(Closed) Married Bees: what do you call your in laws?

posted 9 years ago in Family
Post # 3
183 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think their first names are fine. I call my inlaws by their first names. 

We are all adults, adults call each other by their first names! 🙂 

Post # 4
6593 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

By their first names!

I always have and always will!

Post # 5
7429 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I call my in laws by their first names, have for years actually.  I used to call my fil Mr ___ but he said that made him feel old and no one who is his family should call him that, so I dropped the Mr.  Hubs calls my mom Mom (most of my friends do, so its not really weird, plus his mom isn’t really in his life) and my dad by his first name. 

Post # 6
6571 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I call my inlaws by their first names too. That’s how I was introduced to them. I think they’d prefer me to call them Mom and Dad, but it’s just weird for me. They sign their cards “Mom and Dad (First names).”

Post # 7
5976 posts
Bee Keeper

I call my inlaws Mom D and Dad D. I don’t feel comfortable just calling them mom and dad, but I personally would feel disrespectful calling them by their first names.

Post # 8
311 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I call my future in-laws by their first names. I got away with just not directly addressing them for a while (it was amusing..) until they finally just said “You know, you can just call us ____ and ____”. Totally works!

Post # 9
1160 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

First names–but my Fi’s grandparents I call “grampy” and “Mom” like he does. My own grandparents live far away and I have lunch with Grampy a lot so they have become like my own grandparents.

Post # 10
10285 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Not married yet but Fiance and I have been together for 6 years so I feel I’m qualified to answer this…

I call them by their first names. Always have and always will. I could never fathom calling my FIL’s Mr. & Mrs. __________. I realize this is the norm in some areas and cultures but I could never do it. I would also never call them “Mom and Dad”. I have my own parents and I feel it’s disrespectful to those who actually raised me.

Post # 11
393 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I call my Mother-In-Law mom, and Father-In-Law dad. It’s a respect thing.

Post # 12
2702 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Mom & Dad.

When we were dating, I never really had to address them… it always DH’s mom or DH’s dad, as they referred to each other around me. Post-wedding, I’ve started to call them mom & dad.

Darling Husband has always called my parents “umma” and “appa” Mom & Dad in Korean, because they were out of state when we had first started dating, and we were pretty serious/engaged by the time they settled back in MI.

works out easily for us = mom&dad is ILs | umma&appa = my parents 😀

Post # 14
7693 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I didnt realize people of married age (or even like college age) call peoples parents by Mr. and Mrs _________ still! I have always called my in laws by their first names and I always will. I dont think I could ever call them mom and dad!

Post # 15
3981 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Fiance still calls my parents Mr. & Mrs. Last Name and so far I gave gotten away with not calling his parents anything. His mother wants me to already call her Mom because she calls me her Daughter. Which I think is nice… I just don’t think I will ever be able to call her mom! Maybe I can sneak in a Ronda somewhere and see what she says.

Post # 16
656 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I called mine mr and mrs xxxxxxx until we got engaged, then I went with first names. one time my Future Mother-In-Law texted me and signed it “momma firstname” and I thought it was adorable and awkward lol

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