(Closed) Married Bees, If you had it to do all over….

posted 11 years ago in Married Life
Post # 17
1033 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Ohhh funny, I clicked on this post ready to answer “I’d elope” but I see other’s have beat me to it!

Wedding is a week from Saturday so right now I can’t answer except for I wish we had had a Destination Wedding and then had a nice reception with friends and family.

Post # 18
511 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I would have held my shoulders back in more of the candids…formal pics, I look great, candids, I look like I’m slouching.

Would have created a Facebook page rather than Twitter account for all the guests to “follow” us while we were in Disneyland (tix to Disneyland were our favors & we were trying to spend as much time with each group of guests as possible).

Would have made sure that the bar we had at the welcome party after the church ceremony had beer…had well drinks, juice, & soda…but no beer.  So glad my cousin went to the store & snuck some in for my grandpa!

Would have requested more umbrellas for our outdoor reception…Disney gave us more as soon as they could, but some guests had to suffer for about 45 minutes until they could.

Would have changed into a different dress for the reception…it was HOT.

Other than that, it could NOT have gone better!  Even those guests who were skeptics LOVED our wedding!  Everyone had a blast!

Post # 19
125 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@ ms.pascua: thanks for the tip on putting my shoulders back!!!!! Will do on Saturday :).

Post # 20
1953 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I was so happy that someone made us a plate of all the appetizers and had it sitting on our table when we finally got to sit down! 

I wish my dress had been bustled shorter.

I wish I had spent more time describing my cake to the bakery better.

Post # 21
1245 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I would have waited longer to get married and hopefully been less stressed out about planning it.

Post # 22
3 posts
  • Wedding: June 2010

I would have been clearer about my own hopes and expectations for our wedding day, because partway through the process they got lost in the chaos. I wanted something very simple and inexpensive (that’s just the sort of couple my husband and I are), and ended up with a wedding that cost much more than I was comfortable with (although our parents paid for it – but it still made me uncomfortable). Many of the things we argued over, such as whether or not to have real china at our reception ultimately didn’t matter at all, and a month later I don’t even remember what they looked like. I had a feeling it would be like that…I just wish I had stuck to my guns more about those things. 🙂

I probably would have had a smaller wedding party too. I asked bridesmaids to be in my wedding party about a year before the big day, and let’s face it…life changes a lot in a year. I ended up with 8 bridesmaids while we only had 80 guests, while I probably would have been fine with fewer.

More than anything else, I regret stressing out SO MUCH over the wedding day. Sure, it’s a great, once in a lifetime event, but ultimately I did not enjoy being engaged and I couldn’t wait for it all to be over. I love being married now, and the wedding day was great, but it would have been wonderful no matter what because our guests were genuinely there to celebrate us.

Oh, and I would have eaten more than a carrot and one piece of cantaloupe…I couldn’t even make it to our buffet table, with everyone stopping me along the way!

Good luck to you future brides…marriage is a wonderful thing…the wedding day is just the start!

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