(Closed) Married Bees: How long did you wait to send out your wedding thank yous?

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
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  • Post # 32
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I sent ours about three months after. I could use the excuse that we did a photo card, but I had my photos within a month. I was just so done with everything wedding after my wedding.

    We went to a wedding this August and have yet to receive a thank you.

    Post # 34
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I haven’t even begun.  My life was flipped upside down after Superstorm Sandy.  It’s been completely chaotic so I’m probably waiting until after the New Year.

    Post # 35
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I did them immediately. I thought it was more important to make sure my guests knew their thoughtfulness was appreciated than to wait months for a photo, though I know why some people do that.

    Post # 36
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

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    @SpecialSundae:  Can I ask why you got depressed by them? not judging, just curious.

    Post # 37
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

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    @Rouquine:  Oh no! Hope things get sorted soon.

    Post # 38
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

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    @Mrsluckywife:  Honestly? I’m not sure. I’ve always found thank you letters awkward and uncomfortable to write and there were times that I would rather have sent the gifts bavk.

    Post # 39
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

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    @SpecialSundae:  Aah ok! I wondered if it was perhaps a sort of thing about not wanting the wedding to be over. I know what you mean – it’s hard to think of how to word thank you’s sometimes! 🙂

    Post # 40
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I sent most of mine out a while ago (before school got hectic!), but there are still half a dozen sitting around waiting to be addressed.  (Thank you for moving), but some of these are to vendors.  

    Post # 41
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    We received registry gifts from about half of our guests before the wedding, and we sent out thank you notes for those within a week of receiving the gift.  Most of the rest were done within a month of the wedding, but I still have a stack of 10 to write.  I am going to force myself to do them tonight because I want to send my holiday cards this weekend, and the thank yous have to come first!

    Post # 42
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Mine will be going out sometime between 4.5 and 6 months.  Right after we got back from the honeymoon we bought a house, one of us moved from a different state, We’re both working on our Ph.D’s, and we lost my grandmother to cancer and his sister to complications from childbirth. All in the past four months.  If my family and friends don’t understand why they are later than originally planned, then they aren’t very good family and friends. 

    That being said, we aren’t doing christmas cards this year. 

    Post # 43
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Didn’t do mine yet. I think I’ll write thank you’s in Christmas cards this week. I was told you have 1 year from your wedding to thank people for gifts since they have 1 year to send a gift.

    Post # 44
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I finished sending them out within 2 or 3 weeks of the wedding, but to be fair, most our guests had given us the gifts before the wedding and I wrote the thank yous beforehand as well. I wasn’t working the 2 months before the wedding and started grad school a month after, so I had time to do it before and then needed to get it done so it wasn’t hanging over my head while beginning a phd! 

    Post # 45
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Emily Post says it should be done within 3 months. 2 weeks is a bit ridiculous IMO…we did ours at about the 2 month mark.

    When should notes be written?

    Contrary to popular myth, the happy couple does not have a year’s grace period.  All thank you notes should be written within three months of the receipt of the gift. Ideally, a response should be written on the day you receive a wedding gift. If that’s not possible, set a daily goal. It’s a lot easier to write three or four notes a day than to have to write a hundred notes in a month after the wedding!

    Post # 46
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

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    @Westwood:  lol oh well, too late for me.

    I’ll probably do all of them today anyway since I’m bored. I think I only have 20 to do in the first place, should take an hour or so. =)

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