Post # 1
There are so many things I loved about our wedding day but there are a few things I wish I could change. They really are just silly things, but they bug me a lot. I try to push them out of my mind, but they come back whenever i look at our picture or any one mentions our wedding.
I wish we had set up the ceremony a bit different; the aisle was too wide etc. And we had a sign out saying pick a seat not a side yet everyone sat on sides.
I wish we had had more tables out at our reception now; we wanted everyone to dance and mingle all night so we had a part standing reception with limited seating but most people that sat at tables kind of held them hostage all night. We really only had a few set up so people could sit if they wanted while they ate, it was all finger food/sandwiches reception (eat when you’re ready) not a sit down meal. Now when I think back I end up feeling guilty and worried people thought bad of us for the amount of seating.
There are a few photos I wanted that we ran out of time for…so I actually think for our anniversary we will do a miny shoot and I will put my dress back on. Make it into a rock the dress type thing. (I really want to wear my dress again lol)
There were a few things decoration wise etc I ran out of time and money for. Lots of things like that and I try to put it out of my mind but I can’t.
I actually dread other peoples wedding now because of the things that bug me about ours.
It sucks because I put a lot of time and effort and thought into everything we did and still there are things I really want to change 🙁
Anyone else feel like this?
Post # 3
iu didn’t have my wedding yet…but i am tagging this page for later.
Post # 4
Not married either, but I started a similar post awhile back, you definitely aren’t alone!
i’m sorry to hear you aren’t happy with everything from your wedding, but try to remember that these are smaller details that likely most people didn’t notice, and instead they noticed how happy you were to start your lives together!
Post # 5
our wedding was beautiful though I wish we had more time. I would have started earlier for hair and make up. I would access my vendors more for feedback on timelines, my hair n make up should have been first for setting hair and then second to last for complete look. I wish I had hired a day of / set up person so I wouldn’t have been directing people on our day. I wish we had a group picture with all the guests on the stairs right after our ceremony, done the receiving line and then had time for a few bridal party pictures. I wish I spent more time greeting guests as a couple instead of separating at times. I wish I did not hire a friendor who proved to be unreliable with the catering and stuck with our original cost saving plan of a BBQ. I wish I had communicated that I wanted all the bouquets I made to be displayed at the head table. I wish I had filled the car with everything and was ready to go as soon and hair n make up was done instead of delaying my arrival at venue second guessing myself if I had everything when I started to get really nervous. I wish I had a sit down meeting with my photographer outlining my hopes and expectations of capturing the venue as a beautiful background and full pics of my dress.
Post # 6
@nativedesires: this is helpful – good reminders for the big day!
Post # 7
@Sarah_D: I get how you feel. Perhaps the best way to get over this is to plan a ‘Renewal of vows’ for your 2 year wedding anniversary? So you not only get to wear the dress again but to renew your vows and take all the pictures you want. I feel it could be more meaningful than just a photoshoot session as the vows renewal could bring up that warm, fuzzy feeling again thus the lovey-dovey photos! Just a thought! 😉
Post # 8
Thankyou all for answering. I know it’s silly and all that matters is that we got maried. But arrrghh my head likes to obsess about what I didn’t like. At least I know I’m not alone lol. And when I think about it there were some things that turned out better then expected. And some things I stressed about that didn’t matter at all in the end.
Post # 9
@Sarah_D: I’m glad you’re feeling better now! Yes, what matters most is that you are happily married to the love of your life! 🙂 Hurray!
Post # 10
There were some things that happened during my wedding that I think if I had a coordinator it would have been better. Mainly it would have spared me the work and stress bc I was organizing the majority of the wedding by myself. Also largely, I wish my in-laws didn’t try to come and change so many plans at the last minute. It was really annoying bc they weren’t really interested in the planning the many months before the wedding even though we tried to include them. It caused a lot of undue stress to deal with them and tell them no especially since they were trying to make major changes that could not happen in the short-time frame like switching the DJ out for a wedding karoake band. =/ My father-in-law became really difficult the days leading up to the wedding and wouldn’t listen to anyone. It wasn’t until I flat out told him his demands weren’t happening that he finally backed down but he sulked through most of it. So tiring.
Post # 11
@Sarah_D: It sounds like you have a bit of the post wedding blues… You need a new project now that the wedding is over. Maybe you and Darling Husband could find something new to do together?
Post # 12
@momolove: Thankyou 🙂 It is hurray!
@Olive12: Aw I’m sorry to hear that 🙁 thanks for posting.
@ivoryowl: You know I do think your right, I need something else to plan lol
Post # 13
If I could change one thing it would be to pay for the entire thing ourselves and actually have my father at the wedding….
Post # 14
@Sarah_D: Thanks. I’m pretty much over it now. Maybe I’ll remember all my lessons if I ever decide to do a vow renewal down the road. =)
Post # 15
I dont have a single pic of Hubs and I that I actually like 🙁 He looks good or I look good, but NOT ONE where we BOTH look good! So I’m sad that we dont have a portrait to hang in the house.
I also would have started earlier for hair and make-up. I had to be ready for pics at 11 and I ran about 45 minutes behind.
My ceremony was perfection
As for the reception, I wish I had timed benching (grace after meals…we’re jewish) a little better. It broke up the dancing and took a little while to get going again.
All in all, I have very little to complain about!