Post # 1
This is for all the married bees out there!
I ask, only because I have been thinking a lot lately about my choice of bridesmaids. Now that the wedding is all said and done and I can reflect, I definitely would have overthrown the entire bridal party and replaced everyone with my friends from out of town. I didn’t include them originally because I thought it might be too much to ask and a hardship…turns out they would’ve been much better all the way around (and much less drama)!
So what about you ladies, would you have kept em the same, or done an overhaul??
Post # 3
I wouldnt have changed who my bridesmaids were, but I wouldve had my Maid/Matron of Honor be a Bridesmaid or Best Man and had another Bridesmaid or Best Man be my Maid/Matron of Honor. My Maid/Matron of Honor didnt do anything wrong, she was great but I am now much better friends with my Bridesmaid or Best Man who I wouldve rathered been the Maid/Matron of Honor.
Post # 4
I would have kept mine the same…but only because I had just my Maid/Matron of Honor who was amazing!!!
Post # 5
No. We chose my sister as our only attendant and I am so glad we did. I was worried that my husband would regret not having a true best man, but ihe says he doesn’t. It was wonderful because it was so simple to just worry about one person rather than twelve.
Post # 6
I didn’t even get married yet and I wish I could change mine!
Post # 7
if you had asked me this right after the wedding I would have given you a change- his sister caused a lot of drama by skipping all the bridesmaid things including my shower for what i felt were flimsy excuses. I realize now a few months after the wedding that she was honored to be a part of it and she just didnt know what to do- and her mom told her she didnt have to do those things. So now I’m glad we included her.
Before the wedding I think I was annoyed at least with every bm (exept my MOH) at one point and they all really came through on the day!
Post # 8
I wouldn’t change a thing.
Post # 9
I would have kept it the same. Sure, I would have loved it to be drama free but I learned that in the wedding world nothing is 100% stress free.
Post # 10
Interesting to hear! My bridesmaids weren’t drama (not until after I left the reception at least, so I wasn’t there for it) but they just weren’t ANYTHING. None of them did anything except show up the day of the wedding…and I didn’t even see any of them at the reception! I had a group of friends from across the country come out for the wedding, and they acted more like my bridesmaids than any of my real girls…I just didn’t ask them to be bridesmaids because they lived so far away.
It’s great to hear that so many ladies would NOT have changed their bridesmaids, that makes me happy!
Post # 11
I would’ve dropped the crazy girl who asked me after the wedding if she could move in with my husband and i. Oh wait, she didn’t ask, she ASSUMED it’d be ok. Then when i told her it “wasn’t feasible”, she flipped out and said we weren’t friends.
So i’d cut one out =]
Post # 12
nope! I didn’t have any bridesmaids! I had a couple of close friends help me get ready the day of, but other than that no one! and my best friends appreciated the fact that they didn’t have to go out and buy a dress that they didn’t like or sit at a table away from their other friends…it was great!
Post # 13
Yeah, I think a lot of you read my recap, which included the horror story of my maid of honor. It was such a horrible experience that I’m reevaluating the entire friendship, not just the choice to have her stand up next to me. I know now that I chose her over other friends because I knew she was the only friend of mine that would be angry if she wasn’t my maid of honor. That was a horrible reason to choose someone, and it wasn’t her fault, it was mine. It breaks my heart that other friends, who deserved that honor, didn’t get it because I was too afraid of pissing off one friend, who hasn’t been a good friend to me anyway. Those wonderful friends spent the week of my wedding working to keep my MOHs behavior from becoming a problem, as much as they could. She has always made things about her and can’t manage to think about anyone else–my other dear friends thought only about me and made my week amazing. I am so lucky to have those friends, and I’m glad that I learned so much from this experience with my Maid/Matron of Honor. But yes, if I could go back and do it differently, I definitely would.
Post # 14
i loved my bridesmaids! i chose my sil and sister b/c it’s a small wedding so we just wanted close family. they were amazing! they were always interested and asking about the wedding, and they threw me the best parties! even though my sister it oot, she was very involved and even randomly bought me my hair flower one day. it made me really excited to be her moh one day.
Post # 15
I’m not sure that I would have changed the choice, but I would have made them wait longer and really consider what I was asking before they said yes. I said what I would need from BMs and that it was really up to them if they wanted to take on the responsability or to just be guests and I’d be fine either way
They all were like immediately “oh yeah, definitely!” “of course! this will be great!” but when it came time for doing the things I’d talked about (helping with shower, finding dresses) they didn’t actually help out, which was kind of akward. My Maid/Matron of Honor was amazing, but I felt a little bad that I hadn’t found much help for her.
Post # 16
I would have. My friends with a few of the ladies dwindled and their lack of interest truly showed on the wedding day.