Married Bees – What aspect of your wedding do you wish you could redo and why?

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Post # 46
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Worker bee

Allowed people to help more rather than doing most of the planning.

At the time I felt like I should be independant with it because there were a lot of suggestions I hated, but ultimately it was a party for everyone to enjoy so I would of gave up more reign and let more people pitch in (might have cost less for me!).

Post # 47
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Buzzing bee

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chillbee29 :  

I wish I never listened to his dumb mom and had her invite people that she doesn’t talk to. This limited my number of friends since his family never came.

I wish someone had a paper of pictures we should have taken. I gave it to the photographer, but I really should have given it to my Maid/Matron of Honor. THere were two important pics that were missed.

I wish I had gone with long sleeves instead of the ones I had. They looked dumb, and I hated them, but everyone talked m eout of long sleeves. Damn. 

Post # 49
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

my husband was sick with food poisoning the day of our wedding, so id obviously change that. 

also i spent good money on these custom made chalkboard signs and they ended up in the wrong areas of our wedding, basically the guestbook sign that said “leave your wishes for the mr. and misses” ended up in the church right next to the alter, literally made no sense why it would be in there. So every time i see a picture of us at the alter (granted theres only like 6 or 7) i cringe because that dumb guestbook sign is in the background of all of them. 

i loved my dress for the longest time, but looking back i wish i would have spent more time looking for a better one. I did kinda settle for the one i chose. 

Post # 50
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Shopped around for a better DJ or gotten one that we knew someone had used. I got quoes from different companies, and we went with the middle quote with a company who had good reviews and won awards, and they were terrible. They played bad songs, they’d play a good one and the floor would fill then they’d play one that was so bad everyone left. They were on their phones 90% of the time, they ignored requests from everyone including my husband and maid of honour and my 8 year old nephew! Ignorant. I would have told them if i’d known that but no-one told me til afterwards. We’d cut the cake practcally once we’d arrived at the venue, an hour later they approached my husband saying “i think we’ll cut the cake then do this and this” and he was like, we did that an hour ago, they hadn’t even paid attention and it was in the same room! I got so annoyed about them even after our wedding a year later I emailed to complain. I hate complaining and i’d felt before there wasn’t any point but I had to get it off my chest, since I still got comments! They somehow ha dno record of the songs that were played or what we requested – that’s because they never got in touch with us before the wedding like they were supposed to to ask us what songs we wante, but I was too busy to do it for them. They sent us a bottle of prosecco. I don’t drink haha everything else was perfect though.

 

Also i’m going to add, enjoy the planning! Everyone tells you you’ll miss the day once it’s gone and that is so true, but I didn’t realise how much I missed planning it and looking at stuff and going to venues and choosing things for it! I miss having it there to plan!

Post # 51
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I see you’re an October bride. Coming from a September gal, watch your tan lines over the summer – or rather try not to get any – especially if you have a strapless dress! It’s something I didn’t even think of because I don’t really go to the beach or lay out. But I got a bad tank top burn from walking around a flear market one day. Mine faded a whole lot and weren’t too bad by my big day but they were still there. I did a trial for airbrush makeup but didn’t like the feeling of it on my body, and I was too nervous to try a fake tan to even things out… was afraid it would come off on my dress.

Also, don’t look at other dresses after you’ve found the one. I know it’s difficult, but it will just stress you out. I second guessed if my dress was right for me a million times, and in the end it totally was. Trust that inital gut feeling.

Post # 52
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Bumble bee

Totally about the tan line!! I only noticed mine when I got the bridal store staff to take a photo for me after I bought the backless dress (cos they wouldn’t do it before), was deadset on getting rid of it before the wedding. It’s now faded and I’m definitely wearing a rash suit whenever going to the beach to make sure no lines. I’ve never cared so much about how my back looks in my life! Lol.. 

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Post # 53
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Bumble bee

I’m adding to my list – YouTube how to pose in wedding photos then practice haha… 

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Post # 55
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: City, State

 

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missyjz :  Being aware is half the battle. It just didn’t even cross my mind to watch!

Post # 56
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: City, State

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chillbee29 :  Trust your gut! Disclaimer: I bought my dress off the rack by myself in the formal (not bridal section) of the store so there wasn’t a commisioned sales person helping me, so the decision was all mine. I could understand how women can feel they really made the wrong choice when it wasn’t really theirs. You sound like you’re following your own vision though!

Post # 58
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Sugar bee

If I were doing it again, I’d do my hair differently (I didn’t have a hair trial) and choose a different dress with cleaner lines. I’d have involved my mom less (even though she was already minimally involved, she caused me a lot of stress in the weeks leading up to it). I’d have chosen a different caterer and cake. 

Most of these are pretty minor things, though. Overall, it was a very happy day, things ran smoothly, the ceremony was perfect and our officiant killed it, venue was beautiful, flowers were perfect, lots of people danced, everyone was fed, and we got married. We were very happy with our photographer, and have lots of beautiful pictures. The big things worked out. 

Post # 59
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I defeintely wish I had chosen my Bridesmaids more carefully. 3 out of the 4 were absolutely PERFECT and the best anyone could ask for, but 1 just almost ruined it!

Also, I wore my hair down and swept to the side and I wish I’d worn it up cause as soon as we went outside for photos, the curls dropped and I had to braid it for the evening!

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