Married Bees – What aspect of your wedding do you wish you could redo and why?

posted 9 months ago in Beehive
Post # 33
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Busy bee

Choice of husband?!

Post # 37
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

 

chillbee29 :  our timeframe was to tight in my opinion. If I had a redo I would leave on a later flight, or on Monday 

Post # 38
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

The only advice I have is to be sure to speak up through out the process if you are receiving help planning from your family. My regret is that I listened everytime someone begged me to let my husband’s mother just have her way, and in the end, she got upset that we were having a wedding shower with my friends (no one was excluded from this. she just said I was ruining HER wedding) and cancelled every contract that we had made. It wasn’t so bad since the wedding had become something that we didn’t love, and in the end, we eloped and had a great wedding. Sometimes I do wish that I had postponed a bit to have a more traditional wedding, but I still love what we did do. 

 

Post # 39
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Nope. Tbh of all the things that could have gone ‘wrong’ that was the one I was ok with. We didn’t really care that much about the cake chillbee29 :  

Post # 40
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2019

SVandy60918 :  I agree! I had a similar issue with my photographer. one  of my moms best friends is a photographer and offered to do the pics for free as a gift for me/her. It was a small wedding with a limited budget so I just wanted “decent” pictures and my mom swore up and down her friend would give me that and better. I cried when I got the pics back…not one was usable for anything. And it’s like I can’t even complain to anyone or be mad about it cuz it was this huge “favor.” I should’ve done my research and paid for a “real” photographer…even if I could only afford an hour at least I should’ve gotten one decent picture. Other than that,  it was pretty stressful cuz our original venue had a fire less than 1 month before so I had to replan everything last minute and there were small hiccups throughout the day, but nothing I could’ve done to avoid that. no one else noticed anything amiss anyway tho, so I guess I wish I was just a bit more relaxed. 

Post # 41
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2019

   

Post # 42
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2018 - City, State

Had I known how amazing our Pastor’s wedding sermon was, I would have had a video of it all. Had I known that my husband’s photographer neice would have taken only pictures of his family, to the point their are more of his sister than me and my husband, So, I would have been more on top of my photo list provided to her, or would have hired someone else. I loved doing my own flowers, and making the guest list as small as I did. Lastly, I would have just relaxed knowing it would come together.

Post # 43
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2018 - City, State

For the record, I had another photographer in place but SIL insisted on the neice. I should have stood my ground. So that’s my last change.

Post # 44
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Busy bee

Put Xanax in my mothers coffee? Turned the temperature of the world down ten degrees?

Mostly no regrets really. I should have made sure the appointed guy was actually bringing s’mores stuff the second night. Maybe gotten more sparklers so I could play with them. Figured out how to make my parents feel more honored (but that was hard to do for all the reasons I wish I could give my mother anti anxiety medication!)

I also wished I had let the guest list get bigger. I made cuts I regret and I made his parents cut people I regret—- I think it was mostly a control fight that I now see as silly. 

I recommend an all weekend wedding if you can do it! And a groom who does all the planning. 

Post # 45
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

There is very little I would change.

1. Take out the contact lenses sooner. Some really nices photos were slightly spoiled by me having reddened eyes.

2. Be more organised about the photos. A friend offered to take the pics as a present. She tested all the equipment the night before and then the flash failed. A lot of the pictures would have been perfect, if she’d only had a flash. Also, I expected everybody to be taking pictures, so I didn’t think to ask for pics with our families. Which means we don’t have any. I’m not cross or anything but my mum was slightly disappointed.

I think that’s it. Food was lovely and I ate plenty. We didn’t dance or have music which is what we wanted. The dress looked nice. The make up didn’t hold up as well as I’d hoped but I’m not much bothered.

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