(Closed) Married Bees: What advice would you go back and give yourself during planning?

posted 7 years ago in Recaps
Post # 47
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I came to this realization unfortunately late in the process: “No one cares as much as you.” If you’re planning something fantastically awesome and it just doesn’t happen, either through miscommunication or running out of time or whatever, no one will notice it was missing except for you. And if you notice a typo on your programs or invites or whatever, while others may notice, no one will care about it as much as you do. Learn to let things go. Trust me – your sanity is worth turning off your Type A personality.

Post # 48
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Don’t freak out and have a major melt down the Monday before the wedding…it is a huge waste of energy and silly non-logical emotion that no one needed that day or the migraine that followed the major melt down.

Post # 49
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

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@excitedtobeMRSF:  Dear self, don’t let your mother stay with you….you know better.

Post # 50
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rosehill Community Center

Ugh.  Just a few things…

  1. Hire a coordinator so my family wouldn’t end up setting up pretty much everything (our caterer was great, except they didn’t do anything with the stuff I brought…) and so they wouldn’t have to break everything down at the end of the night.  I felt terrible seeing my mom and aunts and uncles running around getting everything set up
  2. Also had someone keeping better track of time.  
  3. Start saying hi to people who wouldn’t be sticking around as late, rather than our friends…
  4. Hire a videographer!  My cousin filmed the ceremony and the speeches, but they are hard to hear and terrible quality.
  5. Arrange to get my bouquet earlier in the day, it’s in like, ceremony and family photos, and that’s it.  It was gorgeous too!
  6. Make my Maid/Matron of Honor pick out her dress and give her things to do!  I ended up just buying a bunch for her to try on and then returning all but the one she picked, but she could have done that too…

I think that’s it.  It was an awesome day, and I am so glad it turned out well, but it would have been nice to be more prepared!

Post # 51
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Don’t forget your passports on the plane in the seat pocket in front of you and remember the next day.

Post # 52
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

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@RaspberryMcBoots:  Oh my gosh! Tell me you got them back! What ended up happening?

Post # 53
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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@BriansBride:  We did, but it was very stressful for me! A translator had to help us call the airline and the police. We were on an island by then and had to send a courier to the police station on the mainland. But a courier could only pick these up on our behalf with endorsements from the township. All parties spoke Greek and we don’t speak a lick, of course. And everyone was on island time, true to stereotype.

It was important to us to have a legal civil ceremony and not just a symbolic ceremony so we needed the passports. I was worried for days waiting for them to arrive! But I will definitely never accidentally forget our passports again.

Post # 54
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@excitedtobeMRSF:  I’m sorry, not married yet so don’t have any advice but wanted to let you know I LOVE your avatar!! I’m a Syracuse grad (class of 2004) and bleed Orange! Tongue Out

Post # 57
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would tell myself to change so much.

but # 1 would be to do exactly what I wanted and not worrya bout being a bride zilla.

# 2 change my colors.

# ditch the DJ

# change everything but the dress.

# make sure to have two photographers.

# make sure to let the videographer to know to film me walking down the asil from the front not the back.

I would change so much its not even funny so much went wrong that day.

Post # 58
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

ELOPE!!!!!!!!!!

 

 

Our wedding was prefect…24 guest amazing food. awesome. But the time and money invested just wasn’t nescessary.

 

 

 

Post # 59
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Not technically married yet but reflecting on our recent engagement party (“reception” before our DW).

Things I’d do differently:

– Pad your day-of timeline with more time than you think you’ll need to get things done.

– If you’re on the fence about hiring a photographer, just do it! There’s no way you or your guests will capture all those moments.

– When doing DIY projects, make a completed sample first so you can make adjustments. We put together 50+ pillow box favors before realizing that the tags were on the wrong sides. Not like anyone noticed… but it was a frustrating moment!

Things I feel we did right:

– I’m actually glad we splurged on our invitations. Still love them even after the fact.

– Professional hair and makeup was so worth it!

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