Post # 31
sarahquinn: What would I change?
I would actually have a wedding!
We eloped. Long story but we did not live together prior to marriage, and we had only two weeks vacation to move my entire apartment to his house and unpack.
We couldn’t start moving my things before the wedding because in the months leading up to it, he was doing major renovations to the house we were going to move into.
My work schedule was insane at the time, and he had his hands full with his career as well as his elderly mother whose health was declining.
With all of that going on, I couldn’t wrap my head around planning a wedding.
Maybe one of these days we will do a vows renewal and I’ll get a dress — maybe for a destination anniversary getaway of some sort. But I don’t know.
I’m just grateful that we got married and that we’re together! We’re celebrating our third wedding anniversary, and five years together as a couple, this Christmas season. Can’t wait. ; )
Post # 32
I wish I ate more than one taco for dinner! We had an amazing taco cart and my coordinator brought us plates of food but in all the melee I only got to enjoy one. My husband too! And we were really looking forward to grubbin’
Post # 33
sassy411: we are looking for an officiant and I worry that we will hire some unreasonable person. I hear a lot of rules from other friends. Like no photos, or they don’t want to do a bilingual ceremony (when they are bilingual), or they want to approve everything about the ceremony. What divas, I’ll just hire someone else.
AllieBee12: the great thing is my SIL is a really good boss and coordinator at her job, she’s very outgoing and organized. She’ll be my unofficial DOC and I know she’ll rock it!
MsGinkgo: that’s my fear too about the guest book. I went to a wedding in may where I remembered while i was eating that I didn’t sign the book. So I got up and brought it back to the table and saw NO ONE had signed it! I started passing it to each table so I know they got a good chunk of people to sign their book, but because of that I’m appointing a friend to make sure people sign!
ann.reid.9277: I really like your take on it, despite the bad things it’s still part of your wedding story 🙂
meggyo: I ran into some problems with a photographer before signing a contract, so you better believe we didn’t go with him. Now I’m paranoid that we have to be really careful about who we choose Because it’s a big decision!
Post # 34
Had I known what was going on, I would have insisted!
Post # 35
sarahquinn: I was married in September as well. I had some wrapped candy left over and gave it to my Mother-In-Law to give out at halloween (we live in an apartment and we don’t get as many kids as they do plus both my husband and I worked this year). We had a TON of candy though and there wasn’t a whole lot left over. I probably would have scaled back on the number of types of candies. I also think I would have changed my decorator. Don’t get me wrong a wedding isn’t about decor but she changed everything on me and didn’t turned out how I woulda liked things but everyone else said how much they liked it so I can’t complain too much! I told her my vision, my colours, picked out my centre pieces but my head table looked nothing that I described, centrepieces were changed and I think the only things that stayed the same was the table cloths and chair covers (she didn’t provide the chair covers or napkins so those didn’t change as they were provided by the venue). Other than that I believe we had an amazing day, almost everything went smoothly but I’ll be doing a recap when I get my photos back tomorrow from my photographers.
Post # 36
sarahquinn: I would’ve timed the getting ready part a little better. The ceremony wasn’t until 6pm and we were scheduled to have first look photos at 4:30pm. I had the most relaxing day and really enjoyed hanging out with my bridesmaids, event manager, and the hair and makeup artists. For whatever reason, time got away from us and at around 4pm, I was still in the middle of getting my hair and makeup done, and one of my bridesmaids still needed her hair done too. We ran about 1/2 hour behind schedule for the first look photos, which wasn’t too bad but I didn’t enjoy feeling rushed.
I also would’ve hired a different DJ. We hired him since he was a friend of a friend of my mom’s and she was adamant about using him. Communication with him was limited and I didn’t actually meet him in person until a week before the wedding. I let it go since he was super cheap and trusted my mom’s judgement that he was a good DJ. Wrong! He interrupted our vows not once, but twice because he wanted to make sure we were speaking into the mic. He also set up a karaoke station at the reception when I asked him not to, didn’t play music in between certain events, and was way too boisterous with his MC-ing that made some situations a bit awkward.
I wish I could’ve ate more too, but I was so happy and excited that I just wasn’t hungry. Guests were raving about the food though, so I’m glad they enjoyed it.
Post # 37
- Wedding: September 2014 - Waldorf Astoria, Chicago
Using my photo-booth more!! I only took photos with one friend, my husband and the ring bearer and flower girl. I wish I had gotten more photos in there…the guests used it all night, but my Husband and I never made it back there enough 🙁
Post # 38
What would I change if I could go back in time? Honestly, nothing. No wait, not true. I would fix up my bangs before or during our reception because looking at pictures I wish someone had handed me a brush lol.
Do I wish a couple things had worked out differently? Yes. But the lawn games, bevvies and snacks I had planned for cocktail hour didn’t happen simply because the weather turned bad. The wind picked up so we decided to move our outdoor gazebo ceremony inside. It proceeded to not only pour rain but hail as well so no one could get over to the reception site and pick them up. My wedding party and family raced around to pull together a beautiful reception space with only the items on hand and limited time. Was I extremely fortunate we had such a good group of people supporting us? Absolutely. But honestly, it’s about your attitude. It didn’t phase me when we had to move inside even though I hadn’t planned much of anything for Plan B – a machine shed. I wasn’t concerned about the mud on my dress from trying to escape the rain (it almost gave my mother a heart attack but wiped off easily enough) or any number of other small things that are unavoidable no mather how much time and effort you put into planning.
I knew going into it that day that whatever happened, all that mattered was that we got married. I was in it for the marriage, the wedding was a bonus. The good, the bad, it all just becomes part of your story. I knew I had put my best effort into preparing everything and I wanted to enjoy every moment, not be stressed. In the end, I did thoroughly enjoy the day and didn’t feel like it raced by, as I was warned many times that it would. Before my photographer left, his assistant told me I should write a book on how to be an enjoyable bride. That was the best compliment I could have gotten, along with people appreciating how personal our wedding was.
Post # 39
1. DH and I built a photo booth, and completely forgot about taking any pictures in it during the reception.
2. My pictures were nice, but I wish I had photographers that gave everyone more direction and took more pics of the details. I have no pictures of my tables, candy bar, head table, or cocktail hour.
3. I didn’t do bridal portraits beforehand, thinking I’d have time to get a few shots in the day of. Completely slipped my mind after the ceremony, and like I said, my photographers apparently hadn’t a clue what they were doing.
Post # 40
sarahquinn: There are a few things I wished I had done differently for the wedding but they were really minor. My two biggest regrets are: I do wish I spent more time with my guests, especially those who came from far away, and that I had insisted that the DJ played some slower songs that I picked out. He only played 2 slow songs then moved straight to hip hop and dance-y music, which wasn’t too bad because the dance floor was packed the whole time, but everytime I hear a song on my list I get mad thinking “I could’ve danced to this song at my wedding” lol.
Post # 41
Honestly, I can’t think of anything major (or even minor). For the pre-wedding events, there are a few things I’d change, such as having my welcome party professionally planned and catered rather than leaving it in the hands of my bridal party and relatives, lol. For the wedding itself, there are little nit-picky things such as I didn’t buy quite enough rose petals but overall, my wedding was beautiful and my marriage is happy and I don’t waste energy worrying about what I would change.
Post # 42
BelliniChic: I understand completely about busy schedules and the stress of planning a wedding. At one point I thought ‘why don’t we just elope and have a really awesome trip!’ But then we thought of the disappointment our families would feel and how we would miss out partying with our close friends. Doing a vow renewal ceremony is a great idea!! I definitely think you should go for it! Your marriage sounds pretty grounded so I don’t think it’ll feel any different, but having a party with people will be a big happiness boost! 🙂
Mez03: that’s amazing you got some use out of your leftover candy too, that’s a bonus! I also get no trick or treaters every year. It’s too bad you had a bad experience with your decorator. That definitely should not have happened. I’m a designer myself and the decor is a big important item on my list, so I would be upset if the decor was done differently than what I wanted. That’s a legit fear of mine!
vip0802: planning a schedule is so tricky to do for the wedding day. No one knows how to time anything, even I have no idea how much time to allocate for each step. I’m sorry you felt so rushed, that definitely pushes your stress up on an already stressful time. There’s so much to worry about with a wedding. I’m sorry you had a dj that interrupted your vows. Good on you for not beating him right there in front of your guests!
K-labree: it does sound a bit chaotic with the weather but thank god for good friends and family to throw together a wonderful plan B! I really loved your post and your story. It’s unique and also has a good message. It’s a positive outlook on what most brides would feel is a disaster. But it’s not really a disaster unless you make it out to be. If each bride had a calm demeanor likeyou, then I think everyone would have a fantastic wedding like you did 🙂
MissCountryGirl727: I worry about photos most of all, but I’m trying to qualm my worries with a must have photo list! Thank you for reminding me 🙂
GrassHouse: I feel like seeing all the guests is a big challenge for most brides. You invite upwards of 100 people and then try to allocate enough time to say hi to each individual. This is something I feel like I can’t do but will try my hardest to try. Hopefully I am able to, but don’t beat yourself up for it. Use your thank you cards to convey the regret to those you missed.
Overjoyed: I find it stressful leaving parties to other people because I’m so detail oriented, but I agree you’d drive yourself crazy if you worry about all the nit picky things. I’m glad you have a very positive outlook on the overall results, because in the end, that’s all that matters right? 🙂