Post # 1
Fiance and I will be legally married this THURSDAY!!! Ekk!
I feel like my stomach is in my throat right now and I hardly have an appetite. I am planning on doing some yoga this evening and have been trying to really focus on being positive, but I am sort of freaking out!
Do you have any advice? To make matters worse my FI’s custody hearing is today so I think we are both a ball of nerves for more reasons than one!!
Post # 3
Really? No one? I feel like I am going to barf, so some reassuring words would be lovely right about now!
Post # 4
Not married yet either, but I wanted to say – Breathe. Really. If you focus on deep breathing it will slow you down, also physiologically… take deep breaths in, breathe out slowly, focus on feeling the air going in and out of your body, don’t let your mind run while you do so. Part of what causes anxiety (and I have had anxiety issues for many years so was taught this), is that the one of the first things people do is start to breathe shallowly, and breathing deeply is one of the easiest ways to combat anxiety.
Post # 5
Hopefully the yoga helps!!! My wedding isn’t until June but I’m sure that I’ll be feeling the same way. I’m just going to make sure to specifically schedule in some “me” time- a run by myself, a pedicure, some time to just relax, etc.
You’re almost there!
Post # 6
How exciting! But I know what you mean about nervers. I suggest massages and wine. Also trying going out to dinner with girlfriends, it will keep your mind occupied. I also scheduled myself to have a massage and had a glass of wine every night before I went to bed jsut to unwind.
Post # 7
Sorry, honey, no advice. My mom was here for a few days, and then we all drove to York (where we had the weddings) a few days before. I just got caught up in all the last minute things that needed to be done, I didn’t really have time to stress. And in the odd moments where I had time to sit and think about it, I just thought about Darling Husband, and how much I loved him, and how excited I was to be marrying him.
Generally, though, a hot bath, a glass of wine and a trashy romance novel do wonders to relax me.
Congratulations, and good luck! And don’t forget to breathe!
Post # 8
Thanks ladies…I know the breathing is key. I am trying so hard to stay calm right now, but my fiance is in court right now and I am dying to know what has happened….it’s been 2 hours already! Hopefully once we get past this we can both try to unwind before Thursday. I thought I felt nerves before, but this morning has been the worst yet! Thank you all for your support.
Post # 9
Yikes! I know the feeling! I’m getting married on Saturday and still have soooo much to do. I feel like I need another month. Don’t get me wrong, I’m beyond excited, but I’ve def have some nerves going on.
Post # 10
I’m not sure if this is for you but I’ve done this in the past (before a big event) and it worked for me. Instead of thinking about the excitement of the wedding ceremony etc, close your eyes, breathe deeply and slowly, and visualize yourself going through the whole thing (ceremoney) calmly and smiling. Keep doing this. Visualize it with peaceful mind instead of an excited/anxious mind.
Yoga is good too! 🙂
Post # 11
@mrs.peters.to.be: Distract yourself! WeddingBee is good for that!!
To be honest, the week of, I was a ball of stress. Mainly b/c of my mom…but the only thing that could calm me down was my husband (then FI). He had such a way of keeping me calm…it’s a good thing I married him!
Definitely try to keep yourself busy…especially with your Fiance in court right now. Once he’s out, try to get all of your last minute stuff done, and enjoy each other as much as you can this week! It’s not every day you can say, “I’m getting married this week!”
Post # 12
I am a super anxious bride, I have anxiety about my Wedding now and it is 7 months away. I suggest reading. That sometimes helps me to clear my mind. Also go on a walk or a run. Exercise is proven to help anxiety. Don’t let the anxiety take over this special time though, concentrate on what is most important.
I hope you feel better!!
Post # 13
Thank ladies! Your support really does help. Most people don’t know what I am going through right now so it’s nice to have that support 🙂 Fiance is still in court so I have been sweaty palmed all day 😐
Post # 14
It might not be the right way but I took the “bury your head in the sand” approach.
I just stopped thinking about the actual wedding and just concentrated on what I was doing at the time.
It might not be the best way to do it but it worked for me!
Oh any if you need to cry, do it! I had a good cry after talking to a close friend on the Thursday and I felt a million times better for it!