Married Bees – What aspect of your wedding do you wish you could redo and why?

posted 2 years ago in Beehive
Post # 16
994 posts
Busy bee

I would not have ordered so much food! There was sooo much leftover and the caterer ran out of take home boxes. I hate thinking about how much food must have been wasted. 

I would have made sure the officiant was crystal clear on how to pronounce my parents’ names. He mispronounced them during the ceremony and it still makes me cringe. 

I would’ve had my friend who bustled my gown watch the video a few times before attempting to bustle it. It took her a long time to figure it out (or at least that’s how it felt).

i would’ve let the DJ in on the fact that we were getting married (we had a surprise wedding) – the music cues/playlist would’ve been smoother if he knew in advance rather than 10 minutes before the ceremony. DH insisted on keeping the DJ in the dark (it was his friend).

Post # 17
164 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Melbourne, Australia

Two things:

1) Be more specific with instructions for the band, and perhaps liaise with someone other than the half-drunk lead singer lol. They are a great sounding band who played excellent music, and kept the dance floor full all night, but for some reason, they made a strange decision when it was cake cutting time. The instructions were for us to cut our cake, then for them to start playing our dance song.. but for some strange reason they played For He’s A Jolly Good Fellow as we started dancing LOL what the hell?! I mean, we’re pretty cruisy people so we just rolled with it and danced anyway, and continued dancing as they played our song after that, but really.. what were they thinking? I know the band personally (I work in the music industry) and in hindsight, knowing the lead singer and what he is like, I definitely should have arranged details with one of the other guys lol.

2) Hire an event coordinator, one who will be there on the day. I am a bit of a control freak, so I’m not sure how well I would have handled not being in charge of everything on the day myself anyway, but I do think it would have been nice if I had someone to advise when speeches were to happen, when cake cutting was to happen etc. so that I wasn’t the go-to person. It would have been nice to be able to just tune out of the organisation side of it, and just fully be there, if that makes sense, rather than keeping an eye on the time etc.

Post # 18
10 posts

Choosing a different groom lol

Post # 19
93 posts
Worker bee

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chillbee29 :  Our wedding was beautiful, but I still think of things I wish I had done differently. We had what I would consider a fairly traditional/typical wedding, and while we have great memories from it, I wonder what it would have been like if we had eloped. Part of me wishes we had gotten married on the beach and used the wedding money to spend two more weeks in Hawaii for our honeymoon, or gone to multiple places. 

Advice to planning brides: Unless you truly have an unlimited budget, do not be tempted to go over your budget! It’s not worth it for just one day. We paid for our wedding by ourselves in cash, and I’m really glad that I stuck to my guns with my budget. I honestly thought that our wedding looked beautiful and very expensive, and probably only cost half as much as it would have normally. Don’t be afraid to ask for discounts/deals with vendors. We scored our venue for half the normal price, and were able to reduce the catering minimum by half. I clipped so many coupons for Michaels/Hobby Lobby for over a year, but it saved me a ton on the decor. 

Also check out lesser known vendors. I know there are some very popular/well known vendors in my area who are in all the local wedding magazines and social media who charge a fortune. My florist/hair dresser/makeup artist/photographer were all from smaller salons/studios but they did an amazing job, and charged 1/4 the price of other vendors. Just be sure to do a trial to make sure you like them.



Post # 20
1171 posts
Bumble bee

Love this post! I’m taking notes! Especially about don’t sweat the small stuff and the fact about too many getting ready photos (helps me decide when I should be ready or almost ready before the photographer get here).

Post # 21
3482 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Cut and eaten our cake. The venue took the cake to be cut up for guests before we cut it oops. Then I didn’t have a piece oops again. 


Post # 22
1714 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

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chillbee29 :  um, I loved so much about my wedding but taking pictures part threw me for a loop. I didn’t realize before hand how nervous and awkward I would feel in front of the camera. Also, angles angles angles. I wished I had sorta “practiced” beforehand how I wanted to stand in pics (as immature and ridiculous as this sounds) It was hard being the center of attention and my shoulders awkwardly slouching forward and my nervous smiles in literally so many pictures show it 🙁 

Post # 23
1890 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

Our wedding was perfect. Wouldn’t change anything but we would change the date of our honeymoon. Our reception ended at 2am and we had to be at the airport for 6am. To tired to enjoy the plane ride and the first day there

Post # 24
1036 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I would have spent less time chatting with family and more time getting pictures done. We had a limited time for pictures but lots of time afterwards for family time. I would have liked the picture the to be less rushed.


We eloped with our parents present and otherwise I wouldn’t have changed a thing.

Post # 25
354 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: Canada

I wouldn’t have told our DJ “no oldies” because I later found out a young, disabled guest requested one and he said, “the bride says no.”  Ugh.  I would have just told him to play whatever is requested, along with popular music because not many people danced, which was one thing I really cared about. 

Post # 26
947 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

i honestly regret that i didnt let most things brush off my shoulders and enjoyed my reception. people kept coming to me with issues and i kept handeling them. i shouldnt have. i should have told everyone to fuck off and not bother me with stuff.  i wish i could have a do over so that i could look back and actually enjoy my reception. i did not. and it still bugs me. happy to be married though

Post # 27
231 posts
Helper bee

I think I would have went the “no kids” route.  Two brats took the photoguest book polaroid camera and practically went through all the film until a friend of mine caught them.  ugh.  Thankfully most guest got a chance to put their pic in, but one guest drew a pic of himself because there was no more film left lol. Otherwise everything turned out pretty well and some aspects better than I expected.  Rain was expected but it was a beautiful warm sunny day (for Fall). Leading up to the wedding my family was freaking out about the weather checking the reports every min.  I didnt even check, nor wanted to know,  it will be what it will be and it turned out perfect.  No reason to stress about things out of your control.  I’m not a perfectionist but I tried to keep the bar low (as far as perfection is concerned). I knew I did a good and thorough job preparing, I also had good family support to make sure things went as planned (sometimes too much support and too many opinions but oh well!). 

Post # 29
520 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

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chillbee29 :  1. I wish we would have invited more people. Everyone is so focused on cutting the guest list so we did that too and now I look back and feel SOOOO guilty for leaving some people out. We left out family that we rarely see and now since I’ve been married I’ve seen that group twice in the matter of 5 months and it sucks because they are so much fun to be around, I definitely would have enjoyed having them at the wedding

2. I wish we put more thought into the vendors. We went super cheap on our DJ, basically just booked the first person with the lowest price and he was terrible, his sound system wasn’t great, guests hardly heard announcements so when they played special songs not everyone heard why. He also played a bunch of songs on the “do not playlist” which caused guests to stop dancing because they don’t know/like those songs either. He skipped a lot of songs I really wanted played too. I wish we shopped around more for photographers too. We liked one of ours but we decided to add on a second and she created so much negative energy, she was rude, pushy and made people uncomfortable.

3. I wish we got a photobooth. It was a huge hit at my cousin’s wedding and I know our guests would have taken some hilarious photos.

Some things we did right that I definitely recommend: 1. Don’t ask for too many opinions and keep most of your ideas too yourself. People love to criticize and give input which will probably upset you or stress you out 2. We chose a package with A LOT of food. Food is the most important part of a reception. No one cares about your decor, or favors or how fancy the invites are. Save on all those things and splunge on food. It was so great to hear the guests say that we had the best wedding food out of all the weddings they’ve been to!  

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