(Closed) married bees! what would you change at your wedding if you could go back in time

posted 5 years ago in Beehive
Post # 31
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Buzzing bee

sarahquinn:  What would I change?

I would actually have a wedding!

We eloped. Long story but we did not live together prior to marriage, and we had only two weeks vacation to move my entire apartment to his house and unpack.

 

We couldn’t start moving my things before the wedding because in the months leading up to it, he was doing major renovations to the house we were going to move into.

My work schedule was insane at the time, and he had his hands full with his career as well as his elderly mother whose health was declining. 

With all of that going on, I couldn’t wrap my head around planning a wedding. 

 

Maybe one of these days we will do a vows renewal and I’ll get a dress — maybe for a destination anniversary getaway of some sort. But I don’t know. 

I’m just grateful that we got married and that we’re together! We’re celebrating our third wedding anniversary, and five years together as a couple, this Christmas season. Can’t wait. ; )

Post # 32
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I wish I ate more than one taco for dinner! We had an amazing taco cart and my coordinator brought us plates of food but in all the melee I only got to enjoy one. My husband too! And we were really looking forward to grubbin’ 

Post # 34
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

allyfally:  

Had I known what was going on, I would have insisted!

Post # 35
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

sarahquinn:  I was married in September as well. I had some wrapped candy left over and gave it to my Mother-In-Law to give out at halloween (we live in an apartment and we don’t get as many kids as they do plus both my husband and I worked this year). We had a TON of candy though and there wasn’t a whole lot left over. I probably would have scaled back on the number of types of candies.  I also think I would have changed my decorator. Don’t get me wrong a wedding isn’t about decor but she changed everything on me and didn’t turned out how I woulda liked things but everyone else said how much they liked it so I can’t complain too much! I told her my vision, my colours, picked out my centre pieces but my head table looked nothing that I described, centrepieces were changed and I think the only things that stayed the same was the table cloths and chair covers (she didn’t provide the chair covers or napkins so those didn’t change as they were provided by the venue). Other than that I believe we had an amazing day, almost everything went smoothly but I’ll be doing a recap when I get my photos back tomorrow from my photographers.

Post # 36
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

sarahquinn:  I would’ve timed the getting ready part a little better.  The ceremony wasn’t until 6pm and we were scheduled to have first look photos at 4:30pm.  I had the most relaxing day and really enjoyed hanging out with my bridesmaids, event manager, and the hair and makeup artists. For whatever reason, time got away from us and at around 4pm, I was still in the middle of getting my hair and makeup done, and one of my bridesmaids still needed her hair done too.  We ran about 1/2 hour behind schedule for the first look photos, which wasn’t too bad but I didn’t enjoy feeling rushed.

I also would’ve hired a different DJ.  We hired him since he was a friend of a friend of my mom’s and she was adamant about using him.  Communication with him was limited and I didn’t actually meet him in person until a week before the wedding.  I let it go since he was super cheap and trusted my mom’s judgement that he was a good DJ.  Wrong!  He interrupted our vows not once, but twice because he wanted to make sure we were speaking into the mic.  He also set up a karaoke station at the reception when I asked him not to, didn’t play music in between certain events, and was way too boisterous with his MC-ing that made some situations a bit awkward.

I wish I could’ve ate more too, but I was so happy and excited that I just wasn’t hungry.  Guests were raving about the food though, so I’m glad they enjoyed it. 

Post # 37
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Waldorf Astoria, Chicago

Using my photo-booth more!!  I only took photos with one friend, my husband and the ring bearer and flower girl.  I wish I had gotten more photos in there…the guests used it all night, but my Husband and I never made it back there enough πŸ™ 

Post # 38
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

What would I change if I could go back in time? Honestly, nothing. No wait, not true. I would fix up my bangs before or during our reception because looking at pictures I wish someone had handed me a brush lol.

Do I wish a couple things had worked out differently? Yes. But the lawn games, bevvies and snacks I had planned for cocktail hour didn’t happen simply because the weather turned bad. The wind picked up so we decided to move our outdoor gazebo ceremony inside. It proceeded to not only pour rain but hail as well so no one could get over to the reception site and pick them up. My wedding party and family raced around to pull together a beautiful reception space with only the items on hand and limited time. Was I extremely fortunate we had such a good group of people supporting us? Absolutely. But honestly, it’s about your attitude. It didn’t phase me when we had to move inside even though I hadn’t planned much of anything for Plan B – a machine shed. I wasn’t concerned about the mud on my dress from trying to escape the rain (it almost gave my mother a heart attack but wiped off easily enough) or any number of other small things that are unavoidable no mather how much time and effort you put into planning.

I knew going into it that day that whatever happened, all that mattered was that we got married. I was in it for the marriage, the wedding was a bonus. The good, the bad, it all just becomes part of your story. I knew I had put my best effort into preparing everything and I wanted to enjoy every moment, not be stressed. In the end, I did thoroughly enjoy the day and didn’t feel like it raced by, as I was warned many times that it would. Before my photographer left, his assistant told me I should write a book on how to be an enjoyable bride. That was the best compliment I could have gotten, along with people appreciating how personal our wedding was. 

Post # 39
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

1.  DH and I built a photo booth, and completely forgot about taking any pictures in it during the reception. 

2.  My pictures were nice, but I wish I had photographers that gave everyone more direction and took more pics of the details.  I have no pictures of my tables, candy bar, head table, or cocktail hour.

3.  I didn’t do bridal portraits beforehand, thinking I’d have time to get a few shots in the day of.  Completely slipped my mind after the ceremony, and like I said, my photographers apparently hadn’t a clue what they were doing.   

Post # 40
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

sarahquinn:  There are a few things I wished I had done differently for the wedding but they were really minor. My two biggest regrets are: I do wish I spent more time with my guests, especially those who came from far away, and that I had insisted that the DJ played some slower songs that I picked out. He only played 2 slow songs then moved straight to hip hop and dance-y music, which wasn’t too bad because the dance floor was packed the whole time, but everytime I hear a song on my list I get mad thinking “I could’ve danced to this song at my wedding” lol.

Post # 41
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Honestly, I can’t think of anything major (or even minor). For the pre-wedding events, there are a few things I’d change, such as having my welcome party professionally planned and catered rather than leaving it in the hands of my bridal party and relatives, lol. For the wedding itself, there are little nit-picky things such as I didn’t buy quite enough rose petals but overall, my wedding was beautiful and my marriage is happy and I don’t waste energy worrying about what I would change. 

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