Post # 1
Ok, so I know this question has been asked about a dozen times, but I’m throwing mine out there for the newly married.
What percentage RSVPed no to your wedding?
I’ve heard the 20% rule for in town weddings and 50% for destination weddings, but I would love to hear from some real brides what their actual headcount was vs. how many were invited.
My parent’s side of the guest list has ballooned to about 65 people bringing our total invitees to about 145 including children. Yikes! Our wedding is in the woods and the reception is in a barn.
Our venue can accomodate that many, though it would be cramped, and my mother has offered to chip in more to cover the costs of some of the guests she’s insisting on inviting, which I consider very generous, so space and funds aren’t the biggest issue. The main thing is the feel of the whole thing…my Fiance and I really wanted a small, intimate wedding and 145 is a lot to us (when we started planning, we couldn’t think of more than 75 to invite. ha!) I would be elated with 100 attendees.
So I’m hoping you can alleviate some stress if I give up the fight and let my mom get all her invitees. About 35% of total guests are out of towners, but the wedding site is 1.5-2 hrs away from our city, so I feel like everyone is kind of an out of towner in a “mini-destination” wedding. There also aren’t accomodations at the site, so guests would need to book hotel rooms between 2-15 miles away, (its kinda the middle of nowhere) so that may dissuade some people too.
What were your real headcounts, bees? Were any of you in a “mini-destination” wedding situation too?
Post # 3
We invited 300 people, and we ended up with about a 30% “no” rate. And we weren’t in any way a destination wedding. A large part of that came from my dad’s friends, who are all teachers, and who had summer vacations planned during the weekend of our wedding. We ended up extending a few additional informal invites.
Post # 4
bumping. I know its been asked about a billion times, but I havent gotten what I need from the other threads 😉
Post # 5
…and my mom and I are having our final discussion about the guest list today….
Post # 6
We sent out invites to around 102 guests and ended up having
89 guests attend. However, when i sent out invites i already knew who couldn’t attend prior invites going out due to pre planned vacations, illness, where they live etc. I think only 2 couples couldnt attend over those guests!
Post # 7
Eeep! Was your wedding in your town? Did you have very many out of towners invited?
Post # 8
@Roe – Our wedding was intown and I should also tell you on a Friday(which some people needed to take off work). 70% of our guests were with in 45 minutes of our venue and roughly 25% lived between 1 – 4 hours away from our venue. 5% were out of country. No one out of province did not attend. We had a couple relatives from Europe who surprisingly did attend our wedidng but unless they mention that they will be attending I wouldn’t count on it. I honestly believe if people really want to attend they will make the effort if it is their control. Send some individual emails to your relatives/friends and your parents should do the same (especially the ones are maybes in your mind) letting them know the date and you will get a rough idea who will attending or not.
Post # 9
Wedding and reception 1: Off the top of my head, about 125 invited, 78 coming. Only a few of those were flying to get there (ourselves included).
Reception 2: Maybe invited 75 and ended up with 50. Some were a write off pretty early on (ie my aunt/uncle/cousins in Guatemala), but obviously invited. That was after my parents footed the bill for two of my cousins, my brother and his fiancée to fly in from university (yay mom and dad!)
Post # 10
We invited 175 and had 125. Pretty good considering it was a weekday during the holidays!
We went down our list before we sent out the invites and marked as definite/maybe/no and were pretty much bang-on in our estimate. Would an exercise like this help at all?
Post # 12
We invited 210 people and 185 showed up. Its about that ratio, I was hesitant to invite more people (we paid 200 plates) bc I was afraid that they would all show up but reading other ppls replies I would say just let your mom invite about 30 people LOL
Post # 13
We invited 122, had 89 RSVP yes, and 84 actually show up. I should also say two things: (1) our wedding was out of town for nearly everyone and (2) some of the difference between the number invited and the number RSVPing yes was due to people not bringing their plus ones.