(Closed) married bees! what would you change at your wedding if you could go back in time

posted 5 years ago in Beehive
Post # 16
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6107 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

 

I probably would have chosen another venue. Don’t get me wrong, the one we had was beautiful and I loved it but it went through some legal troubles before our wedding and I feel like that had an impact on our wedding. There was another venue that was closer and just as beautiful but I didn’t know it existed until it was too late.

I would have done family pictures with only parents and grandparents. I have way too many step-siblings and it just caused it to take too long. If it hadn’t taken so long I could have gotten more pictures with just my husband. Unfortunately there are only about 4 pictures of just my husband and me that I really like simply because there aren’t that many of just us.

Post # 17
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10687 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Have a different officiant!  The yahoo that dh hired refused to allow music.  It was awful.  I had to walk down the aisle, get married & back up the aisle in dead silence.  I HATED it.  I HATE that guy.  I HATE that dh let him get away with that.

Ok, rant over.

Post # 18
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714 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would have hired a DOC… I had a small destination wedding (San Francisco from Canada) and I planned everything myself. So on the day of I was either busy directing people, or they didn’t really know what to do.

I also would have had a rehersal. We got married at City Hall so we didn’t do one, but I wish that I had even just gone and practiced walking or something.

I would have not worn the corset under my dress. The slippery fabric made my dress slip down and so you can see it in a lot of photos.

Lastly I would have made more of an effort to spend time with my best friend. As I said, I was busy running the show. But looking back I wish that she and I had had some time sitting in my hotel suit catching up, and I wish that after the ceremony I hugged her and hung out with her a bit. She put in a lot of effort to come and I wish that I had acknowledged that better.

Post # 19
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11520 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

sarahquinn:  I would have made an announcement about our guestbook/poster.  A lot of people didn’t sign it and tha tbums me out.

I would have made sure to get more pictures of me and my guests.  I made the mistake of assuming these would just happen – I always get pictures with the bride at weddings – This didn’t happen and that bums me out a little.

 

Post # 20
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8482 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

I’d have looked for a different officiant. You know, one that might actually show up. (I know I’ve posted about my no-show officiant many times, but I’m still pissed off about it 😛 )

And I would have invited some people that I didnt invite, and not invited some people that I did invite. Also, on the subject of invitations, we found out after our wedding that we actually forgot to give several people theirs. Oops. So I would make sure that I got those out. 

Post # 21
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8482 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

sassy411:  That is so weird! O.o 

It was your wedding! I’d have had them play music anyways. 

Post # 22
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6526 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

sarahquinn:  if i could do it all over again, i would have changed my BMs. Its only been a year and already I don’t speak to two of them. I had 4, 1 was my sister (MOH) 1 was my SIL – so i guaranteed to speak to them for the rest of my life but the other two really showed me their true colors. If I had known what I know now, I would have cut them out of my life sooner. 

Post # 23
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4892 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I would have invited more people (friends). Our parents helped pay for our guests food, and my parents freaked out about price right away (thinking everything was WAY more expensive than it really was), so I limited the number of friends to invite so I wouldn’t stress them out more. Granted, everyone important to me was invited but I know I missed a few.

I would have made a comment to my SIL about not complaining so much about the weather and how cold it was. Yes, it was 46 degrees outside, and yes the wind didn’t help either – we did all pictures and had the ceremony outside. I was outside the ENTIRE time, and she got to go sit in a car for 20 minutes while it was just Darling Husband and the Groomsmen taking pictures (I did wear a coat). I made it through, because I was happy to… but it made for a long day with the complaining. She was the only one.

Would have been able to chat with guests more. My college group of friends disappeared during the night, and I only got a chance to stop by the table they were all at once (along with another good friend that was there with her FI). But, also… they could have stayed longer and danced, and that would have helped too.

IDK, the day flew and I was very laid back from the beginning of planning – and everything turned out how I wanted it to.

Post # 24
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Buzzing bee

I would not change ONE THING, not even the altar flowers which were a mess, nor Darling Husband shaving off his beard the morning of the wedding and looking so young that I looked old enough to be his mother, nor the Church being ice cold!

Every little memory is cherished! 

Post # 25
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5154 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

My wedding day was basically perfect – there is nothing I would change about that!

I would, however, change who I had in my bridal party. If I had known how she would behave at all pre-wedding and wedding events, I never would have felt like I had to ask my sister-in-law (husbands sister). I would have told him to choose 2 guys, I would have chosen 2 girls, and we would have called it a day. (He had 9 and I had 7).  

Post # 26
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622 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

i would have gotten a different photographer. ours was crap and we had some legal battles afterward about editing and the photo album. our pictures are “fine” but no where near great.

 

i also might have gotten a different dress. again, it was fine and did what it needed to do, but i didn’t feel GREAT about it.

Post # 27
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4698 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I wish I ate more. I just wasn’t hungry and the food was amazing.

Post # 28
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2350 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would have added another hour or so onto photography and made a point to tell the photographer I wanted to get into the dress way earlier than 5 minutes before the ceremony. My expectation was to put the dress on at least a half an hour before so I could primp and get aisle ready but I figured she would come around in plenty of time to photograph. Finally about 5 minutes til the ceremony started she came into photograph me and there was no time to primp. I blame myself mostly but also feel like it was my planners (and photographers too) job to make sure she advised me with a realistic time table, which she did for the most part. Also would have made sure the photographer got a formal shot of the back of the dress. I dunno, they just tell u to relax and trust them because they do this for a living and they know all the things to do. Oh well.

 

Post # 29
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528 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Not married yet but I saw this post today and was touched by it.  Its about a bride who got caught up in details, only to realise afterwards that in the grand scheme of things, details are not so important

#sharethehonestlove is the hashtag and its viral right now

http://www.lovemydress.net/blog/2014/10/share-the-honest-love.html

 

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