(Closed) Married Bees: What went wrong at your wedding?

posted 9 years ago in Married Life
Post # 32
3054 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

The DJ was pretty awful. He had none of the music I gave him a month ago and he was creepy looking. I ended up having to walk to traditional music…A guest came up to me and told me he told her he wouldn’t play Britney Spears. Now…I do not like her either, but you are suppose to play what people will dance to!

Post # 33
1197 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

Honestly–NOTHING went wrong. Nothing…but I was insanely organized. There was a plan B &C for everything.

The one thing I nitpick at was that my Father-In-Law dropped his boutentiire (sp) and we didnt have extras so in all the pictures he had a bare tux jacket while everyone else had flowers:((( I didn’t know this til we got our pictures back and my DH admitted to me that he knew but didnt want to upset me haha

Post # 34
442 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We had tourists crash our ceremony. I didn’t even notice but my mom did. Apparently they stood in the back snapping pictures! Our reception was a little warm – A/C didn’t seem to be doing the job! It was nothing major.

Post # 35
1955 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Nothing terribly tragic or major went wrong. The morning of the wedding I forgot to take the cake toppers, that I bought as a surprise for my hubby, with me to the hair/makeup appointment. Fortunately the bridesmaid’s husband went on the recon mission to pick them up. My dress didn’t get laced properly, so I hate all of the photos I have of the back of the dress. My grandfather’s bout was put on our ring dog by mistake, but the doc fixed that one.  The skies were overcast by the time of the ceremony, but it didn’t rain. Initially only marshmallows were put out at the campfire but we had paid for s’mores. My Mom talked to someone and fixed that one. Wasn’t thrilled with the DJ, but we had music.

We had a great day all in all.  While little things weren’t perfect, no one really knew about those things except for me. I was still really happy that day and had fun with all of the guests. If we ever win the lottery I’m totally hosting a party at the venue we used.

Post # 36
1106 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School

It poured at my outdoor wedding and the power went out on the band TWICE!! The first time we got it back on right away but the second time it took about 10 minutes to fix and I had a meltdown, imagining that the reception was going to have to end two hours early because we didn’t have power…Thank goodness we had some techie guests who were able to figure it all out and get the band up and running again…

Let’s see, what else…Had to have the cocktail hour under the tent instead of outside in the beautiful gardens like planned, half our guests were served their dinners 45 minutes after the other half bc the caterer couldn’t get her grill to stay late bc of the rain.  The servers were SOAKED running back and forth between the cook tent and the wedding tent.  The rental company messed up our dance floor size and it took a monumental fit on my part one hour before the ceremony for them to call another company and bring in more dance floor pieces so everyone could fit.  The florist also messed up my bouquet (all white when I specifically asked for and had emailed photos of colorful bouquets)….

Um, yeah, essentially thanks to the pouring rain, my wedding was mildly disastrous…And yet, it was still freakin’ awesome!!

Post # 37
161 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Now, I haven’t been married, but as a kid I was an alter server and often did weddings at our church. There are two weddings that stick in my head. One, the bride was an hour and a half late to the church. I remember because the groom was sitting in the room with the alter servers crying his eyes out, and two of us were awkwadly trying to tell him it would be okay. In the second one, the groom stepped on the bride’s dress and it ripped. I remember because we were laughing because you could see the bride’s underwear (hey I was like 12!).

Post # 38
3579 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

It POURED, in a summer where we barely had any rain, and I was having an OUTSIDE ceremony. As you can imagine it changed the entire wedding day!!!!!!

Ceremony had to be pushed back, so guests could get to the reception location which was the back-up plan ceremony location. My dyed shoes ran because of the wet ground. We had to split up the wedding party so that everyone could tell the guests about the change in location etc. 

But it was still perfect!

Post # 39
72 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Nothing Major went wrong… I went into the wedding knowing that everything is not going to go as planned. It is impossible to make sure that it does and even if something does… most likely people will not know that it didn’t go “as planned”…. The only thing that I can think that “went wrong” was our traditional guest book was never put out… (we had a photobooth with a fun guestbook people put there pics and wrote us notes though so it wasn’t a huge disater) another thing that went “wrong” was we didnt get any professional pictures with our grandparents ( Weeks after we got our pro-pictures we relaized we didnt… didn’t even think about it the day of)…. But there could have been avoided with a little better planning and making sure people knew who was doing what…


Oh and someone broke one of our toasting glasses…..


oh and I just remember one more thing… we had a junior groomsman and junior bridesmaid … neither of them were worked in the ceremony until the rehearsal becasue the seceratry who wrote up our programs forgot to put them in it…..

Post # 40
660 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

It rained all night and the morning of our wedding, so we could only do indoor photos because of the mud and grossness.  They were still beautiful though!

One of the BM’s made a HORRENDOUS speech.

I forgot an overnight bag for the next day.  DH had to go back to our apartment to get me some stuff to wear out to breakfast!

The overnight bag was really the only thing I had control over.

Post # 41
548 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Honestly we made out pretty well with our small wedding (I’m sure if it has been bigger we would’ve had bigger problems).

We got married in the town we got engaged in, some three hours from the city we live in so we really had to trust our vendors. My hair and makeup woman was an amazing pay-off, my florist not so much. By the time we got to the chateau we got married in, most of my bouquet was dead and my husband’s boutenneire had wilted so badly it snapped off and we had to pin a rose from my bouquet onto him. Also, in all of our photos facing out towards our guests at the ceremony you can’t see my BIL’s girlfriend at all because she’s standing behind him, but you can see her hand hovering over his nether region in ALL of them.

My mother and step-father got drunk at our reception and my mom gave an incredibly inappropriate toast about how she doens’t think my husband deserves me (this is unfortunately in our wedding video). She then proceeded to tell my Mother-In-Law how stupid she is. Otherwise, it was all good ๐Ÿ™‚


Post # 42
335 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Our flowers were completely and 100% not right.  Wrong colors, wrong flowers, everything.  Thankfully no one knew this but me, my mom and my wedding planner!  They were still beautiful…so I got over it quick!

Post # 43
6586 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

My drunk cousin had to be escorted out of our wedding.  Other than that is was great.

Post # 44
1884 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

We had a few random mishaps that I noticed… I haven’t seen the pro pics to see if anything else was amiss though… But nothing “ruined” the day…

First, my flowers were waiting at the wedding site, not where us girls were getting ready, so all of our pictures from before the ceremony don’t have our beautiful bouquets in them, so we had to squeeze them in after the ceremony when I wanted all those to be done beforehand.

Then it was really windy so our arbor was supposed to have fabric draped over it, but that kept blowing away so we had to take that down last minute and one of our rows of flowers hanging on the arbor fell down… I was supposed to be waiting in a pop up tent to walk down the isle so no one could see me, but with the wind the tent kept blowing away so I had to wait in a car…  The guest tree and ceremony program were set up WAY off to the side of the ceremony so no one noticed them at all, the guest tree was later moved to the reception anyway so that wasn’t a big deal…

The officiant said my name wrong a couple times (Lillian instead of Jillian) but we corrected her and had a good laugh about it, and then in the middle of the ceremony I realized that she probably didn’t know how to pronounce our last name, so it got butchered a little.

The favors (s’more kits) were melting in the sun so they had to be moved under a tree, but then no one noticed them so only a handful were taken…  And I don’t think my sparkler sendoff set up was actually set up, they just handed out the sparklers for the exit… Two of the finishing pieces of the dance floor were missing (didn’t get included in the rentals) so we had to put solar lights on the corner so people didn’t twist an ankle… The CAKE started melting in the sun so it had to be brought out last minute and it ended up looking pretty crappy… Oh and I wanted the plates to be put on the tables with the rolled silverware for nicer overall table setting, but the plates were stacked on the buffet table instead…

Even though all of that sounds like it was a horrible wedding where EVERYTHING went wrong… it really didn’t, they were all things I barely noticed and honestly didn’t matter to me at the end of the day.  It all looked fine and all that mattered was that I was marrying the man of my dreams ๐Ÿ™‚


Post # 45
5229 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

This time, nothing (except that my husband never cut the vent stays on his suit jacket).

At my first wedding, our limo was late and then left about 15 minutes after getting there… without us… he just drove away. We tried to get out money back and ultimately got about 40% of it back, I think. We had to call the groom’s brother to come back and pick us up and take us to the reception. It was really stressful and we barely made it to our own reception on time. And then our unity candle got lost.

Post # 46
686 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Legallyblondiebride:  We had a couple of things “go wrong,” but nothing big and everything honestly worked out fine – we loved it!

1. My hair/makeup lady ran an hour late and dug into our pre-wedding photos BIG TIME (that was the worst thing that happened because it affected the schedule of our whole day, grrr!)

2. I tore my dress literally right before our ceremony. I was going around the corner and the lace got stuck on the corner of the building. It wasn’t bad and I didn’t really give a hoot at the time, but it’s still a little lame.

3. The song that was supposed to play as I walked down the aisle didn’t play (got stuck/froze or something?), so I walked down the aisle in complete silence. Luckily, my brain was so busy concentrating on not falling/tripping/etc. that I had no clue until people told me about it afterward – and then it was funny because I legitimately had NO CLUE that there wasn’t any music playing.

4. The venue magically “lost” most of the items we’d brought with us for the reception…. like 400 votive holders + candles for example (which were expensive and we wanted to sell after the wedding, which I’m sure one of the venue employees must have done… jerks!). Also, the venue staff was supposed to help load gifts/etc. into the designated cars after the wedding (as per our rental contract) and all of the staff ‘disappeared,’ leaving my in-law’s to take care of everything (my parents were quite inebriated and weren’t much help :-/ oops).  

5. The guests ended up staying 1.5hrs later than they were supposed to. We had our last dance and were supposed to make a limo departure right after, but we got stuck talking to family and friends for nearly 2 hours after the dance (1.5hrs past our venue rental time). Luckily, we weren’t charged for it by the venue or our driver, but that could’ve been a bad situation.

Nothing really “big” happened, but the hair/makeup person running late really messed things up, so make sure to account for that (not that I didn’t, but I definitely didn’t account for enough ‘oops’ time in advance). Also, the guests tend to not notice things going wrong as much as the people who have planned the entire day, so try not to worry ๐Ÿ™‚


EDIT: Oh, one funny thing that “went wrong” was the fact that our DJ accidentally mis-worded and skipped around part of our introduction at the reception and the end result turned into a sort of sexual innuendo! That was more hilarious than anything, but I don’t think my uber-conservative grandparents appreciated it ๐Ÿ˜‰

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