much in the days leading up to my wedding.  If I wasn’t trying to please and spend time with all of the family who had travelled in to be with me, then I would have had plenty of rest and time to get ready away from all of my relatives.  

I had a large room for getting ready at my venue but everyone wanted to come visit me there when I wasn’t even ready yet, it became a zoo!!  I would have been much calmer, and ready on time on my day if I had more “me time”

Post # 101
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Helper bee

1. Ask for help on anything you can give up control on! Your friends and family who offer to help aren’t just joking. And accept the help, even if it’s not done “your” way.

2. Spend time with your new husband. We had a tiny gap between dinner and our party. We drove home (between the two locations), cooled down a little, petted our cat, and I changed into my reception dress. It was the most ordinary moment of the day, but also a great one. We also walked down the aisle together, and those moments of anticipation before it were so so fun!

Post # 102
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Newbee

Love this thread! πŸ™‚

Post # 103
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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@Cornflakegirl:  I LOVE this piece of advice!! A good nights sleep can change the entire mood for your wedding day. I will certainly be writing this down. I would also go a step further and pay no attention to any social networking sites the night before (i.e. facebook, twitter) and relax with a good book or whatever encourages rest and relaxation (yoga, meditation). Social networking can easily keep me up for 30-45 minutes longer than anticipated and gets my mind running again. I will try to let my mind relax and trust in myself and both wedding parties that we are prepaed and the next day will run smoothly. I will try not to focus on forgetting/missing something- I will try not to go through a running checklist in my mind while trying to sleep.

Post # 104
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Reapply lip gloss. lol.  I’m serious. My lip gloss wore off  maybe after the ceremony so my lips look colorless in my portraits.

Post # 105
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

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@peonies322013:  

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@slpbee:  

You’re welcome, ladies! It really centered me. Yes, I also made a point of not telling anyone where I was except for my Maid/Matron of Honor, Bridesmaid or Best Man, and vendors that were coming there the morning of the wedding to take “getting ready” photos. I specifically asked everyone to arrive well after I’d had a good portion of the morning to myself. I’ll never forget driving there by myself that night, and feeling so free from all the chaos so I could enjoy the wedding day with my love. I’d had some other wedding-related events go sour due to overclingy people and even a drunk friend at my bridal shower…eep. (She’s OK but there were boy problems and well…double eep.) Soooo, yeah. I was done with the drama and needed to secure some sacred me time. It was awesome. I stayed there the night before the wedding by myself, and then the wedding night my hubby and I stayed there before heading home to pack for the honeymoon.

 

 

Post # 106
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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