- 11 years ago
- Wedding: June 2010
I would have been clearer about my own hopes and expectations for our wedding day, because partway through the process they got lost in the chaos. I wanted something very simple and inexpensive (that’s just the sort of couple my husband and I are), and ended up with a wedding that cost much more than I was comfortable with (although our parents paid for it – but it still made me uncomfortable). Many of the things we argued over, such as whether or not to have real china at our reception ultimately didn’t matter at all, and a month later I don’t even remember what they looked like. I had a feeling it would be like that…I just wish I had stuck to my guns more about those things. 🙂
I probably would have had a smaller wedding party too. I asked bridesmaids to be in my wedding party about a year before the big day, and let’s face it…life changes a lot in a year. I ended up with 8 bridesmaids while we only had 80 guests, while I probably would have been fine with fewer.
More than anything else, I regret stressing out SO MUCH over the wedding day. Sure, it’s a great, once in a lifetime event, but ultimately I did not enjoy being engaged and I couldn’t wait for it all to be over. I love being married now, and the wedding day was great, but it would have been wonderful no matter what because our guests were genuinely there to celebrate us.
Oh, and I would have eaten more than a carrot and one piece of cantaloupe…I couldn’t even make it to our buffet table, with everyone stopping me along the way!
Good luck to you future brides…marriage is a wonderful thing…the wedding day is just the start!