Post # 1
From other posts, I gather that not everyone who says they’ll attend a wedding actually shows up. We invited 95 people and got 71 YES and 24 NO responses (well, including 3 no-replies that we eventually counted as no’s). This is perfect, as we originally planned for 70 guests.
But what happens next? Will all or most of these people actually show up, now that we’ve paid for them and reserved them a seat? Did some of your guests cancel? If so, did they let you know or just not show up? If this happened, what were the reason(s)? Do tell!
Post # 3
I think our situation was a little different b/c we invited so many. About 300 RSVP’d yes, they would come, and about 289 showed. I wasn’t too happy.
Post # 4
We had 327 rsvp they were coming, but we had about 8 couples that didn’t come. It worked out fine, though.
Post # 5
I had 2 no-shows out of 60 planned guests. You still end up paying for their plates 🙁
Post # 6
We invited 128, and 90 RSVP’d yes. I underestimated with the venue just to be on the safe side at the three week “final” number as 84. Between the 3 week point, and the 3 day for real FINAL number we were right at 84. We had 81 on the day.
Post # 7
All 54 people that RSVP’ed YES came too our wedding! The trick…it was a Destination Wedding in Aruba so I kinda knew that they were definites. At least they did all show up to wedding and we didn’t get dissed for the sun & sand!
Post # 8
I’m having the same concerns, especially since our wedding is quasi-destination (2-4 hour drive for most people). I’ve heard horror stories of 20 people out of a 100 person wedding just not showing up the day-of…
What are people’s experiences?
Post # 9
We had 112 that RSVP’d yes. Two people cancelled after we gave our final numbers. 3 left after the ceremony (one because he has a broken leg and was in too much pain to stay, the other two because my friend went into labor!) We had about 2 no shows. So we payed for 7 extra plates.
Post # 10
We paid for probably 20 extra plates. While that’s on the high side, I think it actually happens often, from other stories I’ve heard.
Post # 11
We invited about 100. We had 69 RSVP yes. Only 60 showed up. Fortunately, we had a buffet and no assigned seating, so we just ended up with more leftovers than anticipated–and we ate the leftovers for the next month.
Post # 12
Ugh I’m so worried about this. Particularly because we’re getting married in the winter and some people have made noises about weather. I’m worried its going to snow like 3 inches and no one will show up.
Post # 13
I only had two of our YES responses not show up, but they called the day before and had a very serious family emergency so of course they couldn’t sit around and watch me get married.
Post # 14
I’m worried about this, but I’m also worried about the opposite. How many people who said they weren’t coming might actually show up? So far, I’ve had two people tell me after the final counts were in that they’re coming after all. And ask if they can bring their kids. Argh!!!!!!
Post # 15
We had a few cancel after our final count was due, and a few show up without telling us they were coming. Overall, it evened out.
Post # 16
I had just one no-show, but I knew about it ahead of time and it was for a really good reason (daughter was admitted to hospital).