(Closed) MARRIED BEES – What did you regret wasting your money on for your wedding?

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Post # 16
1956 posts
Buzzing bee

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peoniesbaby :  Haha to be completely honest – my wedding dress. It was beatiful, and I love how it turned out in photos, but when I was buying it I went completely against my principals and got trapped by the “it’s a once in a lifetime” thing.

Initially I wanted a white bridesmaid dress to save costs, and because bridesmaid dresses are soo so gorgeous. I even found one I loved, but the store only had it in blue and it was hard to picture it in white which is what I think got me. I tried on a wedding dress which I loved, fought an inner battle with myself for a couple of days and ended up getting the wedding dress.

It cost me $1400 + about $500 in alterations and that totally stings me, since I only got to wear it once.

The bridesmaid dress would have cost me about $400 total – what’s a whopping difference! 

It still stings me when I think about it!

Post # 17
585 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

We’re a little over a month past our wedding now, and I feel the opposite about a few things. I wish we had just paid more for certain things from the beginning. We had a decent wedding budget ($35k-$40k for rehearsal dinner and everything wedding related except honeymoon). But I got it in my head that I would be thrifty where I could, and tried to DIY some things like invitations and signage. We also were going to use a family friend as a DJ, but after some drama had to hire a professional very last minute.

Overall, I learned that I’m totally not crafty, and that relying on a family friend is risky. In the end, I wished I had just thrown money at those things from the beginning, instead of trying to tackle them myself. They caused me so much stress! (This is because I’m really, really not crafty though. But I thought I was!)

Other than that, we had pricey photographers, and I’m SO glad we did. Their photos are beautiful, and they were so professional (and had our photos back to us in like three weeks, it was amazing!).

Post # 18
739 posts
Busy bee

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socalgirl1689 :  I would spend money too on a delicious and cute wedding cake but I’m a US bee and here in California, nearly ALL weddings serve a slice of the wedding cake because that is the ONLY dessert served. Typically, no other dessert option exists at weddings. I heard in the UK, guests are given a separate dessert and do not even get to eat the wedding cake?

Guests can have the wedding cake but there is a proper dessert served after the meal. 

Post # 19
9384 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

donut bar/favors i guess, since most people didn’t take one.

it wasnt a big expense though, so really i don’t care much.

Post # 20
1354 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2027

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peoniesbaby :  THE WHOLE WEDDING!! LOL!

Seriously, that was only after the divorce. Planning now though, I do regret my parents spent so much on the flowers, it was the biggest part of my budget. And it was beautiful, but they could have spent a lot less and used the natural scenery and still been a beautiful day. 

Post # 21
1540 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I just went through my budget and am pretty happy with what we spent. No cake, no favors, minimal on decor and paper costs. Only line item I regret is welcome bags. Our wedding was in the city we live in (a major city) and I made little welcome bags for out of town guests staying at the hotel where we stayed our wedding night (ie the hotel we had a block at, not where the wedding was but where most people stayed). We had maybe 20 out of town guests out of 115 guests. The welcome bags were cheap maybe like $200 overall but they were so unnecessary and were a bit stressful to assemble and distribute. Especially when you are in a city, do the guests really need chips and Advil? So I regret that. 

Post # 22
2803 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I’m really happy that I had to spend a couple minutes thinking of an answer. 

The only the thing I think I didn’t need was most of my decor. Flowers and a few of the fun signs I had would have been just fine. No tulle backdrops, giant letters of our last name, the elaborate seating chart ect..

There are a lot of things I was happy I spent the extra money on (Excellent photographer, a videographer, photo booth, bar), those are the things that prompt some of the best memories of the day. 


Post # 23
653 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I only regretted paying for guests who ended up not coming. Other than that, maybe some decorations were unnecessary, although honestly for a ~150 people wedding we saved in many areas. I only spent $200 on my dress, $100 on my shoes, $30 for a veil (I ended up not wearing it because I left it at home lol)….my mom acted as my florist and ordered flowers from Sam’s Club to arrange them herself. Our cake was a “cupcake” cake and ended up costing about $500. The biggest cost, the venue, included food and use of the ballroom and their garden for the ceremony, ended up being about ~7000. Our photographer was a family friend. We planned it all in 6 months and did not spend money on things that we didn’t feel like spending money on. So many people stress about their wedding but we just made it very “us.” 

Post # 24
1707 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

We got more RSVPs than we expected and I got SO WORRIED that our cake wouldn’t be big enough. I convinced DH that we needed to get the next size up.

We also had grooms cake and a bunch of mini desserts.

We ended up with twice as much cake as we needed. We had SO MUCH CAKE leftover. And we spent so much money on cake. I don’t remember exactly how much it all was, but it was toooooo much. 

Post # 25
2583 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

My darn shoes! I bought these fancy, beautiful, sparkly heels and couldn’t wear them the day-of because my feet had swelled up from all the walking I did the days before and the climate change (destination). I literally wore Nike flip flops down the aisle lol! No one noticed though, so no big deal.

Aside from the bar, the best thing we spent money on was the shuttle buses we rented to take all the guests to their hotels after the reception. 

Post # 26
1191 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I’m glad to see programs were not worth it!  I keep going back and forth and it’s making me realize not necessary!

Post # 27
345 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2016 - Presidio Log Cabin

The ONLY thing I was seriously like “…why” about after was our guestbook. I paid for this gorgeous custom hand-foiled blah blah blah thing, and hardly anyone signed it (just the first 2 pages). I was like whyyyyyy did I spend money on this and make signage for it and even remotely care about it. Haha. yell

The best splurge was photography/videography – worth the money 10x over!

Post # 28
23 posts

OMG I’m so cheap, everything I spend money on for this wedding seems unnecessarily expensive. Im trying to go the casual/vintage route but let me tell you…its tricky getting the laid back vibe right without coming off as super ragtag. I’m DIYing a lot of stuff and its turning out to be a pain in the butt! I had a flusterfest the other day when I spent $1.99 on a chalk pen that turned out to be crap. Haha. With that said though, we are skipping a lot of the extra cost: no DJ, no transport, no hotel, no florist, no programs/menus. We did STDs and I kind of regret doing those since many people didn’t know what a save the date was for undecided

Post # 29
782 posts
Busy bee

Honestly, everything I had contributed to the success of my wedding day & it being my best day ever. That being said, I pulled off a champagne wedding on a beer budget by researching a shit ton & negotiating with vendors. I really wanted to have a caricature artist there and just couldn’t swing it with my budget. I also skipped the photo booth & I don’t feel like its absence was noticeable. The thing I am most glad I did was get a videographer! It was by far my favorite splurge & don’t regret it in the least! 

ETA: I also went cheap(ish) on stationary & think that was a great place to save! Programs & menus are unnecessary unless it’s a super formal wedding imo. I spent less than $100 on all stationary. 

Post # 30
175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Firehall

I regret not having a videographer. That’s about it. We didn’t have fancy transportation or anything like that either. Our wedding, including my dress cost about $10K and it was really nice! My aunt made our cake as our gift. My husband was a firefighter at the time, so we got to use the hall for free. A lifelong family friend did the catering. It was a perfect day (minus the weather).

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