- 6 years ago
Sorry if this isn’t posted in the right section.
QUESTIONS (answer what applies):
Did you have similar problems, that you can now see were preventable/not so much of a big deal after all as you look back with 20/20 hindsight vision?
Do you feel that many brides are posting out of the stress of wedding planning and are too fuddled by all the pressure to have the “perfect wedding” that they can’t think straight anymore?
If you’re a bride-to-bee, do you feel some of the dilemmas on here are superficial, bridezilla-ish, typical first-world-problems?
I’m not married yet, and I don’t have a date officially set yet but it will be somewhere after March and before August 2014, but I’m nowhere near as stressed as some brides on here who are getting married as far away as 2015!!! We’ll set a date at the end of this month, or early in January. Our only concern is that the open dates at the venue not coincide with dates that our place of worship is booked for another event.
I read through these boards almost everyday for ideas and advice, and can’t help but chuckle at some of the “dilemmas” some brides post about, or what some married bees say they regret about their weddings.
MY TWO CENTS:
I can often venture a guess at how the dilemma could have been prevented/solved long ago, and wish I could have been close friends enough with them to tell them:
1) Accept that you can’t afford everything the bridal industry has to offer. Don’t fall for the propaganda meant to separate you from your hard-earned money. Weddings are a celebration of your love and not a competition with all the ladies your age in your neighbourhood. Get the wedding you can afford so you don’t have to enter into debt in the process.
2) Don’t take yourself so seriously- only you know the “original” picture in your head of how things should go, so even when there are a few “glitches” along the way, your guests will be none the wiser. This is one of the main reasons that brides become bridezillas. Your wedding is only “ruined” when the groom doesn’t show up.
3) Delegate delegate delegate- I couldn’t believe one post about the bride arguing with the caterer in the kitchen about how to cut and serve the cake; let someone else worry about stuff like that. After the bride and groom have decided on all the details concerning decor, food, music, photography etc and have assigned people to handle those things, let the designated people for those responsibilities handle them. Your job now is just to show up, looking your best and happiest and have fun! (If anything goes wrong in the background- like your caterer cutting the cake the wrong way- let someone tell you about it when you return from your honeymoon)
4) And most important- grow a spine. Don’t let anyone bulldoze you or your plans- e.g by making you get things you can’t afford (even if they offer to pay for it, why not use that money for your marriage after the wedding?), or by pressuring you to invite guests you didn’t plan on inviting, or by wanting to cause drama (and this includes the “bridesmaid drama”) etc. Whoever doesn’t like what you and your groom have decided on doesn’t have to be part of/come to the wedding.
What do others think?
*goes back to the boards for more entertainment*