(Closed) Married Bees: What went wrong at your wedding?

posted 9 years ago in Married Life
Post # 17
5323 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

@fivemonthsnotice:  Omg. That’s awful!!!! πŸ™

We used one company for all of our rentals. They completely dropped the ball. Our tent was supposed to be set up by 4pm the day before our wedding so DH and his guys could set up and decorate everything. It didn’t get set up until noon the day of the wedding. They also delivered the wrong pattern of plates (substandard ones that were hideous), not enough lighting, no pads for our chiavari chairs, no rain gutters for our tents, no walls for our tents, one of the barrels that was weighing the tent down leaked all over the dance floor, and they didn’t deliver our bar. Pretty much the only thing they got right was the number of tables to deliver. We’re currently in a lawsuit with them. Good times.

It started POURING rain during dinner, and since we had no rain gutters or walls on our tent, some of our guests got a bit damp, and our waiters (good heavens they worked hard) got soaked running back and forth from the kitchen tent.

We had some family dramaz too, but I’ve tried to push that to the back of my mind and let other people’s crazy be other people’s crazy πŸ˜‰

Post # 18
4437 posts
Honey bee

-Florist forgot our flower girl’s bouquet. No biggie. We gave her my toss bouquet and liberated a few roses from one of our big ceremony arrangements after the ceremony to put together an inpromptu toss bouquet (we did an anniversary dance, so not actual tossing involved.)

-We were late for pictures. Meh. Not a big deal at all.

-Our guests had to use a parking garage so we set it up with the garage before my wedding. Guy at the booth had no idea and went on a power trip and didn’t want to let everyone park. My DOC handled it. πŸ™‚

All in all, things went pretty much as planned. I can’t complain.

Post # 19
1472 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I agree with PPs–something inevitably will go wrong! You just need to have a good attitude and roll with it and try to be as organized as you can. Ours were all pretty minor:

  • It POURED! Luckily our wedding was inside, but figuring out how to get from the hotel to the car and from the car into the venue without ruining my hair was an ordeal!
  • The band’s DJ played the wrong song for half of the Bridal Party reception entrance, so they were dancing in to classical music πŸ™‚
  • During the horah we were supposed to go up in the chairs first and then both sets of parents, but the band accidentally started another song and had to backtrack

Other than that, everything was great! At the time, the little things didn’t even really matter. We did everything in our power to make sure things ran smoothly, and aside from a few glitches, they did!

Post # 20
1011 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@UpstateCait:  3. OJ can be the devil!  Glad none of your mishaps were truly tragic!

Post # 21
6377 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Pearberry:  Yes, it certainly can. It’s honestly one of my biggest wedding regrets since it put such a damper on the night for me. At one point I remember asking my mom what time it was and found out that we still had 2 hours left of our reception. I alost cried because I needed to get out of my dress so badly. My aunt and grandmother were trying to get me to go back to our bridal suite since they could see how uncomfortable I was but I refused to leave my own wedding early. Once 11 o’clock hit and our reception ended I pretty much sprinted upstairs only to have to sit around and wait for DH to come up since I couldn’t get out of my dress. Fun times! lol

Post # 22
1416 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Oh, you know what! I forgot the biggest thing….I ordered flowers from Sam’s and they didn’t deliver 2/3 of them. Luckily flowers weren’t that big of a deal to me and I made do with what I had, but it still sucked and caused me stress.

Post # 23
573 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

My husbands step mom wore a white dress… and I didn’t get to play any bocce ball cuz everyone kept talking to me.  All in all: first world problems. 

Post # 24
3016 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I was about 15 minutes late to my ceremony, the cake toppers never made it on the cake, when the florist delivered the flowers I was missing the ones for the centerpieces (they quickly fixed it though). I forgot my flower strap on my dress & my brother had to run back home to get it for me. The photog could have gotten more pics of dinner & my mom threw a hissy fit over nothing after the wedding ended.

Geez- I never realized all that didn’t go according to plan….

Post # 25
613 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I stained my dress before the ceremony during pictures! It had rained that morning, and someone put my silk bouquet on the wet banister… wouldn’t you know that red hydrangeas bleed their dye when it gets wet! It was all the down the front of my ivory dress… Our coordinator came to the rescue though. She got every last drop of that red dye out of my dress with club soda and patience! Loved her!

My DJ also sucked. I’m not sure what happened between when we booked him and when we got married, but he was pretty awful. People had a good time anyway though and the dance floor always had people on it!

Oh, and I tripped and fell after the ceremony. I missed a step! Luckily it was not caught on camera, only a few people saw, and I wasn’t hurt. I layed there for a good 3 minutes while I waited for DH to stop laughing and help me up! πŸ˜€

Overall though, our day went beautifully. There were some minor glitches, for sure, but if you come to realize that YES they will happen, it really doesn’t do much to stress you out. You just deal!

Post # 26
1314 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Our DJ’s equipment went belly up about an hour before the end of the reception. The wedding was in a building that was built in the early 1900’s, so the wiring had been updated at some point but wasn’t equipped to handle the power he was putting out. Luckily one of the groomsmen had an AWESOME dance party playlist on his iphone, so we just plugged it into the speakers and went on our merry way. The DJ was an old friend that was doing this for free, so I wasn’t even upset. There wasn’t music for like 10 minutes, but we survived!

Let’s see, my mother threw a hissy fit while we were getting ready saying that people weren’t paying enough attention to her and locked herself in the bathroom. Now THAT was fun.

I dropped a nail during the wine box portion of the ceremony. Whoops!

My husband’s brother did not plan his reception toast at ALL. He isn’t the best public speaker, so he just started rambling. And rambling. AND RAMBLING. At one point he started talking about the bachelor party and about strippers. It was SO HARD to stand there and keep a smile on my face. I still give him hell about that – it’s amusing when I look back.

Post # 27
4980 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

The really wasn’t a whole lot that went wrong. Our photographer was late to the reception and almost missed us cutting our cake. 

Other than my personal attendant and Bridesmaid or Best Man took off to go to a bar but my Maid/Matron of Honor bless her soul called them to get back there cause we needed them to be there for something.  Can’t remember what.

One of my loops for my 8 pt french under bustle broke, but my Maid/Matron of Honor and DOC were able to loop it on another loop and it still looked fine.

The biggest thing I would say is that I was 16 weeks pregnant and exhausted by the start of the dance so I didn’t get to dance very much. 

But as PP said something will go wrong you just have go with the flow.

Post # 28
2546 posts
Sugar bee

I need to stop reading this. I am 6 months out and this thread is not helping my anxiety!

Post # 29
1733 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Ours was Sunday. It poured rain all morning and we were having an outdoor ceremony and photos. Thankfully, it cleared up but I had to change the ceremony location because it was too muddy. Also, the wind picked up so I couldn’t wear my veil. But oh well! I will take wind over rain! It ended up being a beautiful day!


Post # 30
376 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012 - St. Philip Catholic Church/Arcadia Brewing Co.

I tripped coming out of the church and face planted on the side walk ( we were going quickly to get back around to the front to sign the papers) Luckly only strangers in cars saw it, it wasn’t during the “grand exit”  The best man (or was it DH?) tipped a over beer that got all over me when they hugged after the best man toast. Luckly it rolled off my dress without soaking in too much. And my shoe flew off during our first dance.

But really the day was perfect and having those things in it gives us something to laugh about now. And something more interesting to say than, it was a perfect day! (which it was!)

Best of luck with your wedding and marriage. And if things do go wrong, remember: As my dad always says, “the worse the experience, the better the story” πŸ™‚

Post # 31
872 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@leeshabee:  Thanks leeshabee!  It was a VERY crazy week, and we spent most of it trying to decide if we should cancel the wedding.  My Maid/Matron of Honor even found two prospective alternate venues.  I’m so glad I’m not one of those women who’s been dreaming about her wedding day for years!  My husband was the one who wanted a bigger event.

Strangely enough, other than having a buffet instead of table service, the actual wedding itself went off mostly as planned!

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