(Closed) What is the best pre-marriage advice you have received?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Helper bee

From my mom, “Make sure any man you’re with treats you like a queen, because it doesn’t get better after marriage.”

Not sure this is “good” advice, per say, but various women in my family have told me not to get married. – .-

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

“You’re marrying him, not his parents.” 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

To be honest, we never really got any good advice we didn’t already know. Mr Rugbee & I have a lot of trust and respect for one another. When you have a good, healthy relationship, there isn’t a lot people can tell you that isn’t common sense.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We were once told “Don’t ever threaten to break up/divorce/split while fighting.” You say it in the heat of the moment when you’re pissed and may not really mean it but it can cause damage when you don’t realize it. We don’t even ‘allow’ those words in the house. It’s not something that’s up for discussion.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

from my boss:

“remember that all the small things don’t matter and almost everything is small stuff.”  Remember this really helps avoid fights and bickering over the small insignificant stuff that just really does not matter and is forgotten the next day.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My 97 year old grandpa…

“Don’t look at marriage like a 50:50 partnership. Give 100% no matter what.”

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

The best advice we got – Don’t forget you’re on the same team, especially during an argument.

                                        Make a budget – and stick to it!

                                        Make it a priority to still ‘date’ each other.

                                        Keep the fights clean, and the sex dirty.

                                      

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

From my mom: no matter what your financials are like, take at least one vacation a year just the two of you – no friends, kids or other family around. It can be a big vacation or just 2 nights at a hotel 1 town over, sometimes you need a break from reality with just the two of you to remember whats important in your relationship. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@AmyFarrahFowler:  I just wanted to say that your name and avatar make me smile 🙂

Post # 13
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Busy bee

50 – 50 

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Don’t be so focused on the future that you forget to live in, and enjoy, the moment.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

“Never stop talking to one another” (“communication is key”).

Which is good because I am very open with my feelings, and it took Darling Husband a little longer to open up….I mean really open up where he’d get mad or stand up for himself if I or someone else was being a jerk.  We’ve already learned and gained so much from each other. 🙂

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