(Closed) Married Bees: How long did you wait to send out your wedding thank yous?

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: How many months did it take you to send out your thank yous?

    < or equal to 1 month

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  • Post # 62
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Our wedding was in November, but it only had 35 people cause it was a destination wedding.  Our much larger at-home reception was only last weekend. 

    I ordered our photo cards on the weekend and they should arrive next week.  The goal is to get them out by mid-January, so that’ll be about 2 months since the actual wedding, but only a little over a month since the at-home reception when we got the vast majority of our gifts cause even the people who attended the ‘real’ wedding waited to give us our gifts at the at-home.

    Post # 63
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I just found out that a friend who got married in June hasn’t even started hers yet… It makes me feel a lot better.

    Post # 64
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I can’t vote because “I haven’t done that yet” isn’t a choice. I’ve been married FIVE MONTHS and haven’t done it yet. I have a reason, I’m not just being insensitive. 

    Post # 65
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    It was such a relief to do ours – I felt so guilty until I did.  I even had my stepmom calling me to ask if I’d received her friend’s gifts because they had called her to check since I hadn’t sent a thank you yet.  Seriously, who does that one month after the wedding?!  Anyway, because of that, I got all mine out a little over 2 months after the wedding.  I made DH do his family and friends, and they were mailed out 3 months after the wedding.

    Post # 66
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    615 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I sent ours about a week after our wedding day. I practically lost sleep over NOT doing thank-you’s immediately. I was DYING to thank our loved ones for all of their generosity and effort, so I practically held my breath until every single one was in the mail.

    Plus, I didn’t want the task of writing all of the thank you notes right after coming home from a ~2 week honeymoon!

    Post # 67
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    758 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I’m a “better late than never” type of person when it comes to thank yous.  While we tried our best to get out TYs out as soon as possible, we did not receive our pro pics until 6 months after our wedding.  We had made the mistake of promising people that a picture would be included in the Thank You notes…bad move. Once we finally got our pictures, we wrote out very heartfelt notes to every person – thanking them for the specific gift they gave us, told them how it was being used in the house, etc.

    We received a lot of positive feedback from people who received their cards.  I feel as though they were happy to be thanked for their gift and for attending the wedding, regardless of whether we were able to get them out “in time”.

    I still feel bad about it though.  I have been disappointed by others who did not send any thank you at all for weddings that passed years ago.  And another couple sent us a thank you card 2 years after the wedding date.  It was a post card with their signature signed on the back…no message written in it at all.  I would have probably preferred no card, over a signed post-card.

    Post # 68
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    322 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    We haven’t sent ours out yet. Whoops! I started grad school a week after the wedding and have been working full time and hitting school full time since. So, we will get them done in January.

    Post # 69
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I’m not married yet but I just wanted to add that my friends got married this past March and we just now received the Thank You card. Not going to lie, I had totally forgotten about their wedding and was like “dang, they sent these really late” when I got it in the mail haha.

    Post # 71
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Catholic Church

    I sent out a bunch already, but then school picked up and I still haven’t finished them all. I heard though that up to a year after the wedding can be acceptable. But everyone has different views on how long it should take. I sent out the ones to people who might get insulted first then I’ve been slowly working my way through the rest.

    Post # 72
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    883 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I sent mine out the next week.

    Post # 73
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I wrote thank you notes for all of the gifts that I had received before I left for my wedding.  It took me about three weeks to finish the remainder of them. 

    Post # 74
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    1262 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    Didn’t vote bc I’m not married yet, but I had to add that I just received a thank you note (5 months later) that was just a collage of pictures of the couple taken by friends (I know because they are on facebook as well) with a typed out message of ‘Thank you!” 

    I guess I understand them taking a relatively long time if you are (1) waiting for professional pictures and/or (2) handwriting them out (her wedding was 350+ ppl), but I could have smacked that collage together and sent it to Wal-Mart to print in one day.  I also thought it was rude/sloppy that the address label said “Ms. “RedWine13″ and guest” even though she’s met my now fiance half a dozen times (we got engaged after the wedding and she definitely knows about it).  But 5 months for THAT? 

    On the contrary, my parents just received one of the most thoughtful thank you notes less than a month after the wedding of a girl they barely knew (they are friends with her parents).  The girl doesn’t even know me but wished my mom well in my wedding planning process.  Best thank you note and worst thank you note received in the same week!

    Post # 75
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I plan on having mine out about a month or so after but mine will be simple. A picture from the wedding day of the 2 of us, with a “Thank you for celebrating this special Day with us” generic line on the font. Then a little couple lines on each on the back handwritten so its personal. Done. 

    Post # 76
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012 - Prairie Production- Chicago (loft)

    Im going to intentionally wait till the holidays pass…. with all the Christmas festivities- my little cards would have just gotten lost in all the chaos… so I wanted to wait until things calmed down and people woould smile when they get a nice small envelope in the mail- alone- and not with a sea of holiday cards.

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