(Closed) Married Bees: If you could have one do-over…

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Post # 17
929 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would’ve had my sister re-tighten my corsetted top. As the night went on–(it was super hot), my dress got looser and looser.

And, I wouldve tried to talk to more people. The night just flew by!

Post # 18
3519 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I would have made my place cards weeks prior instead of the last week.

Post # 19
494 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Melini:  I completely forgot to do table numbers and name cards.  I agonized over my seating chart and then the morning of I was scribbling numbers and food choices on the backs of these name cards my SIL got for me at the last minute.  The cards got to the reception hall but there were no table numbers…ugh.  When I got to my seat at the head table I panicked because nobody was where I had seated them!  And my parents got a bum deal and were at a horrible table.  I felt awful about it and not to mention the name cards with the food choices looked so haphazard.  

I also would have picked a different hairstyle.  My hair looked very bad.  It was this low bun in the back but one side hung down lower than the other and it was asymmetrical, which can be seen in any head on pictures.  When she finished my hair that morning and I looked in the mirror I hated it but did not say anything because I didn’t want to be rude.  I hate looking at my wedding pictures because I can’t stand my hair and it makes me cringe every time.

Post # 20
756 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would have made sure we talked to everyone. We missed a couple of tables when we went around the room to greet our guests, and I did not see those people until they came to tell me they were leaving. I felt so terrible.

I would have put more rational thought into the songs I chose for dancing, instead of just choosing songs I loved. The music was one of the most important parts of the day for me, but I definitely chose some songs that weren’t as danceable for a large group as they initially seemed in my head. I am known among my friends for having great taste in music, so I was really embarrassed that there was a serious lull in dancing at one point.

I would have gotten all of my cousins together for a photo. It seemed like too big of a hassle at the time, but it’s a photo I very much regret not getting. We are rarely all in the same place, much less all dressed up.

Post # 21
10285 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I have 4… 

  1. I wouldn’t have had my ex step dad walk me down the aisle. He and my mom split like 2 months after our wedding and he’s been a huge dick about it. I’m really sad that my pictures have him in them even though he was a HUGE part of my life for so many years. In retrospect, my uncle should have given me away and I totally regret not realizing it sooner.
  2. I wouldnt have drank so many god damn mimosas while we were getting ready. The champagne had no affect on me but the gallon or so of OJ that I consumed wreaked havoc on my insides during the reception. Stomach cramps like you wouldn’t believe. It totally put a damper on the night but I tried not to let it bother me too much. 
  3. I would have paid more attention to our ceremony set up. I don’t know if it was our venue or our DOC’s doing (I’m thinking more the venue) but the seats were soooo close together that people were crammed in there like sardines and the aisle was insanely narrow. Darling Husband and I almost did fit down it during our recessional. I ended up kicking a gourd that was lining the aisle the whole way down. That was a bummer. 
  4. I should have put my DOC in charge of wrangling our families for pictures. There were quite a few family members that didn’t make their way into any formal shots because I completely forgot about them (oops). We don’t even have a single picture with Darling Husband and his grandmother. I’m sure that really pissed her off. Definitely unintentional, though. 

All in all, it was an amazing day and I can’t dwell on the regrets. No wedding will ever be perfect, even if the flaws aren’t immediately apparent. 

Post # 22
2353 posts
Buzzing bee

This is such a useful thread! I’m already re-thinking some plans based on this advice!

Post # 23
1119 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I wouldn’t change anything, as I loved our wedding; but I would love to do it all over again a few times so I can wear a different dress every time!

Post # 24
2918 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

I wish I hadn’t been sick! I got strep throat and was in the emergency room begging for antibiotics two nights before the wedding, and was still running a fever on our wedding day. It was rotten but at least the antibiotics had kicked in by the time we left for our honeymoon.

Really, though (because getting sick isn’t something other people can avoid on my advice) I wish I had made more decisions in the planning stages based on what Darling Husband and I really wanted instead of letting other people’s opinions sway us. It was a wonderful day and everything went smoothly, but in retrospect I think it might have been my mother’s wedding more than mine.

Post # 25
1990 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

This thread is full of great advice!

I’m bumping to get more! Only 30 days left & I want NO regrets!

Post # 26
215 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My dress. It was a total disaster and I looked really really bad. I still have a hard time looking at the pictures. I wish I had tried it on the day before so  I had a chance to figure out how to fix it. 

Post # 27
2696 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I would have done the ipod reception thing rather than a DJ.

Our DJ was fine, but I’m so, so into music. He played some of our music, but then played a lot of “crowd pleasers,” when in reality, most of our guests would have loved our slightly off the beaten path choices! I feel like if I made the playlist and set it up with speakers, I would have done a better job and been happier listening to my songs.

Post # 28
134 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I wouldn’t have cried.through.the.entire.ceremony.

I am a very emotional person, and it wasn’t just “sweet” tears. I cried something awful.

I wouldn’t have worn my glasses.




Post # 29
684 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I would have not told anyone that we are eloping. I thought it would soften the impact if we would just came back and told the families. Well, if I would do it over, I would not even tell them we got married, lol. I would just keep the happiness all to ourselves 🙂

I would get my nails done a couple of days before the wedding.

I would record the wedding vows, since we were both so in the moment, we don’t remember all the things we said.

I would not change anything else, though. The day was peaceful and romantic just like we hoped it would be 🙂

Post # 30
198 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think that some things go out of your control but there is really nothing you can do about it.  There were a few things that I would change:

-The priest was trying to rush through everything and instead of having a ceremony of an hour it was about 45 minutes because he had another wedding right after mine and we had started late.

-I also regret not hiring a real videographer because we got it as a gift from my husbands friend.  He missed our first dance because he was charging the camera and my brother has about 19 seconds of it but from far away.  He was a guest and decided to get drunk so I don’t know how it will come out, he is still editing it.

-The flowers for my wedding arrived in a different color (orange) and I had ordered pale pink with ivory.  My wedding planner returned them the day of the wedding and the florist didn’t have pink so all the arrangements were ivory.  It was still nice so I didn’t complain.

-I had ceviche as an appetizer but they did not serve 30 out of 150 because there was something wrong with the fish. 

Other than that everything was great, the venue looked beautiful, we welcomed everyone with coctails/finger foods, had a great dinner, the DJ played the music I had requested, we had a photo booth, and my guests enjoyed it.  I’ve had nothing but good comments.  I am still waiting for my profesional photos.  I hope your wedding is perfect!

Post # 31
766 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013



oh nooooo dried lavender is my dream bouquet!!!

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