Post # 1
I am married. The event was nearly two weeks ago. We have since gone on our honeymoon, come back, basically finished the thank-you cards, unpacked, and gotten back to life as usual.
But I still have stress dreams. Wedding stress dreams.
You know, the ones where the officiant doesn’t show up, or I can’t find my dress, or all the flowers are dead, or any other variety of nightmare scenarios that every bride fears. But the thing is, THE WEDDING IS OVER AND NONE OF THESE THINGS HAPPENED. WHAT. THE. EFF.
Last night I dreamed that various family members were trapped at the airport, and that my brother and I were drinking at a bar until way late and forgot to go to the ceremony. This nonsense has got to stop!
I know there are some other stressors in my life right now — mainly that we are moving cross-country in a few months so we need to find a house to live in. But why in the hell would this stress manifest itself as stress over an event that has already passed????
Bees married for longer than me, did you continue to have the dreams AFTER the wedding? And if so, for how long after?? I’m hoping that once everything is done — name is changed, checks are deposited in yet-to-be-opened joint account, apartment is completely cleared of wedding craft crap — that they’ll finally stop. But then again, I also thought they’d stop after I got married, and see how well that turned out!
Post # 3
@iarebridezilla: Lord, I am having tons of these now and I am getting married in a month! I sure hope I don’t have post marriage stress dreams! Are you missing all the planning and excitement? I’ve heard of something called “post-wedding depression” and maybe this is something that is a part of that. I hope your dreams start caliming down soon and you get better rest!
Post # 4
Mine stopped after the wedding, and we still need to unpack/write thank yous! My guess is that it’s just the fact that you are stressed in general as lately your brain has just associated stress and the wedding. Hopefully once life settles down they will stop!
Post # 5
@carla_rox: I’m definitely not missing the planning … in fact, I’m so glad it’s all done so I can focus on all the things hanging out on the back burner! (like finding that dang house to live in …). So it’s weird that I’m still dreaming about it!
@Natalieh86: I think you may be right; my brain has forgotten how to be stressed about other things. In the dreams it seems I am having a second wedding, so I think somewhere deep down my brain knows that the wedding is over, but it has decided that that was just some sort of “first” ceremony and the “real” one still has to happen! Stupid brain.
Post # 6
I’m still having them too btw. My wedding went off without many hitches but I stressed so much beforehand. I’m pretty sure I developed wedding ptsd.
Post # 7
@Pocket_Mouse: Haha wedding PTSD … I wonder if I should go tell a psychologist I have that! I’m sure they would take me very seriously 🙂