(Closed) Married Bee’s—if you could change something from your wedding day…

posted 10 years ago in Married Life
Post # 32
489 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@sweetkischa: Nice tip about planning the timing of the photography so that you can really enjoy everything else going on.

Post # 33
237 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I would have made my bridesmaids and mum hurry up more when getting ready so there would have been time to get my getting ready on video. And I wish I had more time to use the photobooth with guests and I forgot to mention a few photos I wanted to the photographer. But only little things.

Post # 34
233 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Only thing I would have done differently is gotten a videographer — the day really does fly by and it’s impossible to remember everything.

Post # 35
13 posts
  • Wedding: July 2011

hmm.. i would have to ditto on the remembering to reapply lipstick more often.

and our situation was funny because we traveled from Texas to Wales for our wedding and our officiant wasn’t able to come out the day before the wedding to the hotel where the wedding was for a rehearsal because it was pretty remote… so we had a mini-rehearsal, but not with our officiant. there were a few tiny flubs that only I noticed that we could have avoided if we’d had time to go through things with the officiant.

Also, would have been nice to have a chance to talk to our musicians in person before the ceremony. I’d set up everything from a distance, so there were a couple of moments that weren’t exactly what I’d planned since I hadn’t talked to him in person on the day of the wedding. 

Basically, if you’re having a wedding where you don’t get to know your vendors in person, MAKE SURE you make the time to get together with them face to face, even if it means you have to factor that in on the day of your wedding. We got to meet our photographers the day before and there were no problems at all with the photography. 🙂

but all in all, it worked out great. the flubs were so tiny that (as I said) i’m pretty positive even my fantastically type a Maid/Matron of Honor didn’t notice!


Post # 36
1373 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@UpstateCait:  This was similar to ours.  We made our own margarita mix for our signature drink and it was way too acidic.  A few people complained of indigestion and I’m pretty sure they were the ones who had the most margaritas.

I think the only thing I might have changed is starting the ceremony a little later so we could have had a bit more time in the morning, and not had dinner at 4:30 in the afternoon… since we had the venue as late as we wanted, that wasn’t an issue.  It would have been nice to get up and get a walk or jog in just to burn off some energy, since I was literally bouncing off the walls hyper for half the night.  Which was fun, except I feel like I was kind of forcing people to dance with me.

Post # 37
4211 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would have hired a videographer. I am still SO sad we dont have any video from our entire wedding.

I would have worn my hair differently, most likely down

I would have done a first look (which DH told me AFTER our wedding that he wishes we had done but he was adamant about not seeing me)

Post # 38
6422 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

these are great tips!

Post # 39
2637 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Oh, I thought of another one… This is probably just lack of thinking on my part, but as the gifts started trickling in the mail prior to the wedding, I didn’t keep track of who sent what. I just sent thank-yous as they came, and didn’t think about how I might be curious in the future to remember who sent what! (oh how stupid!)

Post # 40
860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

– I would have told my family to chill, flat out. My mom was cursing at me on my wedding day and I’ll probably hold it against her for forever.

– I would have found some other way to get my caterer the food by table list. I printed a zillion copies out and put them in different boxes but they all got lost somehow and I had to leave the reception in the middle of it to go print out the food lists. The poor caterer also had to cut the portions down because of this because he didn’t want to run out, even though we’d ordered a ton. The food was delicious but the drama was unnecessary.

– I would have put my foot down when my mom bought waaaaaaay too much wine. I also would have insisted she get “normal” beer since no one liked her personal choices that I flat out told her not to order

– I would have snagged the left over food and candy immediately. I have no idea who took it but whoever they are got a LOT of candy

– I would have made the time for DH and I to learn how to dance, bc we were AWFUL lol

– I would have insisted someone double check my sister’s lacing of my corset, bc my perfectly fitted custom gown was slipping down and spilling my boobs all night.

– Come to think of it, I might have hired a professional coordinater, even though they are incredibly expensive in my area, bc I ended up doing everything myself anyway and while I didn’t mind my family did NOT handle the stress well.

– I would have ignored almost everything my step father in law said because his planning never pans out. I booked wait staff and valets, he insisted I cancel bc he had people already, his people never showed, but I had warned mine to be on stand by and they showed up and did the job right. Unless they’re the ones who took the pounds and pounds candy, in which case darn them

All that said, we still had an incredible wedding and I don’t really regret anything.

Post # 41
547 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Just two things:

1) I would’ve played the first dance songs from our parents’ weddings at some point during the reception as a surprise for them. I thought of that idea randomly a few weeks after the wedding, and I SO wish I would’ve thought of it before.

2) I would’ve somehow stopped the little kids from throwing the leftover candy buffet candy at us as we were doing our sparkler exit. My wedding dress has little blue stains all over it from the Sixlets that were melting in little kids’ hands and then thrown at me…

Post # 42
4560 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@sweetkischa: I wore mine when I watched the Royal Wedding. I threaten to wear it when I’m vaccuuming LOL

I would have:

  • visited my flowers the day before (I ended up with the wrong colored flowers)
  • Start makeup/hour an hour earlier than even the professionals think you should
  • Know where you are going to hide your groom if 1)he shows up early and 2) you aren’t doing a first look
  • Done the cake cutting between course 2 and 3
  • More Pictures of the guests

Post # 43
325 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I would have called the bakery and florist again to confirm what I had ordered so that I knew everything was correct. My floral arrangements for the ceremony and my wedding cake were not exactly what I ordered. :/ It was still a beautiful day, though!!!

I also would have done a “trash the dress” photo shoot but I might still do this for our 5th anniversary!

@OhBeeHive84: Actually, I would have done this too. My veil wasn’t long enough to cause any discomfort and I wish I’d worn it longer.

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