(Closed) Married Bees– True or False?

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I noticed a few things, like when my Mother-In-Law decided to call the shots on family photos.  Once I put my foot down, it wasn’t an issue anymore.  There were a few things I thought would bother me during the day, like my cousin who refused to go to our reception because her boyfriend wasn’t invited, but everything turned out fine.  I was very calm about little things that would have bugged me days before and it was so much fun!

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

*raises hand* I admit. I am the person who can not let things go…I noticed. I noticed my center pieces were not filled with water, and that my Mother-In-Law used cool whip on ONE teir of our cheesecake…and a few other things. lol.

Mostly it was all a blur, though.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

Very true. I even thought to myself “I want to see what the flowers down the aisle look like,” and then had no clue until I saw pictures. Both my hubby and I were worried b/c we didn’t see our photographer during the ceremony, but when we saw pictures, there he was right up front. There was a car that parked right there (outdoor ceremony) and blasted it’s radio for a while. Guests told me about it, but I didn’t hear it until I watched the video. My friend said her baby was singing to the music during the ceremony. I didn’t know (nor would I have cared).

After seeing things in photos and the video, I felt like I wasn’t even there! All my focus was on my hubby and getting married.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I think it is true. There were a ton of things I did not notice, but I was so blissfully happy on that day!

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

Our wedding day was wonderful….so, I didn’t have much to “notice” that was out of place, not what I desired, incorrect, etc.  I believe this was because I spent a ton of time planning and preparing. All of your hard work WILL pay off!!

The two things that I noticed that were different that what I had desired were the lack of flowers on the cake (which was my fault…an oversight that I missed when reviewing our floral contract) and that the chair sashes were chiffon instead of silk (which I later found out that there was a mishap with something being spilled on some of the silk ones).  All things that wouldn’t ruin our day.

So…..in a nutshell, I didn’t notice much, except how beautiful everything was!!!  Smile

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

i think its true of any event that you plan.. if u are the center of attention alot of things slip by unnoticed.. this is why pics and video recording are so important so you can watch it and relive the moments

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I noticed EVERYTHING. Even though I had a professional coordinator, because I’d done all the major planning myself I was super cognizant of all the details and how they all turned out. I almost felt like a director watching a production I put together. Didn’t stop me from enjoying the day though. Also I’m certain I was the only person paying attention to most of the details. For example I had the string quartet play my mom’s favorite song as my brother was walking her to her seat, but she says she was so nervous she didnt even hear any music. Some people didn’t get that the M&M printed on the favor boxes didn’t just mean the M&M’s we put inside, but were also our initials. Some people didn’t even notice I changed dresses after the ceremony, lol.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I just noticed how many people were late getting to the ceremony, it frustrated me and of course I had to come in the front of the church so a few people saw me. But it took the nervous out of me!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

To be honest, I only noticed the good things and had an amazing day.  I let absolutely everything go- except for one thing…. our photo slide show to be played during the receoption dinner… after an hour of worrying pre-ceremony, I said f* it and let it go too. 

We had technical difficulties (damn you early days of Windows 7), burned the file to a dvd and cd, and neither were compatible with our DJ’s equipment.  Apparently a flash drive would have solved the entire issue.  Thank goodness for our dj and our site coordinators, together they made it work after trying several computers and dvd players.  It was a fantastic surprise to see the slide show at dinner. 

In the long run it wouldn’t have been a huge issue, but it definitely made me love our DJ (Mark at PME DJ) and coordinators (Kelly and Sarah at the Phx Zoo) that much more for going the extra mile and making our day wonderful! 

Post # 12
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Blushing bee

I noticed EVERYTHING (but I am also an event planner and an extremely detail-oriented perfectionist) but I was so happy I shelved in until after the honeymoon.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Personally I noticed things, but I was in such a happy state I said, “oh well”, or if I reeeally wanted it dealt with, like I wanted those paper signs in those lemons that were out and sliced, or favor bins refilled, I kindly asked my Dad/BM/MOH and moved on. I didn’t check back or worry. If it happened, it happened. The day was about being happy and ENJOYING it, rather than thinking about what was ‘wrong’, because really, if you’re married, and the place isn’t burning down, life is wonderful!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I am a hyder-detail-oriented person.  So I noticed everything that wasn’t how I’d asked.  I noticed but I didn’t think anything of it because I knew no one else cared or knew how it was supposed to be.

Watching people come in late and seeing empty seats at the reception made me sad.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

Definitely true. There are just so many, many things that you have to consider during the wedding planning process and end up creating firm, thought-out opinions on, and you think you are going to care about every single one of them being exactly as you’ve decided you want it to be. It just isn’t like that. It’s hard to describe how powerful the emotions are that go through you on your wedding day, and they win out every time. Things that I thought would upset me just didn’t.

This might be relevant: my husband was home visiting his parents this past weekend, and they asked him, “Will the videographers be able to edit out that helicopter that flew over right as you guys were saying your vows?” My husband was like “…. What helicopter?” He mentioned it to me and I vaguely had a recollection far at the back of my mind of such a thing having happened, but we had both completely blocked it out. You’d think that would be a huge deal, having a loud helicopter fly over during the most important part of your wedding, but it’s almost two months later and this is the first time we’re even recalling it. As my Father-In-Law said to my husband, “It means you both were very, very focused on what really mattered at that moment.” That’s about right.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Totally true. I was sooo detail oriented during the planning process, but I was so caught up in the day that I really only paid attention to the big picture (it was gorgeous, perhaps if everything looked terrible I would have paid closer attention).

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