(Closed) Married Bees: What went wrong at your wedding?

posted 9 years ago in Married Life
Post # 111
110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Our caterers cut our wedding cake up before I’d seen it and before we’d cut it. We walked over to it with the photographer to take the cake cutting photo and there was my 3 teir cake, all chopped up into peices for guests……. When we mentioned this slight issue to the caterer he almost cried he was so apologetic. Apparently in 15yrs he’s never made such a big mistake.

TBH I wasn’t that fussed but did mean people were a little confused about when the buffett was open for the evening. Also my Aunt had made the cake and so it should of been photographed for her sake.

If thats the only problem with my wedding day – I am very very blessed!! πŸ™‚

Post # 112
8878 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Only a couple, I did stress a little about them on the wedding day..  but looking back it was no big deal

1. Our slideshow pictures were out of order
2. One of the songs we had downloaded was a bad version (it cut off too early) but we just laughed it off
3. I forgot my extra hand-made photo booth decorations
4. The curls in my hair fell out from the humidity (still upset about that but not much I could do)

Post # 113
894 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

1) One of the bathroom stalls in the ladies restroom wouldn’t flush, the urinal in the mens restroom was overflowing and a table was broken. These issues were resolved before the reception but still.

2) We had a friendor for our cake and when she delivered it it looked horrible and the icing fell off one side completely and she just filled it in with more icing. We faced that side away from the guests and it was lopsided.

3) Our church ceremony started 30minutes late.

4) I ugly cried walking down the aisle lol

5) Our DJ didn’t download any of the songs we requested so our dance started 1hr later because he was downloading them on his phone off of youtube.

I’m sure there were much more things that went wrong but I cant think of any more right now.

Post # 114
185 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Overall our wedding was amazing and everyone said they had the best time, but a few things did go wrong…

  • It rained ALL day! We were supossed to have an outdoor ceremony. We ended up delaying the wedding for about an hour. The rain would stop long enough for us to think we would be able to still have the ceremony outside and then start again! πŸ™
  • My husbands sister had been a pain in our ass for about 6 months… She was supossed to be IN the wedding but ended up leaving her dress (that I paid for…) at alterations and dropped out of the wedding the week before! She caused A TON of drama that I won’t even get into…. but ended up showing up at the wedding reception, causing a scene and literally “peeling out” of the parkinglot.
  • Our DJ didn’t have one of our songs and played something completely different as we walked out of the ceremony. πŸ™

Other than that everything was great! My split family even managed to get along through out the whole day!! πŸ™‚

Post # 115
1083 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

All and all it was the perfect day and I’m married to the love of my life. Although there was a few little things

-Only three people signed the guest book. I made these cute little hearts that I was gonna frame after. sigh. Although my husbands exstraged uncle decided to write a couple dozon rude message ones. 

-We didn’t get all the family pictures we want cause people kept disapearing inside while waiting their turn. Also missed out on a great shot with Hubby’s car cause one women who worked there would not move her car, and it started raining. 



Post # 116
493 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My IL’s were an hour and 15 minutes late for the ceremony and 30% chance of rain turned into torrential downpours and tornado warnings. Thanks to the new emergency alert texts I recieved these warnings as I sat in the limo waiting for said IL’s. 

Post # 117
38 posts
  • Wedding: August 2011

One of my bridesmaids just didn’t show up. Still haven’t gotten an explanation for it either. When she did finally show (not to the rehearsal or before the wedding, but in the MIDDLE of it), she clomped down the aisle (big shoes on a wood deck) during our ceremony and joined everyone like she had never been missing. I was livid. But I kept a smile on my face, let her joing pictures, and treated her well all evening. Since then we don’t really talk though. If you want details, you can read my blog post about it. She was responsible for several items. Luckily my husband didn’t trust her so we had backups of most things. 


Post # 118
494 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

So our weddng was definitely amazing and a blast, and I wouldn’t change a thing. Our guests especially enjoyed the photobooth, ice cream truck, open bar, and the venue.

We got lots of “wedding of the year” comments, so I know I’m the only one that noticed when anything went wrong, which in the scheme of things, was almost nothing. Almost.

1. We had no ceremony music. The guitarist and singer we hired said he got his dates mixed up, and when my hubby called him 15 minutes after our ceremony was set to start, he said he would be there in 8. We waited 15 more minutes and still no musician.  At that point our priest said we had to start, so he basically chanted during our ceremony. I was slightly bummed only because I didn’t get to walk in with that whole wedding march song, but even without music, the feeling and love that was present during our ceremony was palpable. And at the end, our wedding party started humming the wedding song when we walked out and it was totally spontaneous, hilarious, and unforgettable. Note: this was one of only TWO things I left for my husband to do for the wedding. He was responsible for the tuxes and the ceremony music, so he does feel guilty about it, even though it was totally the music guy’s fault.  And our families are all a bunch of musicians too, I sing, my dad and his brothers play in a band, the hubby’s cousin and brother also play, and so do a bunch of my cousins. But we had no instruments and no plan B.

2. The venue did not include the “au jus” for our tri tip steak, so it was super dry.

3. I did not wear a bra under my dress because when I tried it on, it didn’t need one and the seamstress said it would be OK, but as the hours wore on, I definitely needed one – so thank goodness one of my bridesmaids volunteered her bra (she has implants!), so I felt much better during the reception.

4. One of my bridesmaid’s forgot her necklace at home and all of my bridesmaid’s were supposed to wear matching necklaces, so out of 10 bridesmaids, she is the only one that is missing a necklace. She found it later in her car, so for the reception she wore it, but this was after we had taken the pro pics.

5. The hubby stepped on my dress and ripped a portion of it along the hem right after the ceremony. My dress is all tullle, so it didn’t take much to rip it, but because it is tulle, it wasn’t noticeable either.

6. And, we had about 8 no-shows that had RSVP’d but did not show up. Only 2 of those advised us beforehand (only 2 days before, but still). I already un-friended one of them.


Overall, we both had said that inevitably something was going to go wrong, and there would be nothing we could do about it. So, we knew and we were OK with it. In comparison to what could have gone wrong, the day was pretty perfect for us and all the things I worked months and months on for the reception went pretty damn well. Can’t wait to get our pro pics and video back πŸ™‚


Post # 119
1038 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

The major thing with us for our destination wedding was his parents.  They were supposed to fly into Florida from AZ the Thursday before the wedding. His mom has motion sickness issues and, even though she took over the counter stuff before the flight, got violently ill the flight from PHX to Houston…so bad that medics had to wheel her off the plane in a wheelchair.  So they obviously didn’t make their connecting flight to FL(but their luggage did). Because she was so sick they ended up not flying in until HOURS before our ceremony on Saturday(they were able to take a cab while in Houston to see a doctor to get some prescription meds for her motion sickness so she could fly to FL).  So from late Thursday night until like 15 minutes before the ceremony…I had to have this worry in the back of my head that his parents wouldn’t be there and that my groom would be so crushed and therefore not happy on our wedding day.  They ended up making it there like 10 minutes before we started and we had a beautiful beach wedding. If anything….it put  all the minor things into perspective and I just didn’t care as much as I would have before.



Minor things…


1)Sand dollars on all the table on the pavillion for our outdoor reception kept blowing off cause of the wind

2)When I went to wrap my grandmother’s rosary around the base of my bouquet, part of it broke off and I was frantically trying to safety pin it moments before walking down the aisle.  It ended up falling off sometime while my sister was holding my bouquet into the sand and luckily I was able to find it.

3)Forgot to put my engagement ring back onto my left hand immediately after ceremony(was wearing it on right hand) so for many of our pro pics of our hands together…it is just my curved wedding band that you see(the band that fits perfectly with my engagement ring)

4)Candles in centerpieces wouldn’t stay lit

5)During my father/daughter dance someone told my husband he was supposed to dance with his mom so he started dancing with her as well(even though we had a separate mother/son song picked out to play next)

6)We did the whole ipod dj and used a wedding app and had my brother in charge of it…it started acting up towards end of night so he ended up just playing songs off my ipod (which was fine, at that point I didn’t care at all I was having so much fun with my guests)

7)While taking our pro pics on the beach after the ceremony my bracelet caught on my chiffon dress and snagged it a lil but I was able to smooth it out.  I got upset for like 5 seconds but then was just like “who cares, I’m only wearing this dress once and noone can see the snag”

8)We should have done the bouquet toss and garter toss sooner so his parents could have seen it(they didn’t stay for entire reception)

9)I had a picture of my grandparents on my wedding day in a beautiful frame that I wanted displayed on the head table with us as a way to honor them. The wind kept knocking the frame down so we had to just place frame flat on table




All if all…it was a beautiful ceremony and things went great.  We had amazing friends and family that helped us set up and take down everything, all of our vendors were absolutely amazing, the weather was perfect, everyone had a great time. I really can not complain.  I knew there would be things that didn’t go as planned.  I consider myself very blessed that it wasn’t anything serious.  I wish I could have enjoyed the whole getting ready before the ceremony more without worrying about his parents but I still had a wonderful day that I will never forget.  Me and my husband were both really pleased with how everything ended up turning out that day. 

Post # 120
235 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

oh god, these stories are giving me anxiety for my day!! LOL

Post # 121
605 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Brazil Room

Man, my first wedding was disaster city… Before the wedding was pretty bad too…

1) I found out a month or so (maybe less?) before the wedding that the woman who took our deposit for the reception area stole it and never booked us. Luckily we were off-season and our date was still available. I heard she was arrested.

2) My Mother-In-Law agreed to pay for the flowers, but would only get flowers from Costco and didn’t want to get anything I wanted (I always had dreamed of Sunflowers and Stephanotis… but ended up with whatever she grabbed the day of)

3) My sister is a complete a total A-hole and her and her husband threw a FIT in the middle of David’s Bridal (yes, she is older than me) because I wanted her to order a size up on her bridesmaid dress because she looked liked she was being squeezed to death in it. They start cussing me out in the store and ordered the smaller size behind my back (I had to go to war to get her to wear a bra too and in most of my pictures her strap is down). In a different appointment, my other bridesmaid was mad because the color of the dress wasn’t to her liking (she wanted red and would accept nothing else).

4) No bachelorette party.. and nothing special the night before the wedding with my bridal party. They just went to bed early and I painted my toes by myself.

Then DURING my wedding:

1) My sister’s kids were my flower girls and my sister’s husband laughed and laughed as the kids ran circles around me and my husband WHILE we were saying our vows.

2) My sister’s husband got into a fight with my DOC because he wanted to shoot video and she was trying to make sure the photographer had clear shots of the day

3) People just plain didn’t show up. Like nearly a quarter of my guest list

4) People opened my favor boxes and then left them there on the table.

5) The DJ only played about 1 song out of our carefully selected list we gave him

6) My sister bitched to me about the hairstylist burning her daughter’s hair (complain to me later!!.. ugh!)

7) My makeup and hair were NOTHING like my trial runs and were awful

8) The priest pronounced my name wrong the whole time

9) No nookie on my wedding night… he just wanted to go to sleep πŸ™

10) The person we hired to play piano for me walking down the aisle (recommended by the church btw) was TERRIBLE and kept missing notes

But aside from ALL of that… it was still a really fun wedding and I got over just about all of it (except I’ve never liked my sister… so that’s not new). I only included her in my wedding because she said if I didn’t that she would never let me see my nieces again for the rest of my life. I’m divorced now… and my chance for an encore with a new man is just around the corner. My tastes have changed drastically over all these years… so we’ll see how I deal with this craziness a 2nd time through!

Post # 122
2206 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I feel like nothing went wrong at all but now that I actually think about it a few really minor things did and A LOT happened the WEEK BEFORE the wedding.

1. Our 2 year old ring bearer broke his elbow the DAY BEFORE, we had to cut a hole in his tux so his cast would fit

2. My aunt had an emergency hysterectomy and her and my uncle couldn’t make it to the wedding, we later found out she has ovarian cancer πŸ™

3. A relative passed away on my husband’s side 3 days before, so we had to travel 5 hours to go to a funeral 3 days before the wedding

4. Men’s Wearhouse totally screwed up my husbands measurements, THANK GOD I went with him to try on his tux so they could re-order it in the correct size

5. One of our groomsmen’s (DH’s best friend) grandma passed away 5 days before


At the actual wedding our band seemed to forget the lyrics to our first dance for the first 30 seconds we were just dancing to instrumental but it wasn’t that bad they eventually got it.

I had these cute little dessert signs made on etsy for our dessert buffet and was told they couldn’t be used because the desserts were going so fast…? Still not sure why that happened.

I had flip flop baskets for our guests and they ended up thrown on a table somewhere (also totally underestimated how much of a hit this was going to be, ALL sizes were gone within like 10 minutes)

We got married in Chicago the same day as the air and water show so there was crazy traffic going to photo locations.

My husband stepped on my bustle and broke it twice while dancing! haha oh well my coordinator fixed it in like 2 minutes flat!

I honestly didn’t even realize any of those until after I really thought about it though, it really was the best day of our lives!!

Post # 123
9 posts
  • Wedding: October 2012

Welll here’s my list: 

Pre wedding huge drama with all my family members…including my MOTHER’S HAIR FALLING OUT! I insisted on a wig, since she’d had gorgeous hair in April…she blames the hair color change…I’m not sure I believe her. 

The seating and ushering arrangements were screwed up. 

Ceremony–the videographer put a mic on my groom (which I’m still not sure if he’ll charge us for) and we got stuck together after the kiss. The beading on my dress + hook loop. 

My officiant thought I was done and cut off part of my vows. I kept talking anyway. >:-) 

You can see it here: http://www.ustream.tv/channel/oklahoma-wedding-videography

The flower lady screwed up the flowers–changed everything in the last email, and stupid me, I thought since the previous 5 emails had gone fine, she’d keep the mini callas for the men and sweetheart rose corsage for the moms. 

The DJ played the wrong first dance song.

The CAKE!? OMG. It was supposed to be a steampunk space shuttle. Airbrushed wood with metallic trim, a few gears, right? It looked like a copper penis with toy shuttle fins. I sent her 3 pictures with detailed instructions on how I wanted it to look–it was supposed to be a showstopper!

My dad showed up late with my dress, my sister/I forgot to put the camera/tripod out for the fauxtobooth, I had major boobage randomly in my dress (I’d never had that before…I’m not very endowed) 

The front of my dress was the right length, but the sides were too long, so I spent the dance part of the night sliding on the beads and hem. 

It was, in my father’s words, “A complete clusterf*ck” after we left, as the florist had bought glassware that was supposed to be included in my inclusive package, my bridesmaids got into a nasty fight and my step sister left immediately and packed up her stuff and was just gone… 


The GOOD STUFF: We got some cute photos, we danced, the food was good, music was good, everyone was dancing and taking photos in the fauxtobooth, we had plenty of wine and food. We are MARRIED! πŸ™‚ 


Post # 124
1355 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Nothing really horrible happened at ours, and no AWOL or crazy vendors. There were a few haha things that went wrong, though:

  1. The ceiling in our ballroom was kind of low, and when I was tossing the bouquet, I lobbed it almost straight up in the air. It hit the ceiling, rebounded, and hit me in the head. Luckily, the second toss I remembered to toss it straight behind me!
  2. When we were taking photos, the photographer was directing us to do a very low dip move, and one of my boobs slipped right out of my dress. Luckily, I only flashed my husband and the photographer, but that was the end of the dip moves.
  3. I wish I had reminded the groom that I was wearing a poofy dress and very tall heels, which means I had to walk more slowly than usual. He has a big stride and tried to go into the ballroom for our introduction at his normal pace…I very nearly tripped on my dress, but luckily he notice people at the table next to us reacting to my tottering and stopped for a second so I could catch up.

A couple things that could have been bad if we hadn’t been prepared:

  1. The main button on the groom’s suit jacket came off during groomsmen photos. Luckily, we had a sewing kit, and my Mother-In-Law rushed off to fix it. I also used the toothbrush and floss and the cough medicine in our emergency kit.
  2. I brought silver, platform flip flops for the reception. When I took off my 4″ heels for the first time, I realized that my toes had almost no circulation the entire day, and they really hurt once I got feeling back. I would have never had as much fun dancing and mingling without a change of shoes for the end of the reception.
  3. I didn’t get a chance to speak to our musicians at all, so I was really glad I had mailed final payments due the day of the wedding the week prior instead of bringing checks with me to the wedding. Otherwise, we could have had musicians stalling to play because they hadn’t gotten a payment from me, and it could have delayed the ceremony.
  4. I printed timelines and contact lists for everyone and gave them to everyone at the rehearsal. Then I made everyone promise not to bug me or the groom on the wedding day. Everyone knew where they were supposed to be and when, and everyone was in contact with everyone else, so we got to be very stress-free.

Post # 125
588 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@anemonie:  The same thing happened to me with the toss. The DJ said “Up not back” so I did and it hit the ceiling and landed on me. Got it right the second time. Husband laughed so hard at me but then when he went to toss the garter he did the same thing!!!! We are made for each other!

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