(Closed) Married bees: how did you know there were "no shows"

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Because I had a seating chart and it was pretty obvious if someone didn’t attend.

Post # 4
Hostess
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I had some guests bail in the final week, and I counted those as “no shows” (particularly since my venue had already locked down our headcount and charged us for the extra meals…*$%^).  I didn’t actually notice any no shows other than the ones we already knew about…

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Well for example, the day of my wedding my brother texted said he wasn’t coming he was “sick” that was a lie.  So that was 5 people. During the reception my aunt told me that my cousin and family wasn’t comming due to my cousin had to work.  So that was another 5 people. There is one person I realized didn’t come after about a week of the wedding. Yeah she flaked out on the bridal shower, bach party also. So didn’t surprise me…

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Ours was a pretty small affair anyone…we invited 120 but knew 20 of them would not be coming (you know those invites for way out of town family that are older)  and then the day of some people couldn’t make it…we had seating for 100 and chairs were empty.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I had a pretty small wedding and since I knew my seating chart like the back of my hand and knew that we had 2 no shows. Grr. They literally forgot about our wedding.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I had a small wedding. But I also realized because a few days before the wedding, one guy posted on FB about being in Chicago* for the next week!! I was like, UM WTF? So I emailed him and politely asked if he would be back for the wedding, since he’d RSVP’d yes for himself and his wife. He was like, “Oh, oops, I forgot about the wedding when I was making my travel plans.” Grrr.

*My wedding was not in Chicago.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I had a few people swear they were coming after we tracked them down, so I anticipated them not showing up already. My mom told me the others! Also, with a 100 person count, its actually pretty easy to notice once everyone is sitting down at dinner.

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper

We had 8 tables so it was pretty easy to tell.  Unfortunately (or maybe fortunately?) the people who didn’t show up were all seated at the same table (they didn’t know each other, it was just coincidence).  I felt badly for the other people at that table, but they were able to shuffle around and have a good time.

One of the people who didn’t show up has STILL not contacted me to let me know why or even acknowledge that she didn’t attend.  Classy!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Juliepants:  uhhgggg.  I dread that.  Honestly – couldnt care less about gifts, type of gifts, whether they show up wearing white, show up late, take pictures during the ceremony, talk during the speeches, yadda yadda yadda, don’t care – but not showing up and then not even apologizing?!?  I would be SO hurt.

 

 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We had a seating chart and placecards so we would have know if there were any left on the table and by looking at the tables.  But we didn’t have any no shows.  We invited 225 people, 132 said they were coming and all 132 showed up. Not bad considering most of the guests that couldnt come were from the East coast and our wedding was in California.  On time, even. Andeveryone came to the ceremony too~granted it was in the same location,right before, but still.  I was amazed we didn’t have no shows.   

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

we had a small wedding so i would have noticed.  besides, there were no surprise no shows.

 

Post # 14
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282 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

One couple missed our ceremony.  The only way I knew was because they showed up to the reception at the same time as us (and they told us).  Another family of 3 didn’t make it at all, but my husband and I didn’t realize it until afterwards, even though we went around & visited with all the tables.  It didn’t bother us too much.  The family has a young child, so we figured they probably had a valid reason for not being able to make it.

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper

@mandypop:  Yeah, I wasn’t so much hurt as….disgusted.  To be honest, it’s not really a friendship I miss at this point.  The other two no-shows cancelled the day of via a text to my husband for a pretty lame reason.  They have yet to speak to me and it seems incredibly clear that they hadn’t been planning to come at all.

I know this sounds cliche, but it really was their loss!

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

We had a smallish wedding so it was easy to notice that we never saw so and so. Also we had escort cards so ones that weren’t taken made it more obvious. We only had last minute cancellations, no true no shows though I guess. 

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